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Joe_Millionaire wrote: »

A perfect little boy was born on Friday 19th October at 07:17 and weighed in at 7lb 14.5oz (yes the .5 matters)

We have called him MAX.

Max would like to thank you all for the good vibes you sent him and his mum went he entered our world.

Both Mum and Max are doing well, X

Congratulations on the birth of Max.

Right now lets focus those vibes on one person, and one person only Fac !

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Congratulations Joe_Millionaire! And to you Orphie you must be so excited!!

I am having a a tough time today. My SIL is on her 3rd round of IVF and was actually 10 weeks pregnant but started bleeding yesterday so am on tenterhooks today while she is up getting scanned and stuff. It's so heartbreaking. I am keeping everything crossed that the bleed is nothing but it's gone from brown to pink to bright red this morning so she is preparing for the worst. I wish there was something I could do but I imagine I will be the last person she wants to comfort her at this time.

Also I wanted to ask you ladies a question. I have a funny pain in my groin. Well techincally if I were to describe where it was its like where my legs meet my lady parts on the inside but further into my body. At first it was just on my right side but now it's on both. Doesn't hurt when i am sat or lying down just when i go to get up - doesn't hurt when stood up either but can be a bit painful on walking. I wouldn't say it was especially painful at the moment more annoying. Any ideas? There isn't anything in my pregnancy book for groin pain and I don't have anyone to ask I am only 2nd person in my group of friends to get pregnant and the first was one of those annoying people who sails through fine and then the labour is an hour with only taking 2 paracetamols - you know the type!). Has anyone else had it and does it go away??

ab7167

shelvis, it could be something called sympysis pubis dysfunction. or SPD for short. I have this, and the pain started about 29/30 weeks. Basically, the ligaments that connects your pelvis in a ring (the one at the front is the sympysis pubis, the two that sit one each side of your spine are the sacro-iliac joints) have relaxed to let the baby through - but they have relaxed too much. This causes the pelvis to be unstable, which can make it hurt to walk.

I'm not anything to do with the medical profession, all of the above is what I've learnt online and from my MW/chiropractor since I was diagnosed, so all I can give is my own experience. I am fine sat down (hence a growing addiction to MSE forums), but when I stand up I get pains up each groin, and can't walk very fast. My boss finally sent me to the MW when I couldn't stand up properly, and she diagnosed SPD by asking me to try standing on one leg. This caused major pain! They treat the symptoms, as unfortunately the cause is "being pregnant"... which in my case is painkillers (paracetomol & codeine prescribed by GP), a VERY large piece of tubigrip that sort of grips my pelvis together to help support it and visits to the chiropractor (but I have to pay privately for that). They can refer you to a physiotherapist. But the main piece of advice I can offer is to keep your knees together at all times :-) i.e getting in and out of the car, turning over in bed - basically pretend you are a laaady, and that spreading your knees is vulgar and totally shocking. I was also told to avoid hoovering :-) and pushing shopping trolleys. It may get worse as the baby gets heavier, it 99% won't get better until the baby is born, it can only be managed. My MW is of the opinion that when the baby's head drops, the pain eases off. There is a charity called Pelvic Partnership that has more info, sorry can't remember their website addy.

there are many causes of pain in pregnancy, and you should see your midwife to get official confirmation of anything you are worried about.

Hope this helps, and I hope the pain gets better...

Ali

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Thanks very much for that I will have a look for that I have never heard of it before. I am not too worried about it currently as its not all that painful and by the sounds of it it isn't threatening to me or my baby - but if it gets any worse I will mention it to midwife when I see her at 31 weeks (29 now so that sounds about right). It doesn't hurt to open my legs (to get in and out of car etc!) YET but will keep an eye on it.

chocaholic110

I am currently 26 weeks and started noticing the same pain when I stood up (or on one leg to put trousers on) quite early on. I have noticed that it is getting a bit worse and now also hurts when turning over in bed, getting out of the car or (bizarrely) picking up anything heavy. It's not constant though and it does go off when I sit down or walk about.

Sounds like the same sort of thing!

ab7167

I'd never heard of it either...

it's not dangerous to the baby per se, but there can be issues if by the time of the birth you can't open your legs at all. I was told that I may have to have the baby on all fours or standing up, as lying on my back with my knees open might be too painful. SPD can cause pain so severe that you need crutches or a wheelchair, but this really is a worst case scenario, and not something to panic about at this stage.

What will help (if it is SPD) is just to take things as easy as possible. I stopped work about 3 weeks before i had planned to, as it was getting difficult, but my job did involve moving around quite a lot. And using online shopping instead of going to Sainsbury's has helped as well.

Even if it doesn't hurt to open your legs now, try to keep them as closed as possible as it will help in the long run. I have a plastic carrier bag on the seat of my car, so I can go in bum first, then swing my legs round together into the footwell - plastic bag makes it easier to swivel.

scruffy96uk

forgot to say labour vibes to those in need especially fac!!!:dance:

Bun

Congrats Joe Millionaire! Max is a great name.
FAC - vibes going your way.........

beakerange

Hi Shelvis, Chocaholic and AB,

I have to concur with everything AB has said. I'm 32 weeks and exactly the same. I actually posted on here a few weeks back asking about the throbing (in what at the time felt like my "lips") but everyday day it just got that little bit worse. By Last Wed at Midwife app, was in pain and distress and she said SPD straight away. I'm at the hospital physio this Thursday so if I get any pearls of wisdom I'll post.

Big hugs to y'all - I feel your pain!!!!

miss_be

Hi guys,

I'm so happy to hear that things are moving on for the mummies and daddies. Congratulations! I hope everything goes well for you in the coming moments.

And for Fac I'm sending good vibes too. I hope it goes well for you!

I just wanted to post about the pains that people were saying above too. The SPD. I'm 22 weeks and whilst getting dressed for a fancy dress party on Saturday I had searing pains that went across my lower abdomen. They then changed into a pulse and burning ache that stopped right above my pubic bone (!) Since then it has moved around my hips sometimes and at other times its gone between my legs. As I'm sitting at the moment I can feel the tightness in my left hip. Does this sound like similar symptoms to what you others have experienced? As for sitting properly of course I was a laaaaady to start with (hmmmmm - dubious!)

I also wondered whether anyone else has been feeling really low. I've found that sometimes I'll come home and just feel absolutely worthless. I'll sit and have a cry about it and be comforted by my OH and it'll go away only to come back a day later. It is the most awful feeling and I don't like it. I was hoping that someone might have some words of wisdom about how to deal with these feelings. I realise that hormones are helping to push the feeling but when I'm caught in the middle of it knowing that doesn't help at all. So I'd be grateful for any pointers on this subject. Thank you, Be xxx