Separated, how much should I provide?

paulineb_2

JackRS wrote: »

'king hell she's now disagreeing with which firm I've proposed to handle the sale of the property! She wants to go with the more expensive option that the estate agent has recommended. I've said I'm not prepared to spend an extra £350 just because it's a local firm with no obvious advantage.

You are within your rights to go with any firm you like as its you I assume who will be paying for it?

JackRS

kelpie35 wrote: »

Have to agree with you RAS.

I would really like to know where all the money goes too.

A big majority of people have to manage on half that amount per month.

I just don't know how Jack has managed to keep so dignified, I know I certainly could not.

Spoke on te phone to her yesterday about house sale, she actually accused me of playing games and called me a control freak! and wrote this 'Never would have believed you could act this way towards people you loved'. So clearly her take is very different.

My solicitor should be back from holiday today so hope she catches up soon.

JackRS

paulineb wrote: »

You are within your rights to go with any firm you like as its you I assume who will be paying for it?

Well it comes out of the proceeds so as she's planningto take the majority share of hous then she'll be most affected?

RAS

JackRS wrote: »

It's BTEC level course that you needed 5 GCSE's to get onto. Although she'd had A-levels etc and was 19 when started so older than the others on it.

OK

So DD is in a no-man's land at the moment.

I think she needed to start before 19 if mum was to claim CTC and that would end when she was 20.

She cannot get student finance for a level 3 course so she is wholly dependent on her parents for support.

How does she/mum think she is going to complete this course at home when mum and bro move down south? Any thoughts?

kelpie35

JackRS wrote: »

Spoke on te phone to her yesterday about house sale, she actually accused me of playing games and called me a control freak! and wrote this 'Never would have believed you could act this way towards people you loved'. So clearly her take is very different.

My solicitor should be back from holiday today so hope she catches up soon.

Words fail me again..........all I can say to you at this time is to continue to stay strong and dignified.

She is trying to break you, but you are the better person and people who respect you will see that.:A:A

Have you moved into your new home yet?

Also is the selling of your old home near completion date?

JackRS

RAS wrote: »

OK

So DD is in a no-man's land at the moment.

I think she needed to start before 19 if mum was to claim CTC and that would end when she was 20.

She cannot get student finance for a level 3 course so she is wholly dependent on her parents for support.

How does she/mum think she is going to complete this course at home when mum and bro move down south? Any thoughts?

She's having to change to different college not happy about it.

RAS

JackRS wrote: »

She's having to change to different college not happy about it.

Would she not be so much better off living with you whilst she completes this course; the alterative is not going to help her results at all?

JackRS

RAS wrote: »

Would she not be so much better off living with you whilst she completes this course; the alterative is not going to help her results at all?

It was mentioned in th eoriginal debate some months back but she wants to stay with her mum, after all that's where teh money will be !!!

justme111

I am not sure the money will be there. Sorry if I missed something, it dies not look like you have.to pay cs for her , or do you ? If you do not than she relies on working part time / parental voluntary support and as her mum struggles a big deal re money it would make sense for her to he with you. That's apart from having to change college. There may well be female solidarity and wanting to stick with mum as she probably feels closer to her though ..

RAS

Jack could not be made to pay for her through the Child Support Agency s she is over 20.

Whether a court would insist he contributes when she has chosen to take a second Level 3 qualification has to be seen, but perhaps not. Particularly since she could live with him and continue the course locally which would be more sensible academically. If this was a Level 4 course she would get support from Student Finance England and this would be a lot higher in 13/14 because it would be based on mum's income rather than dad's; she would get full whack including maximum grant.

I suspect she feels the need to be seen to support mum (and keep in with the grandparents) rather than thinking about her immediate needs.