Separated, how much should I provide?

JackRS

Quick update!!!.
This month was a major milestone as I've now made my final spousal maintenance payment, collect the lease car and returned without too many complication. So that's it, legally clean break from this point!

She did visit my parents last weekend (without the children) to take a birthday card for my Father and she mentioned to them that she can't afford a car and has to borrow her mums car now. My mum said she's fortunate that she can borrow one so regularly.It seems she wants to continue playing the victim, not sure why she keeps visiting my parents, she never wanted to go when we were together.


Saw my daughter Friday night, she's currently in her last 4 weeks of her music course and applying for internships with a number of companies. She confirmed that she wouldn't be attending my wedding later this year, she wouldn't feel comfortable.I said I understood but hope that in time things would be different.

Ames

Hurrah! to the news about the end of payments, you really can look to the future now.

It's sad that your daughter still needs to come to terms with it all, hopefully she'll come to the wedding but at least you're talking now.

Mojisola

JackRS wrote: »

She did visit my parents last weekend (without the children) to take a birthday card for my Father and she mentioned to them that she can't afford a car and has to borrow her mums car now.

My mum said she's fortunate that she can borrow one so regularly.It seems she wants to continue playing the victim, not sure why she keeps visiting my parents, she never wanted to go when we were together.

Love your Mum’s reply!

Your ex may finally be regretting what’s she’s done and is trying to keep some contract through calling on your parents.

vandanfc

At least that door is now finally closed for good. I hope your daughter does come around sooner rather than later. Enjoy this next chapter of your life. Best wishes to you and your future wife for your wedding day. x

beanielou

So glad that you can close another chapter.

barbiedoll

Hope your wedding day goes well Jack, it’s good to hear that you’re happy again, and financially free from your ex at last!

I feel for your daughter, she would probably love to have a normal relationship with you and your partner, but your ex won’t let her. Of course your children were upset at the breakdown of their parents’ relationship, but your ex has undoubtedly manipulated them since.

I like the sound of your mum! Is ex waiting for them to offer to buy her a car? Or to guilt trip you into buying one for her? Does she have no shame? You’d think she would want them (and by proxy, you) to know that she is a strong independent woman, who has survived the massive upheaval in her life.....not to go whinging about how she doesn’t have her own car. Some things never change!

Thanks for the update, do come back to tell us about the wedding!

duchy

Is it mean of me to wonder why her own parent's haven't bought her a car .
Wishing you a wonderful wedding day Jack and I'm sorry your kids are still being made to feel they have to choose. They are both adults now after all. Still time does amazing things. I'm very thankful both my son and my step daughterto be and her children are all happy to attend my wedding later this year.

Gigervamp

Great news about the car and payments. You're finally free! And I LOVED your mum's reply, she saw right through your ex!


Sorry your daughter isn't coming to the wedding, I also feel that your children have been manipulated by their mother. I expect if your daughter had agreed to go to your wedding, she'd have to deal with her mother ranting about how daughter was betraying her, or something like it.


Wishing you all the best, and thanks for the update. Do let us know how the wedding goes!

JackRS

Some of you asked me to keep you updated.....


We got married last Saturday, it was an amazing day that had taken 2 years to plan and will take another 2 years to pay for but thanks to the zero % cards for making it possible...


We haven't been on honeymoon yet, we'll need to save for that and go next year. Actually it will be nice for us to plan that now it would have been too much additional stress on top of the wedding.


Hope you're all OK

thorsoak

Thank you so much for updating us Jack - it would have been nice to hear that your son and daughter were at your wedding - but at least you have had your lovely day - and wishing you good health and happiness for your future together xxx