Separated, how much should I provide?

Vicky123

JackRS wrote: »

Yes I know what you mean, and I don't know for sure but my barrister said to me that when her barrister fed back to say that she wanted more time to decide she had admitted to him that she had tried to encourage her to accept. It could have just been words?

I would guess just words, it's amazing the little deals that can be done between these people, could write a book about the strategy changes that took place once my barrister went to discussions with ex's, they were never to my advantage, but then my ex had the top legal team in this County. Have you checked yours and stbx solicitor ranking in the Legal 500, it may explain a lot, my ex's was 3, mine wasn't even listed!

Mojisola

Lunar_Eclipse wrote: »

All were advised NOT to look for work until after financial settlement. And one lady gave up her job as per legal advice.

If Jack had had one of these types, he would probably have been told to go on long term sick through stress or to take early retirement.

Either would seriously have affected how much his ex could claim from him.

Vicky123

Mojisola wrote: »

If Jack had had one of these types, he would probably have been told to go on long term sick through stress or to take early retirement.

Either would seriously have affected how much his ex could claim from him.

That's why I asked him to check the legal500 as severe depressive episode seems to be the sought after status when it comes to swaying a judge, the ex is trying to make herself look less capable than she is, Jack is just being honest and probably being looked at suspiciously because a good legal team & well prepared client will always lie better than an honest person tells the truth. If it didn't all come down to a skilled legal team everyone would just represent themselves, she's not shelling out money for advice just to ignore it.

neneromanova

JackRS wrote: »

No I would not be required by law unless a maintenance pending suite (sorry if wrong spelling?) hearing was held and an order passed. Obviously these take time and costs high so it would not be likely to be held before a final divorce hearing.

So can you not hold out a few more months til (june was it?) Then stop all payments and say right, either you take my offer and I continue paying SM, or we can wait until the final hearing and see what they say. The longest this will go on for is til oct so that's looooads of money saved for you to pay off solicitors fees and stuff.

Lets face it, it's not really going to get any worse for you anyway is it so it might do her some good to be without £1k a month from you.

kelpie35

After the thousands of pounds wasted using these useless solicitors, have they had the decency to enquire about how things went for you Jack, or is that not the done thing?

JackRS

kelpie35 wrote: »

After the thousands of pounds wasted using these useless solicitors, have they had the decency to enquire about how things went for you Jack, or is that not the done thing?

Well mine is on holiday and I wouldn't encourage her to ask me as I'd be charged for it!

My Barrister said he'd make a summary report and send to my solicitor. He also informed me I've got another £5000 bill from mine due covering the hearing preparation so I'll be reviewing that bill and seeing where the value was added. Especially frustrating when the judge didn't review all the prepared documents only the barristers statement.

ampersand

Have written several times, but couldn't trust myself to post 'nicely'.

Do you yet know why you had to make do with waffly parachuted substitute?
Any explanation re: absence of original Judge [assumed it was T----n, maybe wrongly]
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How are you atm Jack?

wannabe_credit_free

Jack, you could easily turn your thread into a book, just a thought, might make a few bob, pay off the ex....:D

Mojisola

wannabe_credit_free wrote: »

Jack, you could easily turn your thread into a book, just a thought, might make a few bob, pay off the ex....:D

I can see it as regular column in one of the broadsheets, telling the whole sorry saga.

Floxxie

JackRS wrote: »

Thanks Floxxie

Yes I did put figures on wikivorce but noone could give me any advice

Really? Did you put it down in the format suggested? There are solicitors and barristers there as well as lay people who have been through the system. Definitely try it again. Length of marriage (inc. cohabitation, ages, children, salaries, assets etc.

Please don't give up on this. You just need a couple of rays of light to get you through