Separated, how much should I provide?

justme111

Wow.
I could not have phrased it better myself , hat off to you

LannieDuck

That was a nice e-mail, Jack. Well done.

JackRS

I am sorry you feel like that. It is not my intention to be unreasonable, intimidating or make you distressed. In fact I was trying to resolve this amicably by making you aware of how serious the situation is becoming. I didn’t have to email you but wanted to give you the opportunity to put this right before it escalates out of our control.

I cannot believe that if your new solicitor is on holiday that there is no-one else looking after your interests in the meantime. It's a big firm and there must be other solicitors available. I would not be happy to be treated like that if I was their client. It sounds very much like a delaying tactic by you/them as has been the case all along.

I am simply telling you that we cannot manage on the money you are providing at the moment, explaining why and warning you of the consequences . Do you really want me to get the children to ask you for more money to pay the household bills, food, petrol etc?

Words fail me.

Mojisola

JackRS wrote: »

I am simply telling you that we cannot manage on the money you are providing at the moment, explaining why and warning you of the consequences . Do you really want me to get the children to ask you for more money to pay the household bills, food, petrol etc?

Words fail me.

Well then, why doesn't she claim the benefits that she's entitled to!

She seems to have forgotten that she's not paying rent or mortgage on the house she's living in while you are having to set up a new home from scratch.

LannieDuck

If you can, ignore it. You've told her your solicitor is away until Tues. That's only two days. Your solicitors aren't going to be running around to draft a response on a Sunday anyway.

Mojisola

JackRS wrote: »

I am simply telling you that we cannot manage on the money you are providing at the moment, explaining why and warning you of the consequences . Do you really want me to get the children to ask you for more money to pay the household bills, food, petrol etc?

If she really does stoop to this kind of emotional blackmail, it will be time to teach the children that life is full of choices - do they want you to give money to their Mum for household bills and have to withdraw their driving lesson money or do they want to help her claim the benefits that she's ignoring?

kelpie35

JackRS wrote: »

I am sorry you feel like that. It is not my intention to be unreasonable, intimidating or make you distressed. In fact I was trying to resolve this amicably by making you aware of how serious the situation is becoming. I didn’t have to email you but wanted to give you the opportunity to put this right before it escalates out of our control.

I cannot believe that if your new solicitor is on holiday that there is no-one else looking after your interests in the meantime. It's a big firm and there must be other solicitors available. I would not be happy to be treated like that if I was their client. It sounds very much like a delaying tactic by you/them as has been the case all along.

I am simply telling you that we cannot manage on the money you are providing at the moment, explaining why and warning you of the consequences . Do you really want me to get the children to ask you for more money to pay the household bills, food, petrol etc?

Words fail me.

I just can't believe her response............words fail me :mad:

I would just try to ignore it even though it is hard for you to do that.

duchy

So long as you can see how she's trying to manipulate you Jack. She knows which of your buttons respond to pressing after so many years of marriage.

However just as you have people giving you advice - she probably has too- urging her that it is her responsibility to get every penny she can for the children and indeed for herself for all her years of marriage . I'm not saying that is right-far from it - but if you can see where she is coming from -it's likely to make things less bitter so if/when she comes around to a more reasonable mindset and wants to negociate there's not too many boats burned.

justme111

Nothing outrageous. Op would be expected to give her some money , they just disagree on the ampunt. Hopefully solicitors will reach agreement out of court.

paulineb_2

Some money, not ridiculous amounts of money and certainly not paying her credit card bills and keeping her in the lifestyle she wants to be accustomed to.