Nice people thread part 8 - worth the wait

LydiaJ

SingleSue wrote: »

One thing I have always hated though was fancy dress parties, I never know what to go as, haven't the imagination, time or skills to make my own and really really don't feel comfortable doing it anyway.

lostinrates wrote: »

Try wageslave. You don't get to choose (you can specify ages and whether serious disability is something you would consider).

Dh ad I were advised we were 'too middle class'. Now I am less worried about babies and kids anyway I would really like teens or teenage mothers. Serious drama of course, but would be good to be helpful. I am actually thinking of becoming a prison volunteer if I can stay well enough, and for the kid thing dh and I have spoken about those schemes were one acts as a uk based guardian for a foreign child going to school here. You are there for hospital, legals and the odd exeat or half term and stuff. I think it would be HUGE fun.

Guardians quite often do parents' evenings as well. You would be great at it.

zagubov

HAMISH_MCTAVISH wrote: »

So rather more versatile, talented, and better looking than me then.

Mrs Zag's the looker and the brains in our home by a long chalk. And a better cook and handywoman.:D

LydiaJ wrote: »

Guardians quite often do parents' evenings as well. You would be great at it.

The last place we lived in had many language schools and also had lots of homes wherre families hosted foreign students. I think a lot of the students thought they were going to be staying in London when they were miles away from anywhere they'd ever heard of.

LydiaJ

PasturesNew wrote: »

You can put a price on meeting people in the first instance.... I don't know anybody

PN, do you want to have mates, or are you quite happy just being mates with pixels like us? Because if you're happy with things as they are, then we don't want to boss you about and start telling you to change, but if you would like more friends then all you have to do is what you do in here, which has resulted in your becoming friends with us NP.

All you do is find something free that you can belong to. The NPT is one example: I have friends among the NP. I also have friends I've got to know at work or the school gate - places I have to go anyway. And then I have friends that I got to know because we were on the same course, or joined the same small group at church or something.

I usually stick for quite a long time at the stage where I am mates with the person when we are both at work or on the course or whatever. The later stage, where you and the friend see each other outside of the course/job/group is harder to get to, but great when it happens. This is the point where it can start costing money if the friend has loads of the stuff and assumes you can afford the same level of spending. I have friends like that, but I also plenty of friends who aren't in that position.

I have several friends that I see for lunch quite often - arranging to meet for lunch involves discussing what bits and pieces each of us have got in our fridges and working out if we can sort out a lunch from it. So if she has bread and tomatoes and I have cheese and cucumber then we can pool our resources and have cheese sandwich and salad for lunch together.

PasturesNew

LydiaJ wrote: »

PN, do you want to have mates..

I've always liked the idea, but other people are annoying (dfiferent to me).

PasturesNew

I am under sea fog today.

Padstow is the main news story of the day.

Edit: ! hour 20 minutes later... sun's starting to break out. Might put some eggs on to boil so I can make some eggy sandwiches if I do decide to go out later.

PasturesNew

Got the jam open.... I was doing the washing up and clearing up and there it still sat. And beside it was the tin opener, which has a small bottle opener, and inside my head I heard the words "break the seal/vacuum", so took the little pointy bottle opener bit and carefully put it under the lid and a 1-2mm wiggle and it went "pop". Marvellous. NPs to the rescue - no gadget needed

Spirit_2

I think the concept of mates has changed for me. As well as those I have in RL there are now NP. Friends are people I choose to interact with, talk to, listen to, care about, confide in. That there are some I would go places with does not mean that the other friends necessarily mean less.

Two set of friends are neighbours ...one couple host parties and we go out with them from time to time...the other couple are right next door. I love them.. we give them eggs and they give us Rhubarb and cake..occassionaly we have coffee when she brings her little grandson round (we have been to a pub with them once...they said it was the first pub they had been in for 10 years) and they have never eaten with us.

I think of NP as friends, I pop into the thread every day..sometimes several times...am very interested in all of your news and experiences and care about you (you may not feel the same of course:().

When I met a NP conversation flowed as it does with old friends. Sorry Pastures I do not buy the "I've got no mates". Like it or not you are mates with me:)

vivatifosi

PasturesNew wrote: »

Got the jam open.... I was doing the washing up and clearing up and there it still sat. And beside it was the tin opener, which has a small bottle opener, and inside my head I heard the words "break the seal/vacuum", so took the little pointy bottle opener bit and carefully put it under the lid and a 1-2mm wiggle and it went "pop". Marvellous. NPs to the rescue - no gadget needed

Please say you weren't washing up a rice pudding bowl and that there was still some left for your jam...

Nikkster

vivatifosi wrote: »

Please say you weren't washing up a rice pudding bowl and that there was still some left for your jam...

If not, PN will just have to splash out on another tin

PasturesNew

Spirit wrote: »

When I met a NP conversation flowed as it does with old friends. Sorry Pastures I do not buy the "I've got no mates". Like it or not you are mates with me:)

Great - I'll be over for lunch.... what're we having? I can bring some eggy baguettes!