Separated, how much should I provide?

justme111

Thank you for an update. As predicted. Happy for you. Re your daughter - tricky situation as cut in support will be associated with the new woman in your life and wedding. As she is on a final year may be worse not upsetting the cart. I am sure you will find the right way , wishing you all the happiness in your life.

kelpie35

That is wonderful news Jack.

I am so happy for you.

I always believed that there would be a breakthrough sometime.

You have to be admired for your patience and kindness to you children.

You are a wonderful dad.

Happy New Year

Take care

beanielou

So very pleased for you.
Something is leaking from my eye.

CruisingSaver

I'm so pleased to read your update Jack. Here's to a fabulous 2017 for you and yours :beer:

supersaver2

Glad you've had a response but gobsmacked you've heard nothing for 3 years, never a thank you for Birthday/Christmas money?! Unbelievably rude, your a very patient man Jack.

twiglet98

It's good that at last your son - who is a man, not a child - has remembered his manners and thanked you for his gift.

His 21st birthday is next month. He will know, from his sister if not from you, that you are planning to remarry. I hope you are not about to be a target for a timely piece of emotional manipulation.

Your daughter and son are no longer children, they are making their own decisions and are wholly responsible for their own behaviour, and their manners. Love and respect can NEVER be bought.

msb5262

Very pleased to hear that your son has been in touch in a positive and mature way. Keep doing what you are doing - you are his dad and you love him, and he does know that ��

mgdavid

Happy New Year !
Nice to start 2017 with a 'good news' story, and thanks for keeping us updated.

Lunar_Eclipse

Delighted that you have heard from your son and life seems to be treating you well. Much deserved.

Bit surprised you are planning to remarry though. Would love to understand why. I know it's a "very normal thing to do", I'm just surprised that you still see any reason/benefit to the legal formality given your experience. I'm happily married, but still don't really know why we actually got married (I wanted it, prior to having kids and very much love my husband) and definitely think that once is at least enough, regardless of the marriage outcome ... so curious.

Blessings for 2017 everyone!

foolofbeans

I realise this is many months ago but I would like to point out that although many people are saying the daughter is an adult, MSE Martin has regularly pointed out that parents are expected to help their student children financially as Student Finance is based on parents income.
I haven't read all the thread but am assuming the mum doesn't work, in which case the daughter would receive full grant and loan so should be more than sufficient to pay her own way. Unless she is in London or high-rental cost area as that could cost more than received.
Students I have known have tended to work although there are some courses that don't allow for working in term-time due to the sheer volume of work required, architecture is one of those courses but I couldn't say how demanding music is. Most students do manage to work in holidays though.
Apparently students in the last year get less than other years as funding is only given for the 9 months of term-time. Unfortunately rent and other bills are contracted for 12 months so there is a shortfall and many students have extra costs associated with carrying out work required for their dissertation.
My child gets some grant and loan and we contribute £10-£20 a week during term-time and this pays for all the fresh food and milk. I would love to be able to help more but we just don't have any spare money. As it turned out they managed to get a job during term-time (can only do 8 to 10 hours though due to the course requirements) and they worked throughout summer so saved money for the terms ahead. I am very proud that my child has worked out how to be very frugal with meal planning and this will stand them in good stead fro the future.