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Worst Time Of My Life Ever!

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  • SW - I have to tell you how much I admire you, you are an increadible person who what ever the outcome is has done everything right.

    I am shocked at the insensativity of your wife regarding the baby and you are right that is there rubbish for them to sort out.

    I must apologise for not having been supportive this month a bit tied up with my own issues.

    Stay strong you are a fabulous person

    SFx
  • Hey SW

    Sorry to hear things aren't going well again - these things will take time and there will be a lot of ups and downs - the age old rollercoaster I guess.

    Chin up!
  • catewithers
    catewithers Posts: 502 Forumite
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    Hi SW - still here following your thread and thinking of you often.

    Hang in there. It will be very up and down for quite some time.

    Big hugs.
  • luckymum_3
    luckymum_3 Posts: 136 Forumite
    hi,so sorry for you...its hard but it will work its self out..
    good luck and lots a hugs...
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  • Snaggles
    Snaggles Posts: 19,503 Forumite
    All you can do is try your very best SW, that way you wont look back and wonder 'what if'. I really hope it works out for you, but you know where we are if you need us.
    "I wasn't wrong, I just wasn't right enough."
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  • southwester_2
    southwester_2 Posts: 639 Forumite
    Weekend away

    Well took OH to Cribbs Causeway and we had a good time, found hotel, meal at local restuaruant and then off to her workmates party, which went very well. She was very attentive to me, which is not usually like her, she was making a big effort. Still to early for the attractiveness bit (if you know what i mean) to come back but lots of cuddles

    Sunday on the way home I asked her how she felt at the party, she said she enjoyed it but she felt a little uncomfortable talking to her colleagues knowing that I wouldn't be happy about it. I told her I didnt actually worry about it as she was more attentive to me, now the bad bit.

    Got home and dont know why but had the worst images I have had of what happened, was very quiet, she broke down and said she couldn't go on with us walking on eggshells all the time. All saturdays good work undone!!!

    We talked about me leaving, she doesnt want that but I said I couldnt go on the way it was and couldnt wait forever, which she understands. Very upsetting night for both of us, Im staying at the moment and seeing what happens!!
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  • Lucy1982_2
    Lucy1982_2 Posts: 4,611 Forumite
    Oh No!!

    Sounds like you had a tough time. I'm not going to offer advice as I'm not sure what would help. But I thinking of you and hope that everything will work out soon.

    Take care of yourself
    Current debt - £16,300 :(
    Debt at worst 17/03/2011 - £18,067.62:eek::eek:
    :ANot going anywhere else, ever again :A
  • catewithers
    catewithers Posts: 502 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture Combo Breaker
    SW - I'm so sorry that the end of the weekend was so awful for you both. It's such a shame when the first half seems to have been so positive.

    I can understand why you feel like leaving. All I'd say is don't make any decisions while you're still upset from Sunday night. Wait until you've calmed down so it's a rational decision not a reaction to hurt and confusion.

    Thinking of you.
  • SortingIt_2
    SortingIt_2 Posts: 401 Forumite
    I think you are both very brave people in different ways and you have a huge mountain to climb which you both know wasn't going to be easy. But I have to say I really really admire you for your will and determination and for sticking by the woman that you love so much. These images in time will get easier and they won't affect you so much - give it time - it hasn't been that long although I am sure it feels like it. I am positive if you are meant to be and love each other as much as it seems that you will get through it, if you both didn't want to it would have been over by now.

    Take care and keep posting. You have a lot of people who care about you here. xx
  • catewithers
    catewithers Posts: 502 Forumite
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    SW - I've PM'd you.
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