Worst Time Of My Life Ever!

dianadors

You dont stay positive very long do you.

southwester_2

I am positive DD, just fed up with it all, ill still do whatever it takes

southwester_2

OK heres the deal, cant get more positive than this

Told her we are going away on that weekend together, not playing cricket, deal is we spend all day together, away from usual surroundings and enjoy each others company!

Then have a good blast in the evening

in_debt_again_but_dealing_with_it

It's a rocky road Southwester, don't even think of whats to come or even take each day at a time, my experience (almost 6 years ago and still together) it was very much an hour or even minutes at a time. My mood swings were horrendous and I swung from hatred, to despair, to hope and joy from one mood to the next. I was pregnant at the time of DH affair and "she" was a very visible prescence, but also a virtual one (DH totally besotted) which only aggrevated the situation. I found my stength on the Dear Denise website just as you are on here and it really was my lifesaver. Here I am 6 years on and when my family (dh, sons and daughter) sit down to dinner laughing and chatting I have absolutely no regrets about staying and working at it. Please stay strong and hold the faith - you will know in your heart if its worth it. Take care.
IDA
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dianadors

Well done for the positive approach!!! You have to get back to enjoying each others company and discovering what you have forgotten you liked about each other. You do right to get rid of external distractions. Enjoy your weekend. I'm still in your corner and very proud of you for what you are doing. xx

Lucy1982_2

Well done. I hope everything goes weel. Have a fabulous time and enjoy each other

x

southwester_2

Thanks guys

Had a really good chat last night, for the first time she told me a few things, like me not putting her first in the past, cant argue with that, it's true but I have started to change that. I am pleased now that she is starting to open up. I also told her a few things that I didnt like and what she doesnt do for me, (not sexually for all you filthy gits out there), shoiwng affection things like that.

Onwards and upwards and if it dont work out - hey ho!!

Lucy1982_2

I'm glad that you have started talking. This is going to be key and now it's started it doesn't have to stop, if you need to talk to each other about something sit down and do it.

It's when things get bottled up we all run into problems.

Looks like things have taken their first baby steps in the right direction. Keep it up and see where is takes you.

x

affordmylife

Can I just say that there is always some fault on both sides. Maybe you did not put her first sometimes. It does not excuse her behaviour but a lesson can be learned for us all. Nothing is more important than our marriages. Hopefully our husbands/wives will still be there when we are too old for cricket or whatever else we put before our families. We could all be nicer to each other im sure. I think its brilliant that you are going away for the night together. Just relax and enjoy each others company. Be kind to her. Remember she may be grieving for a lost love. If you want to stay with her you will need to allow her heart time to recover from this loss and during this time you can build up your trust again and heal your own pain together. All the best SW

Snaggles

I'm so glad to hear upbeat posts from you (making jokes, that's got to be a good sign that the fire is back in your belly, or whatever the right saying is...). I hope you have a fantastic weekend and can keep the lines of communication open.