children in communal changing rooms

j.e.j.

deva wrote: »

In a class of twenty 14 year old boys, most couldn't believe women's bits naturally had hair or that boobs weren't always the same size and stayed upright. Their sole knowledge was from !!!!!!, meaning their expectations for themselves and their partners is badly distorted and associated with looks rather than love.

This is a worrying trend.

But I don't think the answer is to get naked in the shower rooms with strangers. Some people get personal enough when you're fully clothed (!!), there's no way I'd be letting them look at a 'natural naked body'.

poet123

quinechinoise wrote: »

Agree with this sensible post, below. Going to either changing room, on their own, would leave kids with a bunch of strangers. Much better to stay with whichever parent/carer is there.

Not one single person suggested that.

quinechinoise wrote: »

As for the question below...



The OP answered it:



You can't actually use the private/family changing facilities because shy people are hogging them.

If I am correct those cubicles are in the communal area. There is a separate family area with private showers. The OP didn't say they were all taken.

quinechinoise wrote: »

It is also interesting to note that the women frequently strip naked to shower, in front of other adults who are actually sexually aware. That is apparently more "okay" than being naked in front of children, who are just thinking *look, another really old stranger*. I think this is a "logic fail".

Strangers of the same sex though. Not males.

How do you know what they are thinking? Anyway, it isn't all about the child. Women in a womens changing room have the right to feel comfortable and if an 8 year old boy is there many wouldn't. The family facilities exist to get around this, so use them.

~Chameleon~

Our local swimming pool only has ONE large changing room for BOTH male and female bathers. There are a range of cubicles (single/disabled/family)and two enclosed shower cubicles but the rest of the area is communal showers/changing. It's never been a problem as far as I can tell.

lostinrates

~Chameleon~ wrote: »

Our local swimming pool only has ONE large changing room for BOTH male and female bathers. There are a range of cubicles (single/disabled/family)and two enclosed shower cubicles but the rest of the area is communal showers/changing. It's never been a problem as far as I can tell.

It seems a really good solution. Peoe wanting privacy can have it, parents of either sex can have a cubicle with kids of either sex.

I am sure it will make some people uncomfortable though.

j.e.j.

Quizzical_Squirrel wrote: »

So to reverse the sexes, if a father takes his 8 year old daughter swimming, would everyone be happy for her to be (nude) in a room full of strange naked men?

Would she be better off alone but in a room full of strange naked women?

There needs to be a family area for cases like this. It's silly to have this gender difference in the changing rooms when there are families going swimming together, some of whom are too young to be left on their own.

Person_one

j.e.j. wrote: »

There needs to be a family area for cases like this. It's silly to have this gender difference in the changing rooms when there are families going swimming together, some of whom are too young to be left on their own.

At my nearest council pool there are no communal areas at all and no separation by sex.

There are just rows and rows of cubicles of various sizes and the showers are all at the poolside so you do need to keep your costume on.

Its the best setup I've seen, but it was built for the Commonwealth Games so probably had a bigger budget than most!

poet123

I think that is the best idea, everyone gets a cubicle and no family/gender issues.

~Chameleon~

lostinrates wrote: »

It seems a really good solution. Peoe wanting privacy can have it, parents of either sex can have a cubicle with kids of either sex.

I am sure it will make some people uncomfortable though.

Yes, everyone showers whilst wearing bathing costume, otherwise they use a cubicle so no nudity or embarrassment necessary. Excellent large cubicles for entire families to use too, complete with baby changing facilities.

bestpud

jellyhead wrote: »

I hate that :mad:

There are cubicles and family cubicles in our changing rooms, but when people leave their stuff in there, on the bench instead of using a locker it means nobody else can use that room to get ready for the next lesson, or get dried. It's the same people every time. I've taken the notices down - the ones that tell people not to leave their stuff in the cubicles because it's not fair on others - and left the notices on top of the piles of clothes, to no avail.

I've started dumping the clothes in empty lockers now, but it still hasn't stopped them from doing it. I'm considering wetting them next week :rotfl::o

There are no benches or communal areas in which to get changed - if you can't use a cubicle you have to try to do it standing up on the wet floor in front of your locker.

There are lots of empty lockers. If they can't find a pound coin to use a locker (it gets refunded) then surely putting their clothes into an empty one and leaving in unlocked is safer than leaving their stuff in a changing room, then not knowing where to find it once some evil person such as myself has moved it?

I'm afraid I put them on the floor when people do that as there is no need - it's just selfish when they know there is not enough cubicles.

I do the same when people put towels on chairs at poolside cafes and disappear too though.

I'm bolshy, I know! :rotfl:

tesuhoha

Well as an older woman I would do anything not to be seen by anyone and have been known to go into the toilet to change out of my cossie. Also if there is a private shower cubicle you could take your bra and pants in with you and put them on before you come out, then wrap the towel round your waist.

I must admit in the communal changing room I sometimes don't know where to put my eyes.