MSE pregnancy club II

daphne_descends

CG you have made it seem almost sweet with that! We'll all be wanting one now :rolleyes:

Shelvis, my midwife commented last time I saw her that she prefers a 'fresh' sample - I've had protein in a few of mine and since then I've always been asked how recent it was.

I have a million and one things to do today (and tomorrow, and the next day :rolleyes:) but I really can't be bothered, I'd rather sit here eating Rich Tea biscuits and waiting for one of you to go into labour.

PiscesPrincess

Has anyone felt like this during their pregnancy ?
I was overjoyed when I doscovered I was pregnant, and OH was the same. But now he seems to have lost interest and doesn't ever talk about it, ask me when my next appt is etc etc. I don't think he even knows how many weeks I am. I think I felt the baby move the other day, I mentioned it when we were talking to some friends. He hasn't asked about that either.

Worse thing that really upset me was when I suggested that we have the nursery in the room that my stepdaughter currently uses when she stays with us (2 nights a month). That room is the 2nd biggest after ours, but we have two other perfectly good rooms that she could use. Her current room would be next to ours and the bathroom, so really seems the most suitable.
He suggested we put the baby in the box room, which is the other end of the corridor to ours, and has no storage space.
We have hardly spoken the last few days, I can't get it out of my head that he has done the whole fatherhood thing already and it doesn't feel special this time..... I have cried almost constantly since our discussion.

I don't know how to talk to him about this, I just look at him and feel angry.
Perhaps this is just the baby hormones playing tricks with me, I don't know, but I can't see a way of getting myself out of this sadness and anger. I can feel the tears welling up now.

Thanks for reading, don't know who else to talk to, helps to write this you all you lovely ladies.

PP
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Ophie

Curious_George wrote: »

hope your feeling better now zoomy! i HATE not being able to sleep...i think i could cope with everything else if i had just had enough kip!
(still got the ear infections... dont you think on my 5th day of antibiotics I should be feeling better by now? )

and dont say that about all our sept girls going off at once! Ophie would wear a hole in her pacing carpet!

congrats also to Pjcity, tsstss7 and Bozbear, welcome aboard!

CG had an ear infectione for over 8 weeks now (3 lots of antibiotics later and still not gone) been told that it has to work its way out on its own now.

And you are right, all September babies stay where you are and wait your turn, don't all be going off at once. At least a day between you all. I may not post every day but I'm here like Big Sister watching you!!!

My carpet would be thread bare!!!

GIRLS, keep your legs crossed once one of you sets off!!!

xx

daphne_descends

PiscesPrincess wrote: »

Has anyone felt like this during their pregnancy ?
I was overjoyed when I doscovered I was pregnant, and OH was the same. But now he seems to have lost interest and doesn't ever talk about it, ask me when my next appt is etc etc. I don't think he even knows how many weeks I am. I think I felt the baby move the other day, I mentioned it when we were talking to some friends. He hasn't asked about that either.

Worse thing that really upset me was when I suggested that we have the nursery in the room that my stepdaughter currently uses when she stays with us (2 nights a month). That room is the 2nd biggest after ours, but we have two other perfectly good rooms that she could use. Her current room would be next to ours and the bathroom, so really seems the most suitable.
He suggested we put the baby in the box room, which is the other end of the corridor to ours, and has no storage space.
We have hardly spoken the last few days, I can't get it out of my head that he has done the whole fatherhood thing already and it doesn't feel special this time..... I have cried almost constantly since our discussion.

I don't know how to talk to him about this, I just look at him and feel angry.
Perhaps this is just the baby hormones playing tricks with me, I don't know, but I can't see a way of getting myself out of this sadness and anger. I can feel the tears welling up now.

Thanks for reading, don't know who else to talk to, helps to write this you all you lovely ladies.

PP
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I'm so sorry to hear you're feeling so down PP. Have you tried talking to your OH about how you feel - I think that's quite significant, that you think because he's done the father thing he's not interested and I doubt it's true at all but I can see why you'd feel that way. Maybe first time round he wasn't that involved either - maybe he doesn't see it as an issue. It hurts when someone doesn't share how we feel about things but it doesn't mean that there's a complete lack of interest. Perhaps he doesn't realise that even the little appointments are a big deal.

I don't believe in writing off how you feel as being down to hormones, though I do think they exaggerate things. I'm in a bit of a good streak at the moment but that aside, the last month has been really miserable for me. I feel completely lonely - and that's despite my OH being quite involved - he is not pregnant and will never understand quite how it feels - I feel so isolated and there have been days where I haven't even wanted to get out of bed. And then I tell myself, I should be getting excited, but it's not always that easy. I feel I've missed out on a lot and have many regrets about this pregnancy - no one has taken a single picture of me whilst pregnant. Stupid, but it makes me sad.

Anyway, sorry, I don't want to sidetrack. About the bedroom situation. I can understand why your OH might object to using the room your stepdaughter uses. Even though it's only 2 nights a month, personally I feel it's significant that she has her own space. When my parents divorced (I was 6) I never got my own room at my dads. I slept in the 'spare' room with boxes and suitcases. It's not very nice to feel like an outsider. You have perfectly practical reasons for wanting to swap the rooms around but the message could be 'the new baby is more important, off you go!'
That's not to say it wouldn't work at all, though. How old is your stepdaughter? If she would be up for it, you could make a big deal out of giving her a new room, decorating etc and letting her choose how she has it. If she is young enough maybe suggest that the room she is in is for babies, and now she's bigger she gets a better room? I'm not a parent yet so no idea how to deal with that sort of thing really, just thinking about what I think I'd have liked as a step-child.

Curious_George_2

fac73 wrote: »

CG you have made it seem almost sweet with that! We'll all be wanting one now :rolleyes:

can you imagine his squeaking voice as he gives you a one paw internal!
:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

just realised we all missed Yorkshirechicks post! sorry....
do you think they may be braxton hicks? maybe brought on by the position your sleeping in? if you havent already got one then buy a body pillow, wrap yourself around it and get the best sleep of your pregnancy! (im not getting a lot of sleep but i would have had a LOT less without my pilllow 'phil'... named because he 'fills' the bed )
and of course if your worried about the pains then call your midwife, thats what they are there for and trust me they would much rather that you phoned and put your mind at rest than sped endless nights in a panic that there may be something wrong

hippychick1 - congrats on joining team pink!

PiscesPrincess - i think you need to talk to him, you didnt get preggo on your own! it sounds like he is a bit worried about the huge changes that are coming, and maybe concerned how his daughter is going to take it, especially if she is turfed out of "her" room (even though i see what your saying about it making perfect sense for that to be babys room)
Fac73s advice about making a fuss of getting a new room is really good, and probably what i would do... a lick of paint and a few stickarounds or posters of the stuff she likes... maybe her name on the door?
that kind of thing could make all the difference and then everyone gets what they want.

and fac - i know what you mean about your OH being involved but not, my ex (DDs dad) was not as interested as i would have liked... i ALWAYS had to put his hand on my stomach or he would never have done it, and i always felt like a baby bore talking to him about it, even when he was the ONE person i should have been able to talk about it endlessly with,
it almost felt like i had pushed him inot it before he was ready even though it was a joint descision and she was very much planned
and there is one photo of me pregnant with my daughter and i took that myself (managed to chop my head out of it too! :rolleyes: )

luckily for me my OH now couldnt be more involved or more excited, it is SO different to last time round

Ophie - not happy to hear your ear infection has gone on so long! i couldnt bear this pain for another week, let alone months! if only i could take my beloved nurofen!

Agutka

PiscesPrincess wrote: »

Has anyone felt like this during their pregnancy ?

Basically, yes.
The pregnancy hormones didn't help, as they made everything seem so much worse, or made it harder to cope with my 'awful' relationship, but I have been through exactly the same with my OH. When I'm not hormonal I can explain his behaviour soooo much better. I had a long period a few weeks back when I just wanted to kill him, let alone divorce! I was in tears all the time and very very down. But it passed (good moan on here helped). And although he hasn't particularly changed, my perceptions have and I can cope much better.
I hope it is a phase for you too, sounds like he's not ready to let go of the 'normal' life you had. Typical maleness. Put a baby in a box room? Let's see how he copes with that when nothing is to hand at nappy-change time.
How is his relationship with his daughter? Maybe he's afraid to do anything to rock the boat... Talk to her, see how she feels about being moved...

Agutka

fac73 wrote: »

I feel I've missed out on a lot and have many regrets about this pregnancy - no one has taken a single picture of me whilst pregnant. Stupid, but it makes me sad.

OMG, that's sooooo me!
Hubby's never been a photo taker, he's really bad at it, considering the technology. But I am very disappointed that my own brother, who adores photography, who had taken millions of pictures of his pregnant, and not pregnant wife (some of which she has no idea we've seen :eek:), and of course Zillions of photos of his son. He has taken one photo of me, that I haven't seen, only because his son was climbing on my bump.

I keep meaning to do it myself, but keep forgetting. Besides, would need some nice background and at the moment that is just not possible... I've stopped dreaming of one of those weekly bump update photo albums... *huge sigh*...

PiscesPrincess

Thanks all, I feel a little better already.:A Am glad to hear that I am not alone, and that

I don't think his daughter will have a problem with the room move at all, it's more his attitude that concerns me. He is probably afraid to rock the boat, he has the same attitude when dealing with his demanding ex-wife. It seems easier to upset me, than them :rolleyes: .

We have another bedroom that she would love to have, as it has an ensuite (it seems even this wasn't an option for the baby!). It's just the fact that he dismissed it without even considering our babys needs. This is a baby that we thought we would never have, a little miracle in fact. I feel so much love for my little bump , it hurts that OH can't show me the same feelings.

I will try and talk to him but don't want to do it when I feel so angry. I know I'll end up saying the wrong thing.
Thanks for all your advice , it really has helped. I hope things will get better from now.

PP
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emma_b_4

:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: for the sweep picture

have rachel and sarah not checked in today ????

Bun

Curious_George wrote: »

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Is that the noise you make when they do it?