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The colours sound lovely. I Like lilac too. I,ve always envied people who patchwork it always looks so hard though. Defeatist that I am! Of course I,ll knit you a cardi, just as soon as I practise on my skills that have probably long gone. Lol.
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Yes that saying is true. And I know I,m not responsible any more for how he behaves. I just felt so upset he could say things like that to me. He,s a father and grandfather it's high time he grew up and took responsibility for his own actions. Children hey?
I am feeling a little more positive now with all you lovely kind people listening to my self indulgent rant. Thanks everyone.
Going to visit my no 3 son and family tomorrow they,ve just moved to a new house. So will have a nice couple of hours there.
It's really miserable weather here today, ha ha goes with my mood. Going to treat myself and DD to a nice Chinese tonight. Blow the expense.0 -
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Thanks DundeeDoll. Just looked and there,s one about 20 drive from us or 3/4 hour on bus.
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Sending hugs too. I don't think you should think of yourself as selfish or self indulgent for talking about how you feel. Its really good to be able to get all of that off your chest and get help to get up and running again. Its the best way to fight off depression and take positive steps to changing things. And saying that you just want to feel loved and looked after, of course you do...everyone does.
My Aunty coped with the loss of her husband by joining loads of groups and getting out there and getting on with it even when it was the last thing she felt like doing. She occupied her time and had less time to dwell on things. She does allsorts of crafts, walking groups, book groups, arts and theatre outings and does volunteer work too. I'm sure that you'll find lots going on in your area once you start looking.
All the best to you, keep on keeping on even when it feels hard, it will be worth it!Many thanks to everyone who posts competitions and works so hard to provide all the answers!
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Fiftyeighter, firstly, big hugs to you, because, there's no doubt about it, you have gone through an awful lot of rotten stuff in your life. BUT, you do recognise that you have some positives, and that's a positive in itself. It's easy to say you're feeling sorry for yourself and you 'just' have to snap out of it, but it's often far from easy to deal wit the feelings. First of all, how long has this feeling of sadness and pity been going on? If it's lasted, non-stop, for more than a couple of weeks, PLEASE see your GP. If this goes on too long, your body won't have enough of the necessary chemicals for you to pick yourself up.
Walking is always good for a depressed soul. Our DD2 (as Emms is aware from another thread) has suffered longterm depression and, in the last couple of years, has found that walking and jogging (she's only 29, so she can cope with the latter) 'does her head good'. You have dogs, so they're the perfect reason to go on a walk. You have a computer, so do some research on hobbies, see what appeals to you, search your local paper and see if there are any craft groups that are conveniently near, perhaps consider voluntary work of some kind - you can usually do as little as a couple of hours a week. To concentrate on a 'project' of some kind outside of your home, will help, it really will.0 -
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Thank you so much for all these virtual hugs. It's so kind of you all. I,m going to start walking the dogs every day starting from tomorrow, wind or rain I don't care. Not sure about the jogging though. Ha ha.
I,m so sorry to hear about your daughter. How sad. I sometimes do get a bit down but can normally pick myself up dust myself down and start all over again. I think it was reading those words in the letter and of course I kept going back and re-reading it. It's in the bin now where it belongs.
I only live in a small town. No tesco or asda here. Nearest bigger shops are 20 mns away by car and I don't have a car. But we do have busses so shall be looking for clubs etc there. After all may as well get the benefits of having my bus pass.
Thanks once again for every body's help. I really do thank you all. To take the time to reply to me makes me feel there are people out there who care.0 -
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Old Style friendship is here as well as money saving. We may be virtual but we do care!
I found the "knit your square" thread vey helpful when I was especially down. We knit for charity and share problems. Quite a few people (including me) are ill, so don't post very often, but I often found that lurking and reading helped.
Is there a thread on OS which already fits in with an interest that you have?
The Greenfingered thread is very good as well.
There's a foraging thread somewhere which could be fun for you, giving more purpose to walks especially if you are in a rural area.
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Sending you a (((hug))), lighting a candle just now to send warm wishes to you. Please stay with us all in OS now that you have joined the kind community here
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Hi fifty eighter. Fifty three-er myself but an Essex girl once. I too have lost a son in competely different circumstances and it will never leave you. The pain mellows, but its always with you as a mother. Regarding your son in prison, I don't know whether that was his pre-destiny or his choice, but I think he is punishing the one he loves. Family relationships are really complicated and can be very misleading. My advice would be to get up in the morning, take a deep breath, lift both arms as high as you can (which represents your intentions for the day) and take a few breaths like that until your spine is stretched as far as possible. Then relax. You will feel invigorated. Then make some social contact with anyone, just get out there and say 'good morning' or whatever. Then you are on the upward slope and it will be easier the next day. And you will grow in stature and confidence.
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fiftyeighter wrote: »I,m so sorry to hear about your daughter. How sad.
That's very kind of you. I'm pleased to say that it's best part under control now, with sometimes a bit of a dip if she's physically poorly. Her bf has a lot to do with her contentment nowadays - he drives her mad sometimes (don't they all?), but he makes her laugh a lot - which is also good for the soul.
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