Nice people thread part 8 - worth the wait

lostinrates

vivatifosi wrote: »

I've been married 20 years and took husband's name as wasn't keen on mine and liked his better. Didn't realise until after this, what impact this had in career terms. Had to go reintroduce myself to a lot of people who hadn't a clue who I was. In hindsight, this was not such a good career move, but I do prefer the name I have now. Plus I have a brother and nephews to ensure the other name has continued, which also in hindsight, I'm very happy about. Hindsight is a wonderful thing.

Phew. All caught up now.

DH and I have said that if we could go back ten years we'd choose a new name that was just our own. Neither families. . We have other friends who have taken both names , particularly one couple where the bride's father died in the year preceding the wedding and she was one of three girls. The families are all lovely, friendly and warm people and it seemed natural to both of the couple to take both names.

I tend to get known my whichever first name people know me by anyway. . DH less so, accept in Italy.


My dad, dh's dad and DH all do something I particularly love...they book restaurants in their first names. Its entirely unpretentious and charming. It does mean they get called mr first name all evening in restaurants where they are not known . There are places in London where if you go in with my dad no one will take money from you. Or if they do you are loaded up with extras.....drinks, coffees....a little plate of something special from the kitchen chef thought you might like to try. . It's like eating out with a gangster.

neverdespairgirl

It's not yet 10am, and it's already seriously hot here in town! Fierce sunshine, no breeze. I feel like a lizard - luckily, I'm not in court today, so I can wear a very thin cotton dress, instead of suit / formal shoes / horsehair wig / collar / woollen gown.

vivatifosi

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

It's not yet 10am, and it's already seriously hot here in town! Fierce sunshine, no breeze. I feel like a lizard - luckily, I'm not in court today, so I can wear a very thin cotton dress, instead of suit / formal shoes / horsehair wig / collar / woollen gown.

Do courts/chambers have air conditioning or do they really make you suffer when you are in your outfit?

I'm trying to remember doing jury service. I just remember a stuffy wood-paneled room with no windows. If that had no A/C it would be awful.

neverdespairgirl

vivatifosi wrote: »

Do courts/chambers have air conditioning or do they really make you suffer when you are in your outfit?

I'm trying to remember doing jury service. I just remember a stuffy wood-paneled room with no windows. If that had no A/C it would be awful.

Chambers almost never do. Some might - but none of the ones I've been in have it. They are almost all listed buildings, so it would be tricky.

A few of the modern courts have air-con. Most don't.

The Royal Courts of Justice doesn't (on the Strand) but it tends to be cooler in there than most buildings, because it's all stone.

michaels

lostinrates wrote: »

My dad, dh's dad and DH all do something I particularly love...they book restaurants in their first names. Its entirely unpretentious and charming. It does mean they get called mr first name all evening in restaurants where they are not known . There are places in London where if you go in with my dad no one will take money from you. Or if they do you are loaded up with extras.....drinks, coffees....a little plate of something special from the kitchen chef thought you might like to try. . It's like eating out with a gangster.

I do that but I guess given that my name is fairly 'common' I guess there is the chance for some interesting mix-ups

Edit - I also do it with the telephone CS people and insist if they are going to use my first name in an over-familiar way then I will use there's too and make sure I wish them a pleasant day at the end of the call

lostinrates

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

It's not yet 10am, and it's already seriously hot here in town! Fierce sunshine, no breeze. I feel like a lizard - luckily, I'm not in court today, so I can wear a very thin cotton dress, instead of suit / formal shoes / horsehair wig / collar / woollen gown.

Cities are horrid in the heat. It's hot enough in the farm yard where we get the mini city effect, concrete and courtyard, trapping heat and bouncing sun and acting like a massive storage heater.

Positive results for boosting temps in the garden though, and the local gliding club seem to get insane results off heat rising from our farm yard as we get amazing displays from them in their funny silent little danger machines. (Dh's uncle died in one a couple of years ago).

I'm in the eats facing sitting room ATM. Cleaning (long overdue:o) and taking breaks. . It's beautifully cool, about nineteen when I took the heat control thingy out of here and put it back in the back hall. The east facing window is open, and there is a window box full of vanilla scented nemesia on the outside sil. And a rose whose scent is of clean, lemony freshness. And of course, another huge bunch of sweet peas in the little table inside the window.

The scents mingling are quite simply intoxicating. I have a little rose bowl in this room but I am not going to fill it. We have guests coming at the weekend, I'll probably do it then, but if I fill it now the sensory overload might be too much for me, and I'll want to sit here with the breeze tickling my skin and listening to beautiful music and sniffing all day.

lostinrates

michaels wrote: »

I do that but I guess given that my name is fairly 'common' I guess there is the chance for some interesting mix-ups

Edit - I also do it with the telephone CS people and insist if they are going to use my first name in an over-familiar way then I will use there's too and make sure I wish them a pleasant day at the end of the call

Well, its a good first name IMO.

I really dislike it when people choose to use my first name...like doctors and stuff, when they don't give theirs., It makes me automatically feel arch and pompous and difficult. Which is crazy because if they don't and call me mrs found i rates, like last week for the bum shoot they said what would you me most comfortable being called and I gave them one of my first names.

I think that's a fairly depressingly stereotypical female with not enough to worry about reaction tbh.

neverdespairgirl

lostinrates wrote: »

Cities are horrid in the heat. It's hot enough in the farm yard where we get the mini city effect, concrete and courtyard, trapping heat and bouncing sun and acting like a massive storage heater.

We have guests coming at the weekend, I'll probably do it then, but if I fill it now the sensory overload might be too much for me, and I'll want to sit here with the breeze tickling my skin and listening to beautiful music and sniffing all day.

I love London in the heat, provided I'm not required to dress up in black wool. But sitting here, working quietly, in comfortable clothes, I'm really enjoying it.

Add - prefer it when it's not too muggy, as well (-:

Sounds wonderful - a day of flower-sniffing! Just be careful if any of them are lilies, or you'll have a yellow nose for days.

bugslet

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

It's not yet 10am, and it's already seriously hot here in town! Fierce sunshine, no breeze. I feel like a lizard - luckily, I'm not in court today, so I can wear a very thin cotton dress, instead of suit / formal shoes / horsehair wig / collar / woollen gown.

The once I had to employ the services of a barrister was for an industrial tribunal, so less formal that a court, but it was 28 - 30 degrees for the four days and the lady barrister was still in a dark suit and tights, which seemed bad enough to me. No air con either.

lir, there is nothing in that post that doesn't make me jealous....watching gliders ( my long-departed father used to glide), the smell of the flowers, the coolness of the room. I would describe my surroundings for you, but I couldn't cope with the outpouring of sympathy;)

bugslet

lostinrates wrote: »

I really dislike it when people choose to use my first name...like doctors and stuff, when they don't give theirs., It makes me automatically feel arch and pompous and difficult. Which is crazy because if they don't and call me mrs found i rates, like last week for the bum shoot they said what would you me most comfortable being called and I gave them one of my first names.

I think that's a fairly depressingly stereotypical female with not enough to worry about reaction tbh.

I've got lots to worry about and that still winds me up, along with people calling Mrs bugslet, based presumably on my age. Miss or Ms, not bothered, but not Mrs!