Nice people thread part 8 - worth the wait

lostinrates

LydiaJ wrote: »

You are always so understanding and encouraging, lir. Thank you.

BTW, which aspect of my position were you thinking of - the affair and being left and nearly divorced, or the being widowed? I can't imagine there are enough of us "suddenly widowed just before the divorce became final" types around to be worth any church setting up a support system just for us.

Oh, the affair, just the affair (I think). But it might be all marriage problems. I wasn't sure If I had mentioned her before. I have remembered her saying there is a surprising amount of infidelity, which, yeah, did surprise me.

LydiaJ

lostinrates wrote: »

Oh, the affair, just the affair (I think). But it might be all marriage problems. I wasn't sure If I had mentioned her before. I have remembered her saying there is a surprising amount of infidelity, which, yeah, did surprise me.

Yeah, I'm afraid so. Many people in churches are actually living Christian lifestyles, but not all of them, I'm afraid.

fc123

lostinrates wrote: »

I feel there is a lot wrong with the way I look, it gets me down a lot. Probably because by virtue of my first career and expectations it was quite important. I don't care what people look like, i like people not their shells, but I do think I make some judgements or assumptions on some things.

But thank you, your kind words have moved me, a lot.

..are you for real? Got OH to say something and I quote' ....but how can she feel like that as she is sooo pretty'' and the curly hair is to die for. I would kill for hair like yours.
Don't go near the fillers and muscle freezing poisons....eeewww nasty.......then when you are 50 you can be as shrivelled in the face as I am . I guess my face is bad as I am slim too,...but I am like PN, don't go near a mirror too often nowadays.

Gotta love the sun coming out as it's big sunglasses time again yippee

Spirit wrote: »

A dangerously on topic post coming up....

Mr S mentioned yesterday that almost all of the houses for sale in the village and nearby have sold signs. I looked on my way home tonight...and he is right.

Has the bottom of the house price dip been reached?

Something def going down in our area as everything has suddenly jumped in price.
Shocking fact ; our new soon to be neighbours had sold a place a few doors down from my mother. It's a nice place worth I think about 550k - 600k ish @ peak. Sold for ......850k ...eh? Where did that rise come from?
I can't work out what family has 850k sloshing about for a fairly ordinary 4 bed family home on a busy-ish road in a se london suburb.

Niks.....ignore the email and leave be.

Almo

LydiaJ wrote: »

I have to say, lostinrates, that you and foundinrates are such a great advert for marriage. Finding a bloke of fir's calibre who hasn't already been snapped up is sadly not so easy - at least not when you're over 40, as I am. I'm sure there are some somewhere, but they're few and far between - so no offence intended to any delightful 40-something single men reading this. Maybe they'll be easier to find once my kids are old enough to be left for the evening without needing a sitter. Hope nikkster is finding the market a bit less sparse in her age group.

The way I see it is that the very fact that you could find yourself not snapped up means that there would be blokes out there in the same situation.

I don't know if I've phrased that very well . To illustrate using myself: I don't know anyone in my new city other than my OH, so I joined meetup. I had a bit of a panic about what kind of people I might meet via an internet friend-making site, not helped by a couple of comments from friends (elsewhere). But then I figured, if I can find myself not having any friends in the place I live, so can plenty of other 'normal' people. Not that I'd class myself as normal...

fc123

LydiaJ wrote: »

Yeah, I'm afraid so. Many people in churches are actually living Christian lifestyles, but not all of them, I'm afraid.

80% of the church-goers to the next to us only go to get their kids into the highly rated school next door to it. This school supports the 11+ and feeds them into the grammars in the neighbouring borough.
DD's school didn't at all and were really unsupportive and scathing of any parents who wanted their kids to do it.

DD couldn't get into this school as we didn't go to church though we brought her up with the christian principles of 'do as you would be done by'. I told the headmistress this and was laughed out the room ......she would have called me a heathen if she could have. However, she knew most of the parents were only attending church to get their kids into the school.

Spirit_2

just watching the news...and the only thought in my head is.." it is very unfortunate that party leaders wear ties in their part colour. Nick Clegg in custard coloured tie. Mmm I would change allegience.

chewmylegoff

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

Very rarely effective, TBH.

I have been on the receiving end of two very aggressive cross examinations. The first one was pretty ineffectual and the second one backfired in a spectacular way. Firstly the barrister, who was a very experienced QC, rather strangely told the tribunal exactly what he was going to ask me in his opening. Secondly, he either didn't bother reading all of his bundle or didn't realise it was double sided, because after he spent 5 minutes grandstanding and calling me an incompetent liar, I said that he should turn to the second page of the document he was cross examining me on which proved everything he was saying was completely flawed and his entire argument fell to pieces. It is pretty much the most enjoyable moment of my career to date. The only way it could have been better is if his junior had facepalmed...

lostinrates

Spirit wrote: »

just watching the news...and the only thought in my head is.." it is very unfortunate that party leaders wear ties in their part colour. Nick Clegg in custard coloured tie. Mmm I would change allegience.

I love yellow. Opts such a happy colour. I haven't seen the custard yellow tie de jour......but chances are I might like it. Yellow tie and a pale Gary suit or yellow and navy .....like it lots.

chewmylegoff

LydiaJ wrote: »

I have to say, lostinrates, that you and foundinrates are such a great advert for marriage. Finding a bloke of fir's calibre who hasn't already been snapped up is sadly not so easy - at least not when you're over 40, as I am. I'm sure there are some somewhere, but they're few and far between - so no offence intended to any delightful 40-something single men reading this.

I am 51, eligible and definitely delightful. I am quite busy filming really !!!! nespresso adverts though, and I can't leave the house cos viva and her 9 sockies are camping outside my front door.

lostinrates

I have Mosquitos in the house, and saw horseflies at the weekend. This suggests that this really is late spring after all.

We are just about to enter one of the most floriferous months of the year and I cannot see where the colour will come from, most looks far from forming flowers.

Some is ready though...the candles are forming well on the horse chestnuts, and the lilacs. The juneberry, only planted late last year, is flowering tremendously. I have some ranunculus and Icelandic poppies and white muscari out, and the 'early' tulips. The white ones are the best.

The wall flowers are grumbling, letting a few paltry flowers out at a time. There is blossom on at least two of the young pears, and on the young Bramley. The kiwi is quite 'buddy'. Lots of my potted trees are still worryingly quiet though.