Very Broody......

Dinah93

Regardless of any of the emotional issues on a purely practical level I hate putting my DD in any of the gender neutral and even worse plain white basics type things I got in early pregnancy when I was just desperate to nest. On the assumption that you do one day get your baby by one means or another, you'll HATE taking them out in gender neutral because of the sheer number of people who come over to 'oooo' over the baby, then ask 'what is it?' IT! So much less stress just to have something with an indication of gender, whether that be the clothes, the blanket etc (not the pram, you'll always think 'well what if the next one is another gender). It's not bad luck, but it won't make you happy either now or later, and it's certainly not moneysaving, these things just get cheaper as a rule, and as soon as you sign up to all those emails that tell you your baby is now the size of a pebble/apple/watermelon this week you get sent loads of discount vouchers so you get 10%, 20% £5 off etc, invited to mothercare open events with lots of freebies, and as others have said you don't know what season your little one would be what size in, what size they'd be born etc - I bought newborn stuff in the first few weeks in a fit of nesting, then my DD was born at 1lb 15oz so she didn't fit into her newborn stuff until she was about 7 months and by that point I wanted outfits not babygrows on her when I took her out the house, and everything was the wrong season as I expected an 8lb-er in June and got a gorgeous titch in March.

koalamummy

Aside from the enormous emotional pressure you will be putting yourself under by buying baby things that will surround you in your home all of the time, have you considered how they would make you feel if you had to endure the horror of a miscarriage? I appreciate that everybody is different but I personally would find this too hard to cope with.

Additionally baby clothing is a strange thing. Each shop seems to have radically different sizes and you will really need to shop around to find what fits your baby best.

Robin_TBW

Gloomendoom wrote: »

Aren't most babies born upside down?

But if most are born upside down then technically that is the right way up, so upside down is then the opposite.

heartbreak_star

There's no such thing as bad luck. Load of bunkum. We make our own luck - it has nothing to do with a god or fate or the great onion or whatever.

I'd suggest if you've been trying for over a year with no success that you have yourselves checked out for fertility problems though.

HBS x

katie1812

Buying things won't affect whether you conceive or not! But the longer it takes to conceive the worse it could get.. Ie. you could have a room full of things but no baby! Maybe you could put the money into an account or just aside so when you do conceive you are able to use that money to buy everything you will need.

I don't think I could buy things before I had conceived and actually felt pregnant if you know what I mean. I won't be having children for a couple of years yet, and cannot wait, but it wouldn't feel right for me buying things for something that doesn't effectively exist yet.

Hope you don't have too long to wait

Greener_Grass

I've been TTC for 3 years as of next week. When i first started i stupidly bought things when they were really good deals, never expecting to still be here three years later and no baby. I now have almost everything i'd need to have a baby, some of it has been kept from having my four year old but i've bought ALOT too. not clothes, i'm more talking practical things. The problem is having to see it all the time, My inlaws recently took most of our baby stuff to put in their attic which has helped and I now have one box under the bed with stuff in it. It is really depressing to see things all the time knowing you can't use them.

I'd say if you have somewhere you can store things it's not an awful idea if you see a REALLY good deal but don't go over board. When you do get pregnant you'll have 8 months to buy things so don't worry too much