Crying and more crying and she hasn't even gone yet!

stebiz

Well I've been at work tonight and had time to collect my thoughts. Came in feeling pretty strong bearing in mind I'm a bit upset (depression). Asked my wife and daughter how the evening had been and was told that there's been a few tears. I had a feeling there might have been as when I went out to work my daughter had spent quite a few times going backwards and forwards to the bathroom.

Anyway pleased to say I stayed strong and had a few words with her. Told her to have a bloody good time. Phone/Email/Text whenever she likes as there may be times she can't get a signal and to not worry (see I did listen to you lot ).

Now all I have to do is part two in about 10 hours. Hold my breath. Hope she doesn't get upset and then pray she has a lovely holiday.

msb5262

stebiz wrote: »

Well I've been at work tonight and had time to collect my thoughts. Came in feeling pretty strong bearing in mind I'm a bit upset (depression). Asked my wife and daughter how the evening had been and was told that there's been a few tears. I had a feeling there might have been as when I went out to work my daughter had spent quite a few times going backwards and forwards to the bathroom.

Anyway pleased to say I stayed strong and had a few words with her. Told her to have a bloody good time. Phone/Email/Text whenever she likes as there may be times she can't get a signal and to not worry (see I did listen to you lot ).

Now all I have to do is part two in about 10 hours. Hold my breath. Hope she doesn't get upset and then pray she has a lovely holiday.

Fantastic work, stebiz. Well done. You've taken lots on board from this thread - hopefully it will enable your daughter to have a great time, and release you from worrying about her all the time!

Sleep well, all is going to be fine.

MsB

stebiz

Oh !!!! this is going to be hard. She's in floods of tears. Still wants to go but just hates the thought of 15 days away. It's actually her who is finding it harder than me at the moment. Staying well clear of the situation as I want to be as hard as nails for her this morning. I'm sure she'll be fine as soon as she meets up with her mates in 90 minutes.

msb5262

Stay strong OP, she's just screwing herself up for the moment of parting from you all (and the moment of actually leaving the country!). You are doing the right thing by trying to hide your own anxiety; it will make it easier for her to go. Once she's gone, you can all breathe a bit more freely...remember, she's going on a fantastic adventure, and she'll be with friends in a well organised group. What a lucky girl, and I'm sure she'll appreciate it. It is quite normal to find the moment of parting difficult and once that's done, things will get easier.
Best wishes
MsB

fawd1

She'll be fine. Tell her to stop being so silly. It may annoy her, but maybe she needs to be annoyed and then she'll want to go away. Or want you to go away at least! I'd give my right arm for 15 days in New York. Plus maybe remind her that she'll probably want to leave home in a year or so, so best she mans up now, whilst she's leaving home for a short period in a very protected environment.

When I left home at 19 to go and live in Paris, my dad kept telling me I could come home whenever I wanted. Which was lovely. My mum was smarter though. She told me that under no circumstances was I allowed home until after at least 3 months had passed. That way I knew that I was going to be there for longer and would have to make the best of it. And I'm glad she did. If it had been up to me, I would have come home after week 1. I ended up having the best 6 months ever.

Bennifred

fawd1 wrote: »

She'll be fine. Tell her to stop being so silly. It may annoy her, but maybe she needs to be annoyed and then she'll want to go away. Or want you to go away at least! I'd give my right arm for 15 days in New York. Plus maybe remind her that she'll probably want to leave home in a year or so, so best she mans up now, whilst she's leaving home for a short period in a very protected environment.

When I left home at 19 to go and live in Paris, my dad kept telling me I could come home whenever I wanted. Which was lovely. My mum was smarter though. She told me that under no circumstances was I allowed home until after at least 3 months had passed. That way I knew that I was going to be there for longer and would have to make the best of it. And I'm glad she did. If it had been up to me, I would have come home after week 1. I ended up having the best 6 months ever.

When our children went off to university for the first time we told them they weren't having a weekend at home for at least one month - best way for them to settle in.

MissKeith

I remember going travelling around America alone for three months when I was 19, no tears from me or my family but when I got stuck in Chicago due to a delayed flight and missed connection and called my dad sobbing because I couldn't get in contact with the person meeting me in Iowa, my mum completely lost her head and said "Shall we go get her?!". We've never let her live that down haha.

On the flip side, my dad did some detective work and managed to contact the person who was meeting me to tell them I wpuld be six hours later than expected, the whole trip went smoothly from there and I had the most amazing summer of my life. It made me feel very empowered and independent and really improvws my self esteem. She will have a great time but I would advise to not contact you too much, I made that mistake to begin with (I started taking trips away without my parents when I was 10) and it only made me homesick.

stebiz

Well she's gone. and will be back in 15 days. She asked me to drop her bag off at the door and then she'd walk after as she didn't want to cry in front of her mates. Did that. Gave her a big hug and then came home and did the same to my wife. Now just feel a bit empty. Hope she has the time of her life.:)

mum26

I hope she has a fabulous time

Do you have anything fun planned with your wife and other children while the eldest is away?

stebiz

mum26 wrote: »

I hope she has a fabulous time

Do you have anything fun planned with your wife and other children while the eldest is away?

Not yet. I was only talking to my wife about that yesterday. But a lot of outdoor activities are out of the equation at the moment because of the cold weather. But we are thinking. I've already asked my middle daughter if she'd like a friend staying over for a night at the weekend which she jumped at.