Very Broody......

Bride2be24

but surely for anyone who is trying to concieve for a 2nd,3rd or even 4th time they will more than likely keep quite abit of baby things in the house for their other babies, so whats so different if you buy the odd item here and there and keeping it in the house than having it in the house from previous babies whilst trying to concieve another time???

claire16c

I think you should stop wasting your money.

Concentrate on getting a baby not buying stuff for one. There will always be sales or bargains on baby stuff.

If you do need ivf don't expect to get what you might be thinking of for free on the nhs because its a post code lottery.

Put the money in a bank & earn some interest on it. Then if you're unlucky to need ivf you will have some money saved for it.

And if you don't you've got some savings.

I would go to the drs now as its been 2 years they will do tests.

Gillyx

Bride2be24 wrote: »

But in the long run wouldnt i save a bit of money if i buy the odd items here and there as things these days are gradually getting more and more expensive

I wouldn't say so from my experience, there are always offers on everything when it comes to baby stuff. I mean if it was getting an £800 pram for £50 then I suppose Id be tempted myself but you will not save anything by buying it now.

The stuff you like now could change so much. I've bought clothes in advance for my wee one and then when he's grown into that size bought more as the shops have new things in and I prefer them to what I have. Which is why I wouldn't buy too much. It's really up to you if you want to buy the stuff buy it, no amount of buying or not buying will affect the ability to conceive.

Edit: you have no idea what month a baby would be born either, so things like clothes really are a no go, as it'd be difficult to determine whether to buy short sleeved vests or long sleeved depending on season, thick coats or thin coats. Snow suits etc.

Bride2be24

claire16c wrote: »

I think you should stop wasting your money.

Concentrate on getting a baby not buying stuff for one. There will always be sales or bargains on baby stuff.

If you do need ivf don't expect to get what you might be thinking of for free on the nhs because its a post code lottery.

Put the money in a bank & earn some interest on it. Then if you're unlucky to need ivf you will have some money saved for it.

And if you don't you've got some savings.

I would go to the drs now as its been 2 years they will do tests.

who said anything about expecting it free on nhs??? bit harsh to say when you dont know me!!!! i wouldnt even think about getting free so please keep opinions like this to yourself

MothballsWallet

TeamLowe wrote: »

I'm also not buying things because of the possibility of adoption...

if it ends up your children come to you through adoption, it's very unlikely that they'll still be babies, it's very rare for a child to be given up voluntarily at birth and the legal process can take a year or longer before they're able to be placed.

I must have been one of the lucky ones then - the first "baby" photo of me is when I was 13 months old...

FatVonD

After 2 years of trying to conceive your GP will probably be willing to do some basic tests, nothing too invasive, a blood test for you and sperm count for your DH which will hopefully put your mind at rest that your hormone levels are as they should be and that your DH has some strong swimmers!

I did buy a couple of cute things when I was trying to get pregnant (I had a friend with a wardrobe full of stuff but she'd suffered a miscarriage quite young) but ended up needing IVF. I had to pay for my own IVF (not sure what the rules would be in your area as it differs) and if I'd bought loads of stuff that would have been money that could have gone towards treatment sooner.

IHateDida

Hi Bride2b24 - I hope things look brighter for you soon - I would see your GP and in the meantime monitor your ovulation and keep records (join the TTC thread also for tips).

I didn't buy anything accept a breast pump (and that was only cos it was so cheap and I could flog it on Ebay for same money should anything go wrong) before my 2nd scan at 19 weeks pregnant. In theory we all know its an old wives tale not to buy anything blah blah......but I still didn't want to start buying things only to have the heartbreaking time of either returning them or disposing of them if things went wrong. I think thats what worries me more - how I would feel with a house full of baby stuff if things went wrong.

In your situation, I personally would stop buying baby things - perhaps put the money in an ISA - call it "baby fund" to keep your spirits up and to know that you are doing something for when the times comes (then when baby/child comes along - your money will enable you to buy more things). But please see your GP in the meantime and start the ball rolling that way.

Good luck and it took two of my friends 3 years from trying (naturally) - so don't give up hope - you are still in relatively early days!

lika_86

Bride2be24 wrote: »

who said anything about expecting it free on nhs??? bit harsh to say when you dont know me!!!! i wouldnt even think about getting free so please keep opinions like this to yourself

My understanding of What is being said is that if IVF is needed then some areas don't offer a free first cycle, therefore, your money may be better saved than spent as it may be more needed for medical assistance. You were not called a scrounged or anything.

I think to be honest that you are using these threads to get confirmation that your course of action is valid, rather than genuinely seeking opinions, you get very defensive when responding to posts and keep asking questions in a way that gets others to try and affirm your point of view. You seem to have already decided on doing what you are doing, in which case do it, as everyone has said, it will not impact your ability to conceive.

sassyblue

emsywoo123 wrote: »

It's supposed to jinx it. Like the whole "telling people before 12 weeks" thing. Old wives tale

Not really. After 12 weeks pregnancy the rate of things going wrong falls dramatically. That's why a lot of people wait before telling everyone.

OP, buying stuff now won't make a blind bit of difference, but l wouldn't buy now because something better may come out before you get pregnant.

Are you having tests and stuff? Good luck, it took us 8 years but we got there in the end xxx

claire16c

Bride2be24 wrote: »

who said anything about expecting it free on nhs??? bit harsh to say when you dont know me!!!! i wouldnt even think about getting free so please keep opinions like this to yourself

Why is it harsh?

You are supposed to be entitled to ivf for three rounds but in reality not all pcts offer that. So you need to be realistic & put money away for it if you think that might be going down that road. A bucket load of baby clothes isn't going to help you then.

Keep your hair on.