Separated, how much should I provide?

duchy

Reams wrote: »

I have no intention of reading the thread. Not only does it bore me but I bet JRS has made no contribution to MSE whatsoever apart from his needing help. I simply scrolled through posts and saw something I was familiar with.
I haven't been sucked in like you ampersand. I know that no husband who loved his children, lived in a family home would ever walk out unless for another woman, or was pushed.


You carry on groupeing ampersand, feed the ego.

How very rude.
Still if you HAD actually bothered reading the thread you'd know why Jack left -but hey just because you are emotionally immature or have very little life experience to make such a sweeping and incorrect assertion shouldn't mean people automatically assume that makes you a bad person.

justme111

My guess the situation touched the nerve for reams hence so out of the blue and mad statement re man leaving home. Would agree with her reading the whole thread would be optional to say the least at this stage for a new reader like she . I believe apart from that completely uncalled for remark she made worthy contributions to the thread despite not reading it.
Jack , write something about.how.things are as we may start bickering if attention.is.not.diverted to a worthy cause .

victory

Reams wrote: »

I have no intention of reading the thread. Not only does it bore me but I bet JRS has made no contribution to MSE whatsoever apart from his needing help. I simply scrolled through posts and saw something I was familiar with.
I haven't been sucked in like you ampersand. I know that no husband who loved his children, lived in a family home would ever walk out unless for another woman, or was pushed.


You carry on groupeing ampersand, feed the ego.

Oh my, you really have been hurt by life haven't you? There is no need for nastiness,Jack needs help,guidance and advice, not your bitterness from your experiences seeping into his thread, what good is that? If you have been so let down, why not turn it around and be a help to Jack not a hinderence?

19lottie82

Reams wrote: »

I know that no husband who loved his children, lived in a family home would ever walk out unless for another woman, or was pushed.

Hmmmmmm someone is a bit bitter after being dumped, me thinks!

justme111

Or a man who chosen to stay with woman just because she was mother of his children and wants to confirm he was right in doing it.I must say most men indeed chose this option . Home life becomes hell , the wife can not stand it and files for divorce herself - that's the usual scenario. Not the most honest and honorable though.

JackRS

OK people, Reams is entitled to his (sorry I assumed they were a he?) opinion as this is an open forum. He may well be right that I do not contribute much useful information for others. I’ve posted for help not to give help so if that makes one of life’s takers then that’s who I am, guilty as charged.

I’d rather you didn’t all get on Reams case, in my view he was good enough to post his experience which was relevant. If he then wants to make a judgement of me then based on what he has read then that is fine it’s an opinion. Believe me it really doesn’t worry me I have bigger problems and criticism to deal with.

Like I said before, I encourage alternative views as it help prepare me. I fully appreciate you only get my side of the story and I may leave out some details. So please allow others to have their point of view without fear of criticism but rather to offer an alternative point of view based on the evidence you have and your experience and knowledge.

Let’s keep the debate open but not personal to those who contribute, personal comments about me are ok because I have put myself out there to get opinion. Remember Reams did openly admit to not reading the whole thread but saw enough to know that their experience may be useful. For me personally that’s a good thing, I really wouldn’t expect anyone to read the whole thing.

OK so update wise not so much to say, although I’ve been in touch recently with an old friend who told me something about my ex which opened my eyes to something, I won’t go into it here but lets just say it confirms I’m doing the right thing. Anyway this old friend has a friend who was previously a divorce barrister but now works as a financial settlement mediator and they’ve agreed to look at my case. I’ve explained the details to them and they’re going to look into it and give me some advice this week.

Don’t have a court date yet.

kelpie35

Thank you Jack for your update.

I hope your friend will be able to assist you and that the court date come very soon.

Take care

duchy

Alternative views from someone with a background in the area but not benefiting from you paying them sounds like an excellent idea.

Frankly your solicitor sounds awful - and I'm surprised as I was under the impression that firm was "a cut above". It'll be interesting to hear what the more informed opinion thinks of their advice and process so far.

CH27

JackRS wrote: »

OK people, Reams is entitled to his (sorry I assumed they were a he?) opinion as this is an open forum. He may well be right that I do not contribute much useful information for others. I’ve posted for help not to give help so if that makes one of life’s takers then that’s who I am, guilty as charged.

I’d rather you didn’t all get on Reams case, in my view he was good enough to post his experience which was relevant. If he then wants to make a judgement of me then based on what he has read then that is fine it’s an opinion. Believe me it really doesn’t worry me I have bigger problems and criticism to deal with.

Like I said before, I encourage alternative views as it help prepare me. I fully appreciate you only get my side of the story and I may leave out some details. So please allow others to have their point of view without fear of criticism but rather to offer an alternative point of view based on the evidence you have and your experience and knowledge.

Let’s keep the debate open but not personal to those who contribute, personal comments about me are ok because I have put myself out there to get opinion. Remember Reams did openly admit to not reading the whole thread but saw enough to know that their experience may be useful. For me personally that’s a good thing, I really wouldn’t expect anyone to read the whole thing.

OK so update wise not so much to say, although I’ve been in touch recently with an old friend who told me something about my ex which opened my eyes to something, I won’t go into it here but lets just say it confirms I’m doing the right thing. Anyway this old friend has a friend who was previously a divorce barrister but now works as a financial settlement mediator and they’ve agreed to look at my case. I’ve explained the details to them and they’re going to look into it and give me some advice this week.

Don’t have a court date yet.

That's an excellent idea.

victory

I hope the friend can help you and does not charge the astronomical amounts you have had to pay out so far (if at all:)