Hoarding - Springing Ahead

tracey12_2

roundtuit wrote: »

I started to make a 'to do' list while I had a quiet half-hour at work before Easter - I got to Number 57 :eek: and started to feel quite sick with anxiety about it, so I stopped!
I'm now sat at home after 11 days away from work, and due back at the office tomorrow: I was going to do sooooo much (which has not got done) ; DS has gone back to Uni today ; PJ usually comes for a coffee on Sunday evenings, but he's away on a coach to visit Adam's Farm ; and I've got 'I need to post this/ I need to tax the car/I need to remember to pay Council Tax/ I need to/ I need to/ I need to' agitating my brain like an old fashioned thingy in a washing machine - used to stick up in the middle and swish from side to side - anyone old enough to know what I mean?
I've no idea where the original offending list is - but I'm deciding to take a leaf out of your book lobbyludd and I'm going to re-write it, and start ticking things off, and adding things to the bottom - and then I won't have too keep remembering and having the 'oh bother' moments when I remember that I've forgotten to do something.
As 'starting' is also proving difficult at the moment too, perhaps a list will re-ignite my mojo too.
It's helped to read the comments on decluttering being 'tidal' too. And I haven't backslid (much) while the tide's been out, but I haven't made progress either. I need to go back to the 'take a bite every day even if it's only a nibble' to get this elephant eaten.
Feeling a bit blue - doing something will help to lift my mood too. So I'm going to: nip upstairs and (1) bring down any laundry that DS has left in his room and put the WM on; (2) empty his bin and (3) bring down any pots he has up there (if any).
Hope everyone else is enjoying their Sunday
Rxx

I have a calendar in my Kitchen and write all birthdays, when council tax is due, when to read meter readings, school appointments such as parents evening, open days, mufti days etc, reminders such as book nurses appointment so that I don't have to keep it all in my mind. Every Sunday I look at the calendar and make a list for the week of the jobs I have to do.

whitewing

Oh gosh, I feel full scale panic at the thought of running out of deodorant. Sinking anxiety.

anirtak191

hi white wing i do the same thing with birthdays and christmas. i make my own cards, so i usually sit down january through marcj making all the birthday cards i need for the year, then sit down around october ish to start on christmas cards. only time the bits ocme out throught he year then is if ive forgotten someone , or get asked for a card by someone else.
where presents are concerned, money is an issue with us and i am panicking slightly on being able ot decorate the way i want once the decluttering is well underhand. but with the way people i know are, and may sound a little selfish, but during my birthday last year and with gramps being ill finding out who could and couldnt count on witch unfortunately didnt seem to be many, i decided i got fed up of racking my brains and spending hours and hours hunting for things i thought my nieces and nephews would like, so i have decided birthdays from now on, if i got it the kids can have a fiver, the adults apart mum, dad nan, can have a card. christmas, those with kids get a card and the kids can have a selection box, teenagers can have a bathroom gs. it is i am hoping going to work out a lot cheaper than what i normally do and maybe i can start saving for things i actually want to do.
what made up my mind mainly was fed up of not even getting a thank you for gifts i had bought. and i cant even remember the last time some people, my brother being one of them acknowledged me at birthday or christmas.

normally i work through lists myself otherwise i forget to do/pack things. but honestly i dont know where to start on making a list for this clearing out.

my plan is,
clear out/tidy up spare bedroom, then decorate it inc carpet. and as its actually the bigger of the 2 bedrooms, move my bedroom back into there, just gonna have to get a blackout blind as thats why i use the other bedroom. (street light right outside the window:()
move furniture from one bedroom to the other, and maybe paint 1 wall in the then empty room, as i dont want to do it all as its only been done couple of years, but its not exactly dining room decor.
get some nice furniture for the now dining room inc bed settee so we got somewhere to sleep when nan visits.
then hopefully paint and decorate the living room to the way id like.

only thing i need to find out, is i was thinking baout putting the tv up on the wall, but its the old chimney breast. i got told no cos of the heat from the fire, but theres no fire there. apart from a kinda decorative electric fire, it only gets used when we run out of oil. or if we cant afford to buy the oil. but i dont know if the heat form that could ruin the tv like i was told the coal fire would.

tonight so far, i have cooked toad in the hole with mash for tea and while that was cooking (burning) i cleared off the tops of the wardrobes, now its just deciding what to do witht he stuff that didnt get me closing my eyes while i put it in the bin bag

cant believe ive even considered going through my teddies and just keeping the happiest ones.
but thats just a consideration atm, dont know if i will ever get to being able to let any of them go.

anirtak191

just come across 2 of those gifts where i feel i am ungrateful for receiving them.
ive always wanted a nice bracelet i could wear, im not particurly a jewelry person and the only jewelry i wear day to day is my wedding and engagement rings. i used to have a nice rope necklace i used to wear every day aswell, until it got broken and then stolen before i could get it fixed, was an 18th birthday present off my grandparents and ive never had the money to replace it.
i have a nice pair of earings and a necklace in the safe, that only come out when i get dressed up to go out with my husband buts thats all i wanted them for. but my dad knew at one point i alwasy wanted a a nice bracelet, if strong enough to wear every day i probably owuld, but other than that would more than likely go in the safe and i would wear it when i went out, ive just found the cosmopolitan bracelet my dad bought me, probably not an expensive one as i know my dad doesnt have a lot of money, but its got pink stones in it. witch is why is been where it has for i dont know how many years. i really do not like pink, and theres a bracelet and watch set from the avon, also pink stones and again thats been where it has for i dont know how long.
i have nothing, as i dont do pink, that would go with them even if i did wear them once to my dads to say i wear it, like i do with clothes im bought. but these i actually havnt done that, they are unworn in their little boxes. he even bought me a jumper a few years ago, that was like a, (only way i can describe it,) blamange pink colour, that did actually go in the bin as my sil decided it may aswell instead of sitting in the bottom of my wardrobe.
i feel guilty about the jumper and i feel guilty about the bracelets never being used.
i have no idea what to do with them.
i wont regift as even tho there is family that would never meet my dad for him to know i have done that, but like i explained in a slightly earlier post, due to recent circumstances i wouldnt want to give most a present like that any way, i actually get more thanx from helping a neighbour find a zimmer frame than i do from family.
oh maybe my nan excluded as at least when i say i will do something i do it. shes still waiting for my dad to rewllpaper the wall after he accidently rpped some paper off 6 months ago. just keeps saying he will get round to it, ive said dont ask me i not got a clue on doing wallpaper.

but back to the point, what do i do. stick it in the sell pile, not put it on fb as there is a good possibility my dad or sister would see it. and hopefully get to a bootsale.
or think of something else.
my plan is try and get to a bootsale or 2 and if the stuff i got for sale doesnt sell then i drop it off at a cs. as quite a bit of it is either new or nearly new. or in too good a condition to just get rid of, but if i can id like to get some money for it to go towards my decorating even if i can get just 1 pot of paint that would still be a help, as ive been here 8 years and ive not been able to do much apart form doofer with bits of paint others were getting rid of.

softpad

Well done Ani with all you have been doing and thanks all for your lovely inspiring posts. I went to two car boots yesterday and can't believe that I did not buy a single thing apart from some tomatoes and strawberries! Go me!

Apart from that feeling very rubbish. I cut myself on a piece of glass yesterday, nearly knocked myself out on a kitchen cupboard (whopper of a bruise today) and my beloved pet hen died in the night, she was less than a year old.

Feeling very unhappy.

Happygreen

softpad wrote: »

Apart from that feeling very rubbish. I cut myself on a piece of glass yesterday, nearly knocked myself out on a kitchen cupboard (whopper of a bruise today) and my beloved pet hen died in the night, she was less than a year old.

Feeling very unhappy.

:grouphug: this is so sad....

whitewing

softpad, sorry that things are rough at the moment with your accidents, but don't let it put you off decluttering when you are feeling better. Also, sorry about your hen, but feel glad that she was loved and had a happy life with you.

ani, sell it and don't guilty.

softpad

thank you everyone xx

Yes, forgot to say Ani sell the jewellery, no point keeping it and no point feeling guilty.

anirtak191

well i think ive had a productive day cant make up my mind.

bit tired and feel drained like i always do after i been out.
took hubby to work this morning, done a little shopping for bits we needed while i waited for the time of my drs appointemt.
but had a call about 20 min before to say that she had rung in and wouldnt be in today, and would ring to rearrange my appointment.
then took my 2 black bags down to cs and dropped them in on my way past to come home.

got home made a pigs ear of my 3. turn, ended up being something more like a 20. turn lol.
put shopping away. then the gentleman who was picking up the freezer turned up. he paid and took that so one piece of cluter out the the flat.

then recieved a message about the keyboard i was selling, ended up, even tho i was feeling drained, delivering that for her dinnertime, hubby wanted me to go in the pet shop while i was there so did that, then decided i deserved a treat and instead of buying something (as i was looking at "useful" things when i was doing the shopping.) i went to get my hair cut. been a year since i last afforded to cut my hair, and with everything i managed to do the last week, i thought i deserved it lol.

by the time i got finished with that was almost time to pick hubby up from work, so found a quiet spot to park, used my music to keep me calm, and done a couple of puzzles.

came home and fell asleep for a couple of hours. will see what i feel like in a bit weather i go in the junk room or not and try do something in there for today. i know ive got rid of a few things today, but i also feel like im behind even tho im not entirely working to a schedule.

and the bracelets they are now in the for sale pile

Lucy5781

I can't clear things in OH's flat whilst I don' live there... But, I've gotten into the habit of clearing rubbish from his car...