children in communal changing rooms

notanewuser

skintchick wrote: »

I've not been able to read the whole thread but I just strip off and get changed, even on a beach! Since childbirth I don;t care who sees my body!

I certainly wouldn;t care about 8yo boys in a changing room.

I think we all need to have less hang ups about our bodies. Now I have a daughter I try to model body confidence and be proud of my body.

I'm the opposite way, lol. Couldn't care less before I had DD, still trying to come to terms with the impact she's had on my body.

Georgiegirl256

bestpud wrote: »

Ho hum

This just goes to confirm the childish attitude you have. Totally agree with Person_one, it's totally uncalled for just to dump someone's clothes onto a wet floor. There are ways and means of dealing with the situation that annoys you so much, and your way isn't one of them.

Back to the topic in question, the OP has got a fair point, the family facilities are there for a reason, after a certain age, they should be made to use them.

jellyhead

I noticed this week that the sign on the 'group change' room (one for females, one for males) which has a loo and showers and a communal changing area says opposite sex over the age of 8 aren't allowed in. although it would be easier for us to use that room I wouldn't take him in there with his female friend. There's just no need, we can use the cubicles. I can see why a pool with no cubicles might have an age 8 rule, but if there are plenty of other options for changing without separating the mother from an 8 year old boy then I think the upper limit could be lowered.

My 7 year old is almost as tall as me and he's not a 'little boy' any more. I don't think the teenage girls would want him in there. I don't give a monkeys, but I'm his mum. I change in the same cubicle as him if we're swimming together. I think if I had a larger group of children I could change the littler ones in the group change with me, and send 7 year olds to sort themselves out in cubicles. They manage okay when they swim with school.

moomoomama27

I take my 8 year old son into the changing rooms and ladies toilets with me, if I'm not with hubby. I don't give a monkeys what anyone says, as long as I'm not breaking any rules set, then it's my choice. Ou swimming pools has a cubicle changing room only, and seperate cubicle showers.

I took him into the ladies loos yesterday, as we were at a big even, with 1000s of people. I took him in the cubicle with me, we queued together, went in together and left together. Yet I still had 2 comments about the fact he shouldn't be in there! I had no one else to take him, didn;t know the place, and the mens toilets were heaving and there would be no way I'd send him in alone.

I honestly don't know know why in a toilet, anyone would feel threatened by a small boy queuing up with his mum, using a toilet and leaving. He wasn't trying to look under doors or spy

poet123

moomoomama27 wrote: »

I take my 8 year old son into the changing rooms and ladies toilets with me, if I'm not with hubby. I don't give a monkeys what anyone says, as long as I'm not breaking any rules set, then it's my choice. Ou swimming pools has a cubicle changing room only, and seperate cubicle showers.

I took him into the ladies loos yesterday, as we were at a big even, with 1000s of people. I took him in the cubicle with me, we queued together, went in together and left together. Yet I still had 2 comments about the fact he shouldn't be in there! I had no one else to take him, didn;t know the place, and the mens toilets were heaving and there would be no way I'd send him in alone.

I honestly don't know know why in a toilet, anyone would feel threatened by a small boy queuing up with his mum, using a toilet and leaving. He wasn't trying to look under doors or spy

This might be prurient, but did you use the loo with him there or just accompany him?

valk_scot

jellyhead wrote: »

I can see why a pool with no cubicles might have an age 8 rule, but if there are plenty of other options for changing without separating the mother from an 8 year old boy then I think the upper limit could be lowered.

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I think that's a very good point indeed. Of course it would also depend on other pool users leaving the family rooms for families only to use. As to adults wanting to change in private|? Well, it's all very well saying to just use the family cubicles as a private single but that's not really solving a problem, it's just shuffling it round onto someone else. If the changing room system at the local pool doesn't meet your needs and wants, make sure the management know about it. If enough people complain (politely) and make requests, something might just get done.


Our pool has two communal changing cubicles for groups of ten or less, four family changing rooms clearly marked as such, including a note on each door asking that only families use them and not to leave items in them to "book" the cubicle and about fifty single cubicles, all large enough for an adult and one smaller child. Plus lockers. Showers are poolside.
You'd think this would work well for everyone? No. It's the ever selfish folk that want the big family cubicles for their immediate use when they come out the pool that cause the problem. They leave their kit in the cubicle for an hour or more while thy swim and then get uppity if they find their items have been moved to a locker.

I have been swimming at that pool for nearly fifteen years now, there's a fight of this type every single time I'm there. Why are people so selfish? There are only four family rooms and they're for families, such as one adult with two smaller kids who need helped, or two adults plus kids. And why leave clothes in the cubicles? It's never that busy that there's a queue for cubicles unless two or three of them are "booked"

My own solution when I had two small kids to change was just to shove the left items into a corner of the bench and get on with things. If the person came back wanting to get in then tough, they could wait till I was finished and no, I wasn't going to open the door and give them their kit, I was not dressed. It only happened a few times but really, there was no need for it to happen at all. As to me waiting with kids for a family room and the door opening and a single prson coming out well, I'm not the retiring type, I always said something and if I didn't get a satisfactory answer I'd find a pool attendant and ask them to explain the pool policy to the adult. Fifteen years later, the entitled snowflakes of the world are still making life difficult for the rest of us, despite the perfectly satisfactory and well thought out facilities provided.

As to the original question of eight year old boys in a woman's communal changing area? Well, I'd not feel 100% comfortable but I can do the towel dance as well as anyone so I'd try to keep vaguely covered up in front of them. But if my 11 year old DD was there she'd be mortified, she just about manages to cope with adult naked women in the same room but she'd hate for there to be boys there that she'd be seeing in the school playground the next day. So I suspect me and my big mouth would be asking if the mother could get the boys to wait outside once changed rather than have them hanging about for half an hour or more while the mother chatted. There's just no need for it, really.

moomoomama27

poet123 wrote: »

This might be prurient, but did you use the loo with him there or just accompany him?

I went in the cubicle with him, didn't leave him to wait for me, or me for him.

poet123

moomoomama27 wrote: »

I went in the cubicle with him, didn't leave him to wait for me, or me for him.

I have four sons and beyond toddlerhood have never seen the need to do that.

Dunroamin

skintchick wrote: »

I've not been able to read the whole thread but I just strip off and get changed, even on a beach! Since childbirth I don;t care who sees my body!

I certainly wouldn;t care about 8yo boys in a changing room.

I think we all need to have less hang ups about our bodies. Now I have a daughter I try to model body confidence and be proud of my body.

I think one can be body confident and without hangups and still not want to have strange 8 year old boys peering at you from close quarters.

Person_one

poet123 wrote: »

I have four sons and beyond toddlerhood have never seen the need to do that.

When I visit my parents my mum still goes to the loo with the door wide open and I'm nearly 30! :rotfl: