Why can't I just be left alone!?

Person_one

OP, do you and your OH really need to work 6 days a week? That's not exactly the path to serenity and contentment. When I only get single days off at a time it does wear you down until you get a decent break, I think you need two in a row ideally.

thistledome

OP, mrcow and MrsBones have hit the nail on the head. Learning to say "no" gets easier as you get older and less eager to please, I've found. Keep practising and you'll get the knack

LOL at the posters calling you miserable and ungrateful etc. I think they're probably the needy types that crave company and attention, like your "can't take a hint" friend. I call them emotional vampires.

I usually find if a person is bored by their own company, then so am I.

SavingPennies_2

OP havent read the whole post sorry, but yes I get like that too. I think this is the difference between being an introvert and and extrovert. An introvert feels drained by other peoples company whereas extroverts are revitalisted by it. I can only stand being with someone for a certain amount of time no matter how much I love them, and if i dont get a break, even an hour to myself i get very cranky. Maybe take a walk on your own, visit an art galllery or something? or even take a really long bath...just get a bit of time to yourself.

burnoutbabe

can't you find something to do with best mate that isn't as intense. ie once a week/fortnight book reading you both attend/aqua class/women's institute talk/pub quiz. ie something you want to do anyway, after work so you have a regular time you see her.

I'd have just asked my sister how she was planning on getting home and left her to it. Who arrives without a return ticket bar a total last minute emergency.

Loz01

OP I feel the same way sometimes, people constantly demanding does my head in, always a favour for someone that they'll 'pay back' to me and never do, sometimes I wanna tell everyone where to go as well!! :rotfl: If it's not bro & SIL wanting me to babysit their kids so they can have a night out (they've had literally hundreds) then they want me to do something else! I cant wait to be older if it means I can tell people where to go :rotfl:

DannyBo

thorsoak wrote: »

I cannot find the post quoted above in post 57 - had I read this earlier in your first post, my response would have been more sympathetic.

Mother's Day isn't easy for a lot of us - I spent it alone - my mother died many years ago, and my OH died 2 years ago. My 4 children are all grown up, and yes, I got the cards, the flowers and the phone calls - but it wasn't possible for any of them to visit - two live abroad and the others live and work far enough away not to be able to call in for a couple of hours.

It's hard to adapt to being on one's own and the quietness when one has been used to a large, noisy family around, so perhaps I was harsh.

Too late she cried.

It's in the OP

<<<< helpful like that.

Violetta_2

Just a few thing's, could your mate have been trying to be supportive by texting you in the run up to mothers day, knowing it gets you down, she probably didn't mean to bug you (well I hope not).
I suspect quite a lot of people do not realize how debilitating OCD can be and think sufferers are just a bit fussy about cleaning:doh: I have a friend whose life is wrecked by it although things are improving, this website http://www.ocduk.org/ which you probably know about is useful.
As others have said learn to say no & don't feel guilty about making excuses & white lies to get out of things, most of us do (not me of course:A) & it is ok to want to spend some time on your own I think most people need that.

coolcait

OP, you have given us a number of reasons which may explain why you feel as you do.

However, your posts did come across as being dismissive of many people in your life, and dismissive of the things that they do. Even if that may not be how you truly feel, and it may not be the kind of person you are.

Let's face it, you acknowledged yourself that you might sound ungrateful when expressing your discontent with things that others were doing - at least partly for you.

I think a lot of people, knowing that a good friend was facing a difficult weekend, would try to step up and 'be there' for her.

If you really don't want that you have to learn how to say 'No' effectively - as a few other posters have pointed out.

Learn that skill, and you should find that a lot of the 'problems' you have listed will disappear.

DannyBo

In the words of Garbo: I vant to be alone

coolcait

DannyBo wrote: »

In the words of Garbo: I vant to be alone

Alas, poor Greta.

All these years later, and she's still being defined by a line uttered by the character she was playing in one of her movies.