Frugal Frump to Fab-u-lous Spring Equinox to Summer Solstice

lessonlearned

lizzie157 wrote: »

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Not much to report here DD2 is still ill - have had her to the dr's twice this week. We thought she had a urinary infection but tests showed nothing, dr says further tests are needed as the sample she did for her showed some changes. Needless to say am a bit worried now in case it's something more serious.

H has been moaning at every turn insisting DD2 is faking it and once the weekend came she'd be well - she isn't.

Sorry to hear your DD2 is struggling. Poor girl - that is not pleasant at all. I do hope it's nothing serious.

My friend's daughter struggled for years with non specified UTI's and there were times when she was in a lot of pain a lot of the time.

She is now in her mid 20's and still has to be extremely careful.

Your H should be ashamed of himself:mad:

Well I've had a lovely morning with DS1 - we went to view several houses in his target area, had a good mooch round on foot. A perfect morning for it because we could work out which streets had the best sun angles etc.

I then found what could be my dream project - different area - a beautiful old cottage built in 1756 - smack bang next door to where my Auntie S's son used to live. Talk about Deja Vu.

It's funny but I've had a couple of conversations about this very thing with my family and friends. I have the strangest feeling that my life is turning full circle. I seem to be naturally gravitating towards all my old haunts and the places I knew when I was a youngster.

Is this me going slightly dotty in my old age.......:rotfl:

We only viewed the house from the outside. I'm not sure if I dare go in because I just know I will want to buy it and it would be stretching my budget to the absolute limit. I'll mull it over.

It's a glorious afternoon so I'm off out into the garde.....

WelshWoofer

Lizzie - hope your daughter is feeling a bit better today? UTIs are horrible (I used to have cystitis a lot) and make you thoroughly miserable. Poor girl.

LL - its funny how life sometimes goes full circle - the house sounds lovely. These days I'm a great believer in the "only one life, go for it" approach. Why worry about the whys and wherefores - if it feels right go for it.

Well, I am officially fabulous apparently! I can be for a few hours at a time at least! Lots of texts from the fling yesterday (who is visiting family this weekend) - all very complimentary and enthusiastic. I think he's quite keen.

I sorted the garden yesterday - took all morning but I'm not ashamed of it now - its not exactly Kew Gardens but at least you can see the dog in the back garden now:rotfl:
I've been gardening in a bikini top - might have shocked the neighbours but who cares!:D I'm probably the talk of the cul-de-sac this week anyway!

Need to dye my hair and work on the tan a bit if the sun stays out today - I've also started on a stomach crunch mission, a bit more conscious of it these days (!). Its flat but could do with being more toned - my thighs though are a completely different matter- I think liposuction may be the only answer - will get the hoover out later :rotfl:

lessonlearned

WW - What with "flings" and flaunting yourself in the garden.....

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

I bet your neighbours have you down as a Scarlet Woman. Good for you;).

Yes I keep thinking about that house, I can see the finished result in my mind's eye.......

I'm still not entirely sure how much my endowments will come in at and I won't know for another month or so. Hence my reluctance to commit myself to anything just yet. I know OH would just adore it.

He phoned me last night and I actually understood him for the first few sentences. This time it was not my imagination, there is definitely a slight improvement. Tiredness soon set in and he could only manage a few short sentences before his speech became unintelligible again. Still it's a start.

Dare I hope for more

The one thing I miss more than anything else is not being able to chat properly. Being in a wheelchair is not the end of the world, but being unable to communicate is the worst part of his illness. TBH - I think we would both settle for that.

As DS1 put it yesterday, if we can just get OH to the stage where he can sit upright in a smaller wheelchair so we could get him out and about and where he could engage in conversation again.....

It's a beautiful day here and DS2's birthday. Poor lamb has to work but he's hoping to get off early.

Right time to get cracking - the birds are twittering away so it's breakfast al fresco then off to see OH.

Have a fab weekend.

fedupandskint

LL - It sounds like your OH is improving a little - I hope this progresses for you all

As for me, yesterday had a fab day with mum who kindly treated me to 2 new skirts reduced down to £5 from £32.50 each. One will be nice and cool for summer and the other one I'm saving for interviews as it will look lovely with a smart blouse - its a checked pattern grey pencil skirt with a belt - looks lovely on and not too wintery heavy.

Fabness today was the usual long weekend dog walk, a lovely run in the warm sun and now relaxing with a coffee before tackling that garden tidy up listening to the cricket dreaming a fling for me - I wish!

Kiwisaver_2

Nice to hear everyones good news. After a week of on and off rain the sun finally came out today, so I have had quite a good workout tidying up the garden, followed by a long soak in the bath.

I did a most un-fab thing and bought a 5 x magnification mirror - OMG that's so :eek: I had no idea that my face and neck had aged quite so much. I can see I shall be doing a whole lot of research to find the latest miracle to reverse the signs of aging.

To spare my blushes at yoga again tomorrow, I have sorted my tootsies with some new sparkly OPI Liquid Sand and I'm about to go look in that horrid mirror again to tidy up my eyebrows.

maman

:wave:back from my mini break and good to catch up with everyone's news.

We had a good time but it did feel more like a winter break with light evenings, very odd. Managed to look fairly fab despite all the layers and more soft water playing havoc with my hair! Really liked Buxton and Portmeirion which I'd never visited before.

Get you ww:D it would seem all the fabbing (including positive thinking) is paying off!

Great news about the medication LL.:)

Glad you're having a few days off pod, despite the reason.
Sorry to hear that OH is still behaving true to form lizzie. Did you make enquiries at Women's Aid? I was reading this week about the 'silver splitters': people who wait until their 50s and 60s before deciding they can stand it no more. Don't wait until then and waste half your life. I made my decision that I wanted something better when I was approaching 30. I just couldn't imagine any more of the same!

I'm still on the search for bikinis for my holidays and now have 5 waiting for me to try on! I tried on the tops in store (3 in Debenhams and 2 in Sainsbury's) so have brought home different sized bottoms to see what looks best. As LL said it's 25% off clothes in Sainsbury's this weekend so I had a look when doing the food shop. I also got a pair of 'Teresa May' shoes. They're leopard print with kitten heels: half price and then 25% off so I paid about £6.50! Dove body wash and John Frieda was also on a good offer so quite a good shopping trip. I ate all sorts when I was away so it's good to have bought in a load of fruit and veg for healthy eating. I'm away again next month so want to get my weight at it's lowest before I go. It's strange but I always crave vegetables when I get home from staying in hotels.


Back soon.;)

fedupandskint

Check me out today - garden tidied up a lot with lots of dandelions removed, 2 long dog walks, run done, bathroom cleaned, floors swept and mopped, hoovered and 2 loads of washing dried outside.

Just leaves a little pile of ironing for tomorrow, a quick swish around with a duster, 2 lots of washing and all done!

Alongside the usual long dog walks, a run - although legs feel a little achy right now! - and MUST do some study tomorrow - an hour in the morning and 2 hours in the afternoon.

Hope everyone enjoyed this sunny Sunday!

lessonlearned

Wow - Sparkles - how do you cram all that lot in.....

Had a lovely evening with DS2, we lit the chiminea and sat in the garden till late just chatting. He didn't want to celebrate his birthday going out on the razzle because he is at work today. In his words the garden centre is likely to be "rammed" today.

Looks like another lovely day here. I am actually starting to develop a nice light tan. At least I don't look quite as "pealy-wally".

Going to wash the sofa throws and some winter knitwear. Hope that's not tempting fate.......:rotfl:

WelshWoofer

Morning all!
A nice day here too so far but the forecast is bad for this afternoon so will get out and about this morning to make the most of it.
I spent much of the day out in the sun in the garden yesterday and have woken up with white bits! Isn't it funny how you always feel better when you have a tan? I think it helps to deflect a multitude of sins.

Get this - I'm "magnificent"! The latest from the fling :rotfl:
He obviously can't see me now shuffling around in a dressing gown, sniffing and sneezing and waiting for the antihistamines to kick in!

Plans for today....get the dog walked for an hour or so, pop to the shops to see if there's anything fabulous to buy (not the big shopping centre, just the local town), do a bit of DIY and get some fabbing done - eye brows, nails and toenails.

Hope everyone has a good bank holiday!

evilsquid1603

hello everyone! sorry ive been MIA. life has been throwing everything it could at me over the past few months.

I moved house with my OH. we couldnt afford it, i was worried about the consequences of finding ourselves in a hole we wouldnt be able to dig ourselves out of, i told him this and he told me i was being stupid and threatened to divorce me if i didnt move. so off i moved to Wigan with him and one of his friends. he set it up to me as our family home with a friend staying with us as a favour to him, instead i found myself living in what was just a student house. he didnt care about the house or me, once his spare room, playstation and beer fridge were in and working, that was it.

i barely saw him whilst we were there. he would come in from work, get changed, go on the playstation with our housemate and start drinking. he'd only come into our room once or twice for 5 mins at a time when he felt like gracing me with with his presence. then after a few weeks when i started telling him i was busy and refusing to fawn over him in the 5 mins he decided to give me i was apparently a selfish b*tch that didn't care about him. we only went out 3 or 4 times and everytime our housemate came with us. the only time we spent time as a couple was if i went and sat in his spare room with him or he decided he wanted s*x. then he got angry whenever i said i havent seen you properly for days, leave me alone.

he drank every day without fail. literally from the moment he got in to going to bed. he kept staying up most of the night and wouldn't come to bed either. he was having at least 4 cans a night, shots of jaegermeister or absinthe, rum and at least once a week hed have a bender and drink a whole bottle of neat gin in a night on top of all the above. if i refused to drink or had one and said id had enough, i just got talked to like i was a party pooper and a wierdo. in the past few weeks, he used to wake up on a saturday and sunday and immediately open a beer. i used to wake up about 8.30 and he would already be drinking. ive apparently spent £1320 in tesco this quarter. i had a food budget of £300 that i haven't spent all of as ive had to bail him out and i also spent some in asda. all we bought in tesco was booze and 1 big shop. shows how much he drank!

he was a nightmare with money. he got paid on friday, demanded i take him to Tesco and then spent most of his wages on booze. hed then spend at least £40 on dominoes and get wasted. on saturday he usually got another takeaway and then would get another £40 dominos on sunday as sunday dinner. hed then ask me for money on Monday to get to work as hed spent it all and ive been bailing him out because all his bill money and rent was also wasted on drink.

he told me at every given opportunity that i didnt do a proper job, he earnt more than me and i didnt contribute to the house. he expected me to be his servant. he refused to wash the dishes as he didnt cook in the kitchen. nevermind all the glasses and plates he used. he would make sarcastic comments at me when it wasnt done and just left the whole house a mess. it took me 2 full days to clean the place one weekend and he didnt even say thank you, he just went on his playstation and drank. when i went to get my things on saturday, the leftovers of the food i made him the night i left over a week ago were still on the side in the kitchen growing hair!

i realised that my quickest way to work was past where they both worked so i offered to drop them off on the way and pick them up on the main road if i quickly pulled in at a bus stop and so save them both £20 a week train fare. i had to set off one hour earlier to get him to work because he started at 8am and i didnt until 9am and i had to go and sit in work every morning for nearly an hour to help them out but i got told i was selfish and didn't do favours for anyone because i wouldn't drop him off and pick him up literally at the door and my time wasnt worth anything. in the end i caved in i did it.

we had one massive row because despite me telling him numerous times to watch his bill money and make sure he had enough, he went into unauthorised overdraft and expected me to bail him out. i told him, again, that he needed to watch when bills went out and save up bill money each week and he didnt speak to me for 2 days and told me i talked down to him, talked to him like a child and thought i was better than him. he still expected me to drop him off and pick him up from the door at work though!

every time i told him i was out one night for a work do or something, i told him as soon as i knew and hed just go ok then go back on his playstation. then hed make plans for where i was taking him that weekend and when i reminded him i was out we had rows that id not told him anything about this and had just sprung it on him now once hed made plans. in the end, our housemate pointed out to him that hed heard me tell him as soon as i knew that i was out.

we had a blazing row and i left. our housemate was the one telling me to calm down and talk it through whilst OH was on his playstation drinking as usual. i loaded the car and went. he then had the cheek to start skulking around in the shadows downstairs and cry! i went back the day after and he did the same thing.

a day after i got my stuff he asked me if we could be friends. I've told him i want my decree absolute in my hands before i even have that conversation with him. hes since deleted our marriage on facebook and deleted me as a friend so at least i dont have to worry about seeing him on there.

he text me the other day asking for a laptop charger that was falling apart back and that conversation ended with him giving me his computer as a spare! nothing surprises me with him anymore.

im glad im at home now, it was a weight off my shoulders going. i cant believe i put up with it for so long!

i also got offered a training contract at work starting september so my plan is to get this all sorted out, make myself look fab and be ready to start that in september looking fab!