Separated, how much should I provide?

JackRS

The property I'm renting and moving into in 2 weeks is empty so need to get what want from home like spare bed sofa TV etc so I will need to turn up with a van soon to a hostile home. Looking online now for bargins such as washing machine.

kelpie35

JackRS wrote: »

The property I'm renting and moving into in 2 weeks is empty so need to get what want from home like spare bed sofa TV etc so I will need to turn up with a van soon to a hostile home. Looking online now for bargins such as washing machine.

If you have a facebook account there are selling sites for most areas.

You might be able to pick up a good bargain from there. Also try Gumtree in your area.

I think once you are settled into your new home things will start to become easier for you. I hope it helps to make you feel a bit more secure.

Angry_Bear

kelpie35 wrote: »

If you have a facebook account there are selling sites for most areas.

You might be able to pick up a good bargain from there. Also try Gumtree in your area.

I think once you are settled into your new home things will start to become easier for you. I hope it helps to make you feel a bit more secure.

Good suggestsion, and don't forget freecycle - you might be lucky. Obviously freecycle goodies won't usually be in tip top condition, but they'll keep you going until you can replace with something better

Beetlemama

I got a freecycled washing machine three years ago, it's still going strong.

When my dad left, we were 13 and 14 and he gave us £5 a week each - £40 a month, and didn't pay any thing else ever. On my sixteenth we saw me in the highstreet and gave me the last five pounds, said "Thank god I don't have to do that anymore" and walked off, not to be seen again for 20 years.

You've already done more than enough, try to stay happy and get on with your life. Your wife needs to suck it up and stop being a kept woman

JackRS

She's text me this morning asking if I'd received email yesterday? Ignore it or say wait til Tuesday when solicitor is back?

kelpie35

JackRS wrote: »

She's text me this morning asking if I'd received email yesterday? Ignore it or say wait til Tuesday when solicitor is back?

I would ignore it.

You are paying out a lot of money for a solicitor, and I know you can't speak to them till Tuesday, but I would let them reply to her demands or any other advice they offer you.

By the sounds of things I think your ex is now seeing that her demands are ridiculous and is trying to pull on your heart strings.

Stay strong and don't be drawn in.

JackRS

kelpie35 wrote: »

I would ignore it.

You are paying out a lot of money for a solicitor, and I know you can't speak to them till Tuesday, but I would let them reply to her demands or any other advice they offer you.

By the sounds of things I think your ex is now seeing that her demands are ridiculous and is trying to pull on your heart strings.

Stay strong and don't be drawn in.

Thanks that's what I was thinking.

justme111

JackRS wrote: »

She's text me this morning asking if I'd received email yesterday? Ignore it or say wait til Tuesday when solicitor is back?

I would have replied. No need to hurt her unnecessary and nothing hurts more than being ignored. I'd reply saying that you got it , that you see things in a differwnt way and consequently will talk to your solicitor.

kelpie35

Just thought about this.............

If you have an email address for your solicitor you could forward the email you got from your ex. It would then give your solicitor time to digest it before you phone them.

kelpie35

justme111 wrote: »

I would have replied. No need to hurt her unnecessary and nothing hurts more than being ignored. I'd reply saying that you got it , that you see things in a differwnt way and consequently will talk to your solicitor.

Have to disagree with this.

I think the OP has been hurt by his ex's actions and demands.