Savings when seperating- scared I will lose it all

tesuhoha

A lurker here. Have you considered the possibility that if he becomes homeless, he may turn up on your present doorstep? Would you be able to turn him away?

RAS

neneromanova wrote: »

Doesn't matter if it was her consent, what matters is if it was with the landlords/estate agents consent.

If the LL tried to evict twm or her ex NOW on the basis that he is a squatter, the case would fail.

They cannot even start court action until

1. After the end of the fixed term
AND
2. 2 rental months have elapsed since a fully complaint S21 was served (2 calendar months if they issue it within the fixed term).

zzzLazyDaisy

RAS wrote: »

If the LL tried to evict twm or her ex NOW on the basis that he is a squatter, the case would fail.

Added to which, the LL really doesn't have any incentive to serve a S21, or start eviction proceedings. Once the fixed term has ended it will go onto a periodic tenancy unless TWM gives notice.

If she gives notice but then fails to actually vacate the property (which means emptying it of furniture and possessions AND, getting rid of the 'squatter') she will remain liable for the rent....

Eager_Elephant

As you haven't got money to be throwing at your solicitor I think you need to contact Shelter for advice - they offer telephone advice or in some areas hold a housing advice session http://england.shelter.org.uk/get_advice/advice_services_directory

teawithmilk

well he got the divorce petition yesterday., got a long angry email last night which i only found an hour ago as my phone has been switched off. As predicted he is blaming me for everything, says that he has tried his best, he is angry about the grounds for divorce that I have put forward, he says it is weak and that I was obviuosly strggling to find things to make him look bad, he says that the comment about me being a shi# wife was just a "curt" comment. More worryingly for me is that he is saying he found my financial calculations (well he did when i was stupid enough to leave them around) so he has probably got a good idea about me buying a house etc.

just feeling really low today now. . . dont know whether to answer his e mail or not. he says he is considering how he is going to deal with it inlight of the paperwork.

ecgirl07

teawithmilk wrote: »

well he got the divorce petition yesterday., got a long angry email last night which i only found an hour ago as my phone has been switched off. As predicted he is blaming me for everything, says that he has tried his best, he is angry about the grounds for divorce that I have put forward, he says it is weak and that I was obviuosly strggling to find things to make him look bad, he says that the comment about me being a shi# wife was just a "curt" comment. More worryingly for me is that he is saying he found my financial calculations (well he did when i was stupid enough to leave them around) so he has probably got a good idea about me buying a house etc.

just feeling really low today now. . . dont know whether to answer his e mail or not. he says he is considering how he is going to deal with it inlight of the paperwork.

Dont reply you have no need to engage with him about the divorce in the next day or two. Give him time to take it all in and respond to you once he has "considered" it.

Its fine to feel low but remember this is a process that step by step will lead you to a better life, unfortunately there is no quick skip to the end but you are moving in the right direction.

teawithmilk

Thanks. I know it sounds silly but a tiny part of me is sad that he hasnt said anywhere that he misses us or is upset that we are gone,he is just angry that in his eyes I have been sneaky and devious.

thorsoak

TWM - be glad that he has responded in this way .....you know now that (1) he doesn't miss you and isn't upset - therefore there he definitely doesn't love you and (2) he is angry - would you really want to spend the rest of your life with an angry man? Of course not!

Of course you feel sad - its the end of an era of your life - but it is also the start of the rest of your better life!

You are planning on buying a house for you and your DD - therefore there will be no savings for him to get his paws on! He saw your calculations - he hasn't got a copy of them, has he? He will know in any case because you are making a full financial declaration - so he just knows in advance!

From friends' experience, grounds of irretrieveable breakdown of marriage
that state that the partners have been sleeping in separate rooms, that there has been no intimate relationship for a period of time are grounds for divorce.

Chin up ....you are getting there x

LannieDuck

You knew it was coming, and hopefully it hasn't been as bad as you worried it might have been. Give him a couple of days, and see where's he's at.

At least he knows it's not a short-term moving out now.

How did Friday go?

teawithmilk

Friday was. . .tiring!!! they didnt get to sleep until two am! ! but i think DD loved her sleepover. Also got her pet moved over during the day so only have her fishtank to worry about now. I moved more stuff in my car so the other house where he is looks pretty empty of my stuff now. Lots of DDs stuff still there but I dont think he would chuck that.
once again, thanks for all the moral support xx