MSE pregnancy club II

mandy2383

Congratulations Mennie and Wondermum07

Hi sunday_girl- When i had my scan we asked if we would be able to be told the sex when we walked in the lady said she would tell us if she could. What we never realised till after, was before they show you the screen she was looking and said 'hes' wiggling about. Then she showed us the screen showing us all his body parts we didn't think anymore of it, when she had checked everything she then said she would try to find out the sex for us, but baby had crossed his legs. So she asked me to use the toilet to empty my bladder to see if that helped, ten minutes later she said their are the testicles baby is a little boy, she said she cant say 100% but she would be shocked if he came out a girl, afterwards it made us wonder if she had seen the baby was a boy because of what she said and she really tried hard to find out the sex, she even printed us an extra photo off, of baby sucking his thumb on one hand and playing with his private parts on the other lol

Samanthan06- Hi, please try not to worry yourself too much, i know its hard but try not to, i dont think i can be of much help but I am sure someone else will be along to help soon, I think another expectant mum on this thread has been through the same as you, so should be able to help.

My OH has been a little moody lately think like you said they are starting to worry and getting nervous that they are going to become a dad, I have to remind myself it affects OH too my OH has said sometimes he feels useless, even though hes not at all.

wondermum07

samantham06 wrote: »

hi all, and congratulations to all you who have had your babies now! (bun yours is so gorgeous!!!)

Anyway Ive just come on to get some advice really, as im worrying myself to death at the moment!!
Im 36+5 weeks pregnant with first baby and im only measuring at just under 32 weeks!!! He hasnt grown since i was 32 weeks as he keeps being measured the same. I have a scan booked for tuesday, but obviously waiting until then and worrying is horrible.
For the last 4 weeks the midwifes kept measuring him small and just kept ignoring it- but now as im at the 'magic 36 weeks' they actually took notice and agreed that that is rather small and have arranged a scan, but none of them can seem to tell me why he may be small? or what will happen at the scan?? (like am i likely to be induced????)
Im getting braxton hicks all the time now (rather painful!!!) but his head apparently still isnt enagaged.
Also ive been told that hes lying back to back- so ive been on the old birthing ball to try and change hs postion but to no avail!!!

Also my partner is being a right pain lately and not really giving me any support- i think its beacuse he amy be worried himself- but doesnt really help me! hes just drinking loads and being really moody. Has anyone else had this with their parntners???

Anyway really sorry to just moan on here but really worried- if anyone has been in the same situation or knows anything about it please let me know as I just cant get any info form midwifes or google and waitng until tues is a killer!!

Thanks
samantha
xx

Hi, you are totally normal and right to be worrying! Firstly, they should have been taking much more note of the situation and im sorry they havent. Is it just ur fundal measurement that is small? because it could just be the position of your baby and nothing to worry about. Also, scans only have a 2 week accuracy at this stage, (but seeing as we are classed as term from 37 to 42 weeks this normally doesnt matter much either way) so you might not be as far gone as originally thought.

I had to respond to ur post because i delivered my twins 3 months early. My son had IUGR - intrauterine growth restriction. Have they told you anything about this? It sounds just like what you are describing. I got it from pre eclampsia. Its basically when the babys growth is affected by different causes of the placenta/cord. My lil man didnt gain any weight for 4 weeks before i delivered them. Carrying twins and with complications i did have quite a few scans, but the earlier ones + my EDD from my last period showed i should have been 31 weeks when i gave birth. However, length, head and developmental responses all showed that they were 29 weeks gestation when i delivered. And his growth was a couple of weeks behind that. He was 15" and 1lb 14oz (the size of a 26.5 weeker)

If your baby stopped growing 4 weeks ago, it can cause problems with brain development and have long lasting consequences. Still birth is also much higher for IUGR babies, so you dont want to go waiting till your 40 weeks!! Im not trying to scare you, but babys who are struggling in the womb develop much better on the outside, and if this is the case then you really need to get the wee one out for his/her health! There is symetrical and asymetrical IUGR, both with different implications. However, dont stress yourself too much, at 36 weeks your baby should have well developed organs and lungs and be just fine if born now. Even if growth stopped at 32 weeks your baby will likely be around 4lbs and that is a REALLY good strong weight. As most problems of prematurity are linked to low birth weight and you are well and truly past all the bad stuff that can happen (most of which we unfortunately encountered )

If they measure and weight up baby on tuesday and find hes still really small for dates, push for them to induce you. Take the time now to prepare yourself now as i know its really hard when pregnancy is cut short. At 36 weeks he will most likely come straight home from hospital with you as long as he can hold his own temperature and take all his feedings well - they can establish this within 48 hours and usually mum can stay in hosp throughout. Small 36 weekers often have a lil trouble getting started on feeding and also are more likely to have jaundice, but again a week or so in hosp and these will be long forgotten!

Il make it short on the hubby bit, mine was a useless swine the whole pregnancy and hasnt even bothered to help the last 13 weeks ive spent praying by my babies in intensive care! We lost 2 before conceiving the twins, and so he was understandably disconnected and scared this time round. Its SO hard becos this is the time we need them most, but really i think they are just scared and not sure how to react. Im sure he will be much better once your son is here, and in the mean time you need to rest up as much as possible. Try lying on your left side as much as you can, its a lil late now but the more blood flow you can get to baby the better now.

Sorry if ive blabbed on abit :P I know what its like worrying over a small baby, so if i can answer any questions or anything let me know! Also, it is really hard to get good info on this condition, everyting ive learnt is through experience cos my midwife was useless about it too! Good luck, everyting will be fine

samantham06

Thanks so much wondermummy, its great to hear advice from someone who has actually been through it!
You poor thing having to have your twins 3 months early! god i bet you were so worried, im glad they are okay now. That set my mind at rest a little.

The measurements came from measuring my bump, so i know these arnt always 100% accuarate, but still worrying as it shows he hasnt grown for 4 weeks!!

You are quite right in the respect that the midwifes brush off all your worries, and i cant help thinking that if anything is wrong then surely it would have been better for them to have picked it up earlier rather than leaving it this late to send me for a scan?!

I have been worried about what you have said about the placenta possibly not working properly and therefore i would want to be induced early to give little one a better chance of gaining weight, although it is scary to think that he could come alot earlier than hes supposed to, although we have everything ready now- i still dont feel ready in myself- it all seems a bit surreal- but i suppose alot of people get that??

No i havnt heard anything about the condition that you mentioned although i will now look it up online.

I have thought that maybe i may not be as far gone as planned, but i find this difficult to believe due to baby being the right size and growing okay up until 4 weeks ago.

I just dont know what to think, im trying so hard to keep my mind off of it- (cleaned house top to bottom today !!) But guess theres nothing i can do until tuesday!

I know what you mean about parntner being worried about it too, so i do try and cut him some slack- hes still a pain though !!

Anyway thanks so much for advice.
samantha

Bun

Hello, congrats to the newly pregnants and to wondermum for the twins. Hope they are doing better now.

3kids - you sound very much like I was just before I had Annabeth - everything just seemed to 'go' over a couple of days in hindsight. Coughing particularly was extremely unpleasant. I hope you have some action too, it was so horrible being so uncomfortable and you seem to have been that longer than me. I'm getting quite excited at the countdown to due dates now! Hope your 11 year old isn't giving you such a hard time now.

Miss be - so glad the herpes has cleared up. Well done for coping with that on top of everything else.

We are doing fine - Annabeth has just been signed off by the midwives and has put some weight on so is now at the grand weight of 5lb 7oz, so nearly back up to her birth weight. She is so good I can't quite believe it - which is just as well as we are having major issues with ds, who is ridiculously hard work at the moment. He is so good with her though, it's really sweet. I've felt extremely guilty having had her and seeing how she is that Ds really struggled far more than we thought after his birth (got stuck, failed venteuse and forceps, wouldn't lie down, feed etc), but I suppose you only find out later down the line don't you. Our Coory and Carry sling from Freedomslings is fantastic, would definitely recommend it. Annabeth goes to sleep in it instantly.

In terms of gender scans, I was told that for boys they need to see testicles, and for girls the labia etc, often referred to as the 'hotdog'. On my anomaly scan I couldn't tell but the sonographer said that there were indications it was a girl, and no evidence of it being a boy. At my 4d scan you can very clearly see the hotdog bit. I believe that if they are not over 95% sure they will say that this is the case. I had to make sure Annabeth turned for the scans and the best way I did that was a bar of chocolate and a double expresso (don't normally drink coffee) and she flipped right over.

In terms of the measuring for dates, DS was 5lb 2oz, and I had a feeling that I would have another littlie. When I asked at 36 weeks I was told that it was difficult to measure or tell how big the baby was due to lie and amniotic fluid etc, however she didn't think the baby would be that big. My measurements for dates have always been one week or so behing. With ds I was told that he was a little on the small size but not to worry. On both occasions everybody seemed surprised that my babies were 5lb something, so I really don't think it's easy to tell. If you are worried try to get a scan or monitoring.

Will try and get back on later
Bun and Annabeth

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HI

Just a quick update from yesterday. Thank you so much for all your help.
I finally found the MWs number and rung her. I went to Kendal for monitoring. The monitoring was abnormal so I was then sent to Lancaster.

At Lancaster they managed to kick start the baby awake by pinching his neck! Poor Boy. Following this the heartbeat picked up and he's been active since!

They think he was just having a super long sleep in preperation for his big day.

Thanks once again guys,

Nicci

Bun

Ouch! Glad he's ok!

ANDY597

Does anybody know where I can get a 4d scan done in Edinburgh and how much it costs. I want to treat my wife to one when she gets a little further on, but dont know where to look.

Have tried googling it and the cheapest I have found so far is £125.

Thanks in advance

miss_be

Samantham - I hope everything goes ok for you. What ever happens - even if it's tough to deal with - it will be ok. Good luck.

Nicci - I'm so very glad that all's ok with you. Poor little one! At least you know he's ok. Now you can get onto your midwife about all your unanswered questions. Good luck with it.

Thanks Bun - I'm feeling ever so prepared now, so much so I'm painting a positive birth picture for the living room. I'm really enjoying it. I'll see if I can post a piccy once it's done. I've even sorted paperwork too - I'm on a roll - allbeit a gentle slow waddling one!

I'm also very glad to hear Annabeth is putting on weight again and sorting herself out. Those sort of things must be tough. On your DS have you had a chance to ask him what's going on. Could your OH have a day out with him somewhere to ask. There must be a reason behind it, it's just whether he would tell you or not. I hope it gets easier for you.

Also for the grumpy man syndrome it's good to try and persuade them to talk about how they are feeling. It's not easy to broach these subjects sometimes but it's better to be open now rather than it come out later on. You might even find out that they are just feeling inadequate. Anyway, good luck to you all. xxx

3KIDSNOMONEY

hi everyone, so pleased this thread is picking up.

nicci985 - so pleased you managed to get seen to - typical male - sleeping as much as possible. Soon you'll be moaning about him kicking you in the ribs and bladder as much as the rest of us do!

great to hear that Annabeth is doing well Bun. One minute i feel as though i could go into labour any time and the next i think i am going to be pregnant for another 3 weeks. Don't even ask about my 11 year old! Driving me up the wall. Back to school tomorrow so hoping things will improve.

I was up at 2 am doing my ironing and have had just a couple of hours sleep so feeling a bit manky today - hopefully have a nap tomorrow. But at least my ironing pile is going down.

When i asked the sex at my scan the sonographer was a bit funny about telling me - i think it depends on who you have, a bit like midwifes and drs - some are great and bend over backwards - others are awful.

Take care all.

traveller

3 kids , how do you keep going?I've just turned 30 weeks and I feel shattered! I'm glad I have a week of work though (even if it is the half term down this end)I just find It so hard to get up for work in the mornings and to think I'm working right till the end,lol!