The Sex was amazing??

VestanPance

Being completely honest I've never been a people person. I tend to bond with very few people, but have developed close bonds to those I do.

The one thing that has been ruled out through my choice is not having children. Although looking at things rationally I'm old for that now anyway. If you calculate out the time to meet someone, get to know them to the required level (if such a thing even actually exists), get married then have children I'd be pushing 50 most likely.

I'm not one of those people who thinks they're young for their age either. I think I look my age. I'm viewed by many as being anti-social, as I rarely drink on the few occasions I do go out. People tend to have a problem with a man who just isn't bothered about alcohol. That and I'm much happier talking about politics, or debating important world or historical issues than making small talk. In fact I really struggle to concentrate with banal discussion. From school to present day I'm pretty much seen as the tall quiet guy that keeps himself to himself.

I've lost the chance of a family, but I've set new goals to achieve.

nickyhutch

VestanPance wrote: »

Being completely honest I've never been a people person. I tend to bond with very few people, but have developed close bonds to those I do.

The one thing that has been ruled out through my choice is not having children. Although looking at things rationally I'm old for that now anyway. If you calculate out the time to meet someone, get to know them to the required level (if such a thing even actually exists), get married then have children I'd be pushing 50 most likely.

I'm not one of those people who thinks they're young for their age either. I think I look my age. I'm viewed by many as being anti-social, as I rarely drink on the few occasions I do go out. People tend to have a problem with a man who just isn't bothered about alcohol. That and I'm much happier talking about politics, or debating important world or historical issues than making small talk. In fact I really struggle to concentrate with banal discussion. From school to present day I'm pretty much seen as the tall quiet guy that keeps himself to himself.

I've lost the chance of a family, but I've set new goals to achieve.

I think you've chosen to lose the chance of a family, to be honest. Give yourself a break. It doesn't need to take 10 years to meet and get to know someone well enough to have a child with them.

VestanPance

nickyhutch wrote: »

I think you've chosen to lose the chance of a family, to be honest. Give yourself a break. It doesn't need to take 10 years to meet and get to know someone well enough to have a child with them.

Yes, I have chosen not to have a family. I knew full well that it part of the decision I have made.

Plus going going on the number of people I've bonded with in my life, ten years would be a best case scenario.

marisco_2

nickyhutch wrote: »

It doesn't need to take 10 years to meet and get to know someone well enough to have a child with them.

Trusting someone enough to feel able to make the commitment of having children with them can take a very long time. Especially so when you have been let down in the past.

Most people hope that their children will be raised within a committed relationship. Where they can be provided with a stable, loving home and have both parents there for them. If your life experiences have shown you that your trust in someone can be blown to smithereens, without you even suspecting anything, then it can seem impossible to ever put yourself in that position again.

VestanPance

I should really bow out as this does seem to have derailed the "amazing sex" thread!

I completely agree with Marisco on that. In addition I don't take the prospect of having children lightly. For me it would only work in a long term committed relationship. I couldn't have a child with someone I hadn't known for a good many years. It that respect it was lucky I never fathered a child with my ex.

RevolvingDoor

One thing I don't understand is people wanting sex for hours on end. I would find that boring beyond belief.:rotfl:

notanewuser wrote: »

I've had lovers that could "get me there" just by whispering things in my ear, without a single touch

Really?! That has never happened to me but fair play if it has to you

Ladyhawk

RevolvingDoor wrote: »

One thing I don't understand is people wanting sex for hours on end. I would find that boring belief

Agreed! And painful!!! There is a happy medium between "wham bam thank you ma'am" and tantric!

dktreesea

lori64 wrote: »

You are a very fortunate person to experience that feeling! I would rather not have sex, unless I experience the same feeling! Ok, I suppose, just isnt going to cut it for me!
Thats why I dont understand people who say...the sex was amazing...but..it was JUST sex? Nobody has yet explained WHAT about the sex made it amazing?? The point of this thread, in the first place? If no emotion need be involved, then WHAT exactly DID it for you sexually? Orgasm? Is that peoples definition of great sex?

Isn't orgasm the whole point of sex? If not for that, what's the point of doing it, (regardless of how you feel about the other person) besides having children?

marisco_2

dktreesea wrote: »

Isn't orgasm the whole point of sex? If not for that, what's the point of doing it, (regardless of how you feel about the other person) besides having children?

It is a major part of having sex but not the whole point. To me having sex, or making love, is about being physically and emotionally intimate. Being really close, having a laugh, ideally with each other and not at each other. It is about completely unwinding and reconnecting with your partner. Orgasm is the icing on the cake to a great overall experience.

olias

RevolvingDoor wrote: »

One thing I don't understand is people wanting sex for hours on end. I would find that boring beyond belief.:rotfl:

Ladyhawk wrote: »

Agreed! And painful!!! There is a happy medium between "wham bam thank you ma'am" and tantric!

An 'all nighter' doesn't just mean pumping away for hours on end, lol. Think cuddling, kissing, carressing, oral, intercourse in different positions, toys, a shower, then starting again, maybe role playing, games, pics, more adventurous positions.........another shower........you get the idea......;)

Olias