Very Broody......

Bride2be24

whitewing wrote: »

Baby terramundi is a good idea. You could save as much as possible in it, then maybe spend a proportion when you know you're pregnant and save a proportion to buy stuff after the baby is born. The reason I say that is because babies aren't always that real to husbands before they arrive. Once DD had arrived, my DH was really keen to make impulse buys for her and it would have been great if we'd have had a bit more disposable income for the cute clothes etc that he or we could have chosen.

I have already bought one

Bride2be24

I am superstitous in some ways but others ways i am not. I just wanted to hear peoples opionions. I don't look at it as a jinx because I know that I will have a baby one way or the other, whether it's naturally, with IVF or adoption

Abbafan1972

I guess it's nice to buy stuff, but if you're not careful it could turn into an obsession and just increase your disappointment when you you're not pregnant.

I didn't start buying anything until I knew I was pregnant.

Gillyx

On the sense of new things coming out every day, I wouldn't. What you like today could change by the time you're pregnant, so you then either end up with stuff you don't like as much or you buy double.

flutterby_lil

I have only ever heard its bad luck to have a pram before the baby is born.

What happens if you never conceive? Do you think you may feel you tempted fate? Just playing devils advocate and not being being nasty.

TeamLowe

Bride2be24 wrote: »

I am superstitous in some ways but others ways i am not. I just wanted to hear peoples opionions. I don't look at it as a jinx because I know that I will have a baby one way or the other, whether it's naturally, with IVF or adoption

I'm also not buying things because of the possibility of adoption...

if it ends up your children come to you through adoption, it's very unlikely that they'll still be babies, it's very rare for a child to be given up voluntarily at birth and the legal process can take a year or longer before they're able to be placed.

So you could buy lots and lots of sweet baby clothes, a pram, baby bath etc and the child you adopt is 3 and none of it gets used

Bride2be24

Gillyx wrote: »

On the sense of new things coming out every day, I wouldn't. What you like today could change by the time you're pregnant, so you then either end up with stuff you don't like as much or you buy double.

But in the long run wouldnt i save a bit of money if i buy the odd items here and there as things these days are gradually getting more and more expensive??

flutterby_lil wrote: »

I have only ever heard its bad luck to have a pram before the baby is born.

What happens if you never conceive? Do you think you may feel you tempted fate? Just playing devils advocate and not being being nasty.

like i said above am superstitous in some ways but others ways i am not. I just wanted to hear peoples opionions. I don't look at it as a jinx because I know that I will have a baby one way or the other, whether it's naturally, with IVF or adoption. Even my sister has offered to be a surrogate/donate her eggs if i cannot concieve

Bride2be24

TeamLowe wrote: »

I'm also not buying things because of the possibility of adoption...

if it ends up your children come to you through adoption, it's very unlikely that they'll still be babies, it's very rare for a child to be given up voluntarily at birth and the legal process can take a year or longer before they're able to be placed.

So you could buy lots and lots of sweet baby clothes, a pram, baby bath etc and the child you adopt is 3 and none of it gets used

but i wouldnt be buying prams etc its just the odd baby clothes/buddles

Sparkles87

I don't think it'll jinx it but agree with others that it could be really hard, you might adopt an older child and it could take a while to conceive.

Two years is a fairly long time, given that you've been doing things to aid conception, it might be a good time to go to the GP if you haven't already to make sure everything is working okay for you and OH.

Best of luck with your journey to have a child

marisco_2

It can be a very painful experience ttc when it takes a while to happen. I have been in your shoes.

I would like to be really honest with you and say that added pressures made it all much worse for me personally. Family members asking when we were thinking of starting a family, not knowing we had been trying for months.

I felt just as you did and wanted to get a little drawer of baby bits. I discussed this with my then husband and we both decided that it would put added pressure and strain on us to buy these things and not have the baby to put them in.

What we did do though was start a savings account up for our planned baby. It felt really good to be putting money away each month. When I did fall pregnant and had got past the 12 week scan we went out and blew the lot and it was really special.

Do whatever makes you feel happiest though OP. If it helps you to go out and buy clothes, teddies or whatever else you want to then do it. Trying to concieve is tough enough without holding back doing things that might help you. I wish you loads of luck.