MSE pregnancy club II

carol9uk

thanks cookie, what area are you in, i am in manchester

cookie08

Im from Wolverhampton - West Midlands. Are you hoping your baby a boy or a girl or dow you mind?

JoJoB

God, i am turning into a complete basketcase. So emotional all the time. And my temper!!!!!!! OH said the wrong thing last night and I threw a bottle of ketchup at him. It missed and exploded on the wall so it looks like someone has been decapitated in our living room. Then I screamed at him then went to bed crying convinced I'd killed the baby with stress.

Getting worried about developing postnatal depression now and generally being a crap mum.

lostbuckaroos

I think you are allowed to be a bit of a basketcase jojo (and if you're not then I'm in trouble too!). At least you missed your OH and didn't clock him on the head. Make sure you talk to someone if you're worried - your doctor if you can't talk to OH. Just getting it out there how you feel can make you feel better. Take care.

carol9uk

hi cookie08, i would prefare as girl as a have a boy with AS and hes dad got it and so does he dad and it tends to run in boys.

hope you are feeling better JOJOB, i agree with lostbuckaroos x

JoJoB

Thanks, i do feel a bit better now. Just realising i have to be really hyperaware of my emotions and take timeout when i feel the anger coming on. And have more afternoon naps to take the edge of the tiredness as that can't be helping mood! I do not want to be an angry person around baby as I experienced angry parents as a child and i know how damaging it is - that's part of the emotional problem at the moment I think, having first baby brings up all sorts of stuff about your own childhood and it's doing my head in a bit!

miss_be

Hi Jojob,

Just thought that I'd let you know something that might help you. I was uber emotional when I was pregnant feeling like I was the worst person in the world and that I was doing everything wrong. These feelings were emotions that I'd not expressed when I was growing up, that I'd hidden deep down inside me.

There is the belief nowadays in the scientific world that emotions are also molecules that can get physically caught in our bodies, hidden within the muscles etc, when something 'bad' happens to us and that emotion doesn't get expressed. These molecules of emotions can only get out of our body when we do something to shift them like psychotherapy, meditation, hypnosis, talking to someone etc. When we get pregnant the hormone relaxin is produced to make sure all the muscles are relaxed enough to make space for giving birth. This also means that the molecules of unexpressed emotions, that might have been caught up in the muscles for years, are also released out of the relaxed muscles, forcing you to experience the emotions all over again. Hence feeling all those nasty things that we've tried to hide away for years. Each person will experience different things depending on what they've experienced in their lives.

The best way to deal with it is to let that emotion be expressed and to actually feel it. I saw it as a big clearing process getting out all the nasties before my baby was born. Of course they aren't nice to experience but then they are far better out than in. What I'd suggest is, as you've mentioned, go to another room and let it out there. You could punch a pillow or something along those lines, at least then your OH wouldn't get the brunt of it. You could also explain to him what's going on so that he then knows that he isn't really the problem and these emotions are from years ago. He might even be able to help you with it. You might even do well to talk to someone about what happened when you were younger or you could write down everything that happened to you and then burn it. Generally if you can get it out of you somehow it will really help. I hope this helps. xxx

JoJoB

Wow, that's really enlightening actually miss_be, makes a lot of sense!

samantham06

hi all,
just to let you know baby Charlie David, arrived on wednesday at 7.25pm - weighing 7.8 1/2. after only 5 hours in hosptal and only gas and air!!
He is absolutely gorgeous!! (although all new parents say that!!)
Hope everyones okay.
x

Pink_Princess_1

Congratulations:p glad everything went ok - hope you post some piccies soon. Iv been getting lots of tightenings but could still be a while yet - hospital visit tomorrow