Only inviting friends with children to a gathering/party for your child's birthday?

emweaver

If it bothers you that much tell them but I think you are being too sensitive.

As others have said kids parties are for the kids and sometimes the parents sometimes stay so why would they invite you. I doubt they are inviting your other friends but their children.

view

emweaver wrote: »

If it bothers you that much tell them but I think you are being too sensitive..

arrrghhh! it doesn't bother me so much... again, have a read of the posts above... I was just interested in hearing what others experience was and found it a bit of an oddity that.. oh nevermind... just go back and read

fluffnutter

I wonder whether your sense of hurt is mainly to do with not having had children of your own yet, view. Not that there's anything wrong with that of course; I can recall feeling really similar before I managed to have my son.

Keep trying to have your own but try not to be too mindful of some 'club' you're not part of. It feels like that at times when you're struggling to conceive - I know that, but I think that's mainly about your own sorrow about still being without your own, rather than any external reason that others can help you with.

emweaver

view wrote: »

arrrghhh! it doesn't bother me so much... again, have a read of the posts above... I was just interested in hearing what others experience was and found it a bit of an oddity that.. oh nevermind... just go back and read

I did read it all but if it didn't bother you then you would not of started this thread.

Person_one

fluffnutter wrote: »

I wonder whether your sense of hurt is mainly to do with not having had children of your own yet, view. Not that there's anything wrong with that of course; I can recall feeling really similar before I managed to have my son.

Keep trying to have your own but try not to be too mindful of some 'club' you're not part of. It feels like that at times when you're struggling to conceive - I know that, but I think that's mainly about your own sorrow about still being without your own, rather than any external reason that others can help you with.

I'd feel hurt too, and have no desire to be in 'the club'.

View, I'm really surprised by the responses you've got here, for what its worth, I completely understand where you're coming from even if nobody else does!

view

fluffnutter wrote: »

I wonder whether your sense of hurt is mainly to do with not having had children of your own yet, view. Not that there's anything wrong with that of course; I can recall feeling really similar before I managed to have my son.

thanks fluffnutter for your kind words xx

view

Person_one wrote: »

View, I'm really surprised by the responses you've got here, for what its worth, I completely understand where you're coming from even if nobody else does!

thanks Person_one... glad I'm not losing my mind here! ;-) I guess it's just what you grew up with or are exposed to... some people know what I mean and some don't. Simples

anyway, I actually feel a lot better since chatting on here..never was hugely concerned but just always niggled in the back of my mind sort of thing... it's funny how some friends invite you to these things and some don't but I really don't think there is anything sinister - just like this forum some 'do' and some 'don't'... that's what makes us all unique

view

ha @ emweaver....

brilliant

fluffnutter

Person_one wrote: »

I'd feel hurt too, and have no desire to be in 'the club'.

I agree. But desperately wanting your own and struggling to conceive lends even more of a sadness to this kind of thing.

fluffnutter

For what it's worth, view, I make an extra special effort to include one of my friends in my son's life. I hope she doesn't notice because it would probably appear patronising, but I know she really wanted kids and I know she adores all her friends' kids. The thought that I could stop including her in stuff in favour of 'mates with kids' just because I'd managed to procreate but she hadn't would make me ashamed of myself.

At the end of the day, though, I see her because she's my mate and she's great company. Kids, or no kids, people are still your mates.