It's almost prom time!

pigpen

Poppy9 wrote: »

My brother and his now wife shared the same surname so she said there was no reason to get married. She changed her mind 10 years later when people were telling her that his ex wife had more rights than her!!!

Would you marry someone if your name would then be Lily Lill???

I don't think the exwife thing is the same any more.. OH's family would inherit if he died as our children are still very young and my children would inherit if I did.. we don't need to be married.

Spendless

pigpen wrote: »

My daughters dress was £375.. you'd spend more on a wedding dress or most would and she is never getting married (esp to her current partner whose surname is the same as her first name bar 1 letter!). She didn't have a silly limo or anything and she got so little it was one expense i was happy to fork out for.. DD2 prom this year and she hasn't yet mentioned a dress.. I have the money put by!!! I have 4 years to save for the next prom

I think I ended up spending about £200 on the boys and DD1's was £525 with everything in.. shoes, hair, jewellry, dress, etc

Don't you have 100 younger daughters to pass the dress onto? Could work out the cheapest dress per wear for the youngest's prom.

FatVonD

pigpen wrote: »

Would you marry someone if your name would then be Lily Lill???

Hey, it never did Siouxsie Sioux any harm

Person_one

pigpen wrote: »

Would you marry someone if your name would then be Lily Lill???

I don't think the exwife thing is the same any more.. OH's family would inherit if he died as our children are still very young and my children would inherit if I did.. we don't need to be married.

You do realise its not compulsory to change your name on marriage?

(That said, my first name is also a last name, I think the only situation where I actually would change my name would be so that they could match!)

geri1965_2

DianneB wrote: »

My school had Leavers Ball's back in the 70"s, we all wore long dresses which were in fashion at the time anyway and the boys wore suits. Did our own hair and makeup and got there on the bus!! It had been a school tradition since the year dot so Prom's are nothing new. The only difference is the mad amount of money spent on them these days.

Did you get a fake tan? They seem to be de rigueur these days.

Person_one

geri1965 wrote: »

Did you get a fake tan? They seem to be de rigueur these days.

Fake tans were done yourself at home for my leaver's ball in 2001. Lots of orange hands and tide marks on the feet. Not me thankfully, but there are a lot of people in my photos who look like they've been varnished!

We did have limos too, but kids from the 'rival' school egged them all as they arrived at the hotel where the ball was.

I don't think there's anything wrong with marking the transition of leaving school with a formal event like a ball, its a big deal, the end of childhood, really. It only needs to happen once though, not every single year from nursery up!

System

geri1965 wrote: »

Did you get a fake tan? They seem to be de rigueur these days.

Hehe

I was just looking at my year 11 pic and i'm incredibly pale :rotfl:

That said i was going though a goth phase

Dunroamin

Poppy9 wrote: »

They used to be called "balls" but that sounds too old fashioned.

My neices and nephews in their late twenties all attended prom. If anything they were more formal than now. Then boys had to wear suit and girls formal dresses. Also they had to go in couples so you had the pressure of dates.

Now many boys wear trousers, shirt and ties with converse. Girls can wear short or long and can be quite informal. Also very few go in couples now. Instead they prefer to go as groups of friends either same sex or mixed.

If your relatives are in their late twenties then they would only have been doing this ten years ago - hardly long enough to call it a tradition!

pigpen

Person_one wrote: »

You do realise its not compulsory to change your name on marriage?

(That said, my first name is also a last name, I think the only situation where I actually would change my name would be so that they could match!)

then what is the point of getting married? You can just live together and spend your money on something worthwhile!

Spendless wrote: »

Don't you have 100 younger daughters to pass the dress onto? Could work out the cheapest dress per wear for the youngest's prom.

not unless I have 103 children which I am pretty certain I don't.. Plus they are all different body shapes so what fits one looks stupid on half the others.. or the colour is wrong and why should I not spend that money on my girls? We don't do holidays which most people wouldn't think twice about spending 3 times that amount on an annual basis... one dress every 2-3 years isn't anywhere near as much as an annual holiday.

MrsE_2

pigpen wrote: »

did you read the bit about the surname???

And if she is stupid enough to get married she can pay for it herself.

Yes I did.......
Marriage is not deed poll....
Having a surname one letter different from your boyfriend is not the same as being married.


What an odd comment & an odd response??????