MSE pregnancy club II

sparkle03

candygirl wrote: »

CAT I can't get over these grumpy staff.When I took DD for her 12 week scan the sonagrapher was a right cow, really grumpy that she wanted me to go in with her, even though 2 people are allowed:rolleyes: .DD had been crying cos she'd just split with her bf, and she was so ratty and abrupt.If these people don't like working with the public they should change jobs:mad: :mad: :mad:

I couldnt agree with you more, One thing that does my head in is all of the signs around hospitals and gp surgeries about abusing NHS staff and it not being tolerated then it sometimes feels as if they do that to us but we have to just take it!

keelykat

Looks like im one of the few that was treated really well by the hospital/midwives etc?? I had no complaints at all. Looks like some area's dont deal with things as good as others maybe?

I'd seriously put a complaint in if i was treated badly by either a midwife or at the hospital. They should be taking you seriously, not fobbing you off.

feelinggood_2

No more bleeding or pain. Sickness is back. Scan tomorrow. Then I'm off to stay with my Mum for a week, or longer, depends. Right now I never want to come home. OH was less than brilliant last night. Didn't ask how hospital went. Didn't ask how I am. Took him over an hour to notice that I'd gone to bed. I asked him for a cuddle, he said no. He didn't come to bed, slept on the sofa. Didn't tell me he loved me before he left for work. He isn't talking to me today. Feel completely alone and completely abandoned. Got no one to go with me for the scan tomorrow.

keelykat

feelinggood wrote: »

No more bleeding or pain. Sickness is back. Scan tomorrow. Then I'm off to stay with my Mum for a week, or longer, depends. Right now I never want to come home. OH was less than brilliant last night. Didn't ask how hospital went. Didn't ask how I am. Took him over an hour to notice that I'd gone to bed. I asked him for a cuddle, he said no. He didn't come to bed, slept on the sofa. Didn't tell me he loved me before he left for work. He isn't talking to me today. Feel completely alone and completely abandoned. Got no one to go with me for the scan tomorrow.

aaww, thats horrible of him.

feelinggood_2

keelykat wrote: »

aaww, thats horrible of him.

Well, he is 'a bit busy at work'.

keelykat

Feelinggood-he'll regret not coming with you for the scan. You can't exactly go back in time and do it again, its a special moment seeing your baby on the screen for the first time. Some men are useless aren't they.

Does your mom live too far away that she cant come with you? or a sister/close relative maybe? a good friend?

I'd be upset too. x x

feelinggood_2

keelykat wrote: »

Feelinggood-he'll regret not coming with you for the scan. You can't exactly go back in time and do it again, its a special moment seeing your baby on the screen for the first time. Some men are useless aren't they.

Does your mom live too far away that she cant come with you? or a sister/close relative maybe? a good friend?

I'd be upset too. x x

We've already had one scan, and he did come in with me then.

Mum is 250 miles away. Looking forward to getting three trains and one bus while feeling incredibly sick and crying every two minutes!

Don't really know anyone I can ask. I do have one friend I though would, they said they would, but they really didn't want to. Great.

I've told OH that I'm going away for a few days. He isn't bothered.

candygirl

FG can your Mum not go with you, as it can be a bit emotional on your own hun.DD cried when she saw all the "happy couples" in the waiting room:(
Another thing I wanted to add about hospital staffs attitudes is,just cos they see pregnant women and babies every day, doesn't mean to say it isn't a special thing for the pregnant woman and partner or family.I was treated so much better than DD has been so far, if she gets the same sonographer at 20 week scan i'll be ready for the miserable moo:mad: :mad:
Oh and FG when DD was with her bf he said he wouldn't have time off for the scans as it's be a waste of time and money:rolleyes: Thank god she split p with him at 11 weeks;)

skintchick

Oh feelie! Big hugs. Is your OH perhaps feeling overwhelmed by suddenly being a Dad? Can I recommend The Bloke's Guide to Pregnancy by jon Smith for him? My OH was finding it very helpful in adjusting his head before my mc started. It's very bloke-friendly.

Is it worth having another chat with him? Don;t feel alone - I'm sure he is just overwhelmed and doesn;t know how to cope. xxx

feelinggood_2

candygirl wrote: »

FG can your Mum not go with you, as it can be a bit emotional on your own hun.DD cried when she saw all the "happy couples" in the waiting room:(
Another thing I wanted to add about hospital staffs attitudes is,just cos they see pregnant women and babies every day, doesn't mean to say it isn't a special thing for the pregnant woman and partner or family.I was treated so much better than DD has been so far, if she gets the same sonographer at 20 week scan i'll be ready for the miserable moo:mad: :mad:
Oh and FG when DD was with her bf he said he wouldn't have time off for the scans as it's be a waste of time and money:rolleyes: Thank god she split p with him at 11 weeks;)

Everyone is just a bit too far away. I'm sure they would come if I asked, but I'm not very good at that. I'm used to doing things on my lonesome, why change the habit of a lifetime.

Got to get the house tidy, not managed to do anything cos of the morning sickness, but can't go away leaving it in this state.

Need to get OH to agree to feed the pets, I don't think I can manage suitcase and a rabbit on 3 trains and a bus.

Need to get some food in, OH is fed up of eating rubbish. Need to go shopping.