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Hoarding - Springing Ahead

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  • Pigpen - Delilah really is gorgeous, love the pics!

    Calico - I used to be a lot better at hiding my hoarding as well... for me, it was when I met and moved in with DH that the real problems started. Between us we just have soooo much stuff and I think each of us resents the others' and won't recognise that ours is a problem. Hope you have a really good weekend and enjoy time with your guests.

    Flub, good work on the bathroom and kitchen. I hope you start finding things a little easier from now on.

    Welcome to the other newbies and lurkers!

    Afm, I've managed to sort the hallway today, and made a start on the bathroom. 2 bags of useless tat and rubbish gone! :j DH then came home and put the dishwasher on, so the kitchen's still looking lovely.
    PAD: £4843.10 (loan paid, yay!)
    One debt vs 100 days: £288.73 / £750
    £20 a day: March £838.97 / £620 April £224.53 / £600


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  • lobbyludd
    lobbyludd Posts: 1,464 Forumite
    oh pigpen, Delilah is so beautiful, you do make gorgeous children :) and a lovely treat to come across on here. Thank you

    well done for continuing to dehoard - I could barely co-ordinate opening my eyes at 4 weeks post partum. you rock :).

    FlubM - what is "normal"? - who knows? my counsellor has no truck with descriptions of behaviours/beliefs as "normal" or "healthy", her approach is to ask me "is this a helpful behaviour/belief" for me. which is great because I have a menagerie of mental health issues (medically termed - mad as a box of frogs :)).

    She tells me that a number of my beliefs/behaviours were ones that I developed as a child/or at a certain period of life because they were helpful in my situation (and that was a GOOD thing), but I am free to let them go now that they aren't helpful any more. It doesn't mean I am abnormal or damaged (that was important for me to hear - it may be less so for you). So I try to approach things that way.

    speaking of mental health issues, withdrew from interview today; confluence of factors left me spending last night and this morning in a free-wheeling panic attack. I'm actually Ok with that decision, although was feeling very down about it for a few hours. there's a lot of travelling in the role and I can't do that without putting a significant amount of work-arounds/plan B/plan C's in place to ensure the kids are Ok in all eventualities, and relying on multiple people/solutions that could (and do) go wrong. My littlest is 5, she's really not in a place to thrive in that situation. so that's Ok, I have a good job, not an ideal one, but there's no point in jumping unless a better opportunity all round for us presents itself.

    I love this thread, and want to thank every one whether you are cracking on with dehoarding, doing the little steps when things are hard, sorting your head out, starting off, or giving perspectives of a reformed hoarder/partner/child etc. :beer:
    :AA/give up smoking (done) :)
  • lobbyludd hugs to you. It sounds like it was a good decision to leave the interview. Sometimes more money doesn't mean you're better off.

    Deco x
  • Hello there :smiley:

    I (and DD15 and DS12) have far too much "stuff". I don't hoard because I can't let things go, the house is just so full of clutter it's hard to know what there is and where to begin! I go through phases of not even seeing the mess because it's been there for so long, and then other times feeling sick and embarrassed about it.

    I have debts to sort out and keep thinking that I need to sell lots of this stuff, so I keep it for when I get round to doing that, but never do. I'm beginning to think I would be better just getting rid of a lot of it so that I feel that I'm making some progress. A couple of weeks ago a mum on my local fb selling site was asking for some children's foam mats. I gave her mine for free, along with a couple of little pop-up kiddie tents and some kiddie plastic chairs that have been sitting in my garage for about 5 years. She sent me some lovely photos of her children playing in them, and it did make me smile that they were being made good use of and not just cluttering the place up.

    DD is developing hoarding tendencies all of her own. You can't open the bottom two drawers in her bedroom because there's that much stuff on the floor in front of them but it doesn't matter because those two drawers are, to quote her, "full of stuff I don't need" and the stuff is on the floor because "I haven't got anywhere to put it" :eek: Thinking this could be a long job...
  • My daughter sent me this thread. Obviously things are out of control in my house. My husband seems to have caught my hoarding bug too. I haven't been able to use my dining table for a year because he has his laptop and medicine on it. I have just one pathway through the middle to the garden, either side being piles of ironing. If I did the ironing I have nowhere to put it either. Every room in my five bed semi is full of stuff. Mostly mine and relating to craft one way or another. I realised I have a problem but I don't know where to begin. I started in my craft room - I decided to sort and clear and downsize but it takes so long that now one tidy space has been counter balanced with everything else waiting to be sorted sitting in the hall or bedroom and bathroom! Having read these threads I will continue with my craft room. O and I have decided to return the FABULOUS new craft gadget I got - I really want to keep it but it cost £50 so after reading the thread I am going to pack it up and return it whilst I still can.
  • Today I shall be mostly filling a skip! It has arrived and my only problem will be that it is the correct size for our driveway, but not big enough to fit all our c*** in!

    Already in there are most of the bits of DD2's cabin bed, some internal bits of DS's first car - long since scrapped, my old defunct rotary airer, the steam generator iron that was fine for 3 months and then just randomly splurged brown stuff over my ironing, DH's expensive cricket bat that split after 2 months......

    There is so much more to go in....
    :jFlylady and proud of it:j
  • Oh pigpen please stop. I'm getting ever so broody. Delilah is gorgeous, an absolute treasure.:T

    I have been missing as I have been back at work but the de hoarding starts again today.

    Where to start.........erm.......confused..........perhaps I will tidy the bookshelves. Or clear the stairs or tidy the bedroom or or or..........

    I thinks it's one of those days.
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  • ModestyB
    ModestyB Posts: 1,574 Forumite
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    Pigpen, she's absolutely gorgeous. Love both her names too. I bet your other kids are fighting to babysit.:D
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  • pigpen - thank you for another delicious treat!
    Lovely, lovely photos.
    I dropped in for inspiration before I tackle a bedroom again - little steps slowly, slowly seems to help.
    Good luck and a big hug to anyone who needs either or both:D
  • lobbyludd
    lobbyludd Posts: 1,464 Forumite
    been looking for my largest crochet hook, which is predictably not with my other crochet hooks. Haven't found it, but have cleared out some random junk from a number of likely places.
    :AA/give up smoking (done) :)
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