Parents who worry unnecessarily

Seanymph

It must be awful having someone worry about you, buy you gifts, show an interest in you, telephone you regularly and offer you security that someone is checking up on you and cares

Much nicer not to have a mother, have lost one to death or indifference and not have to give up those minutes out of your day to support a relationship with someone who brought you up.

victory

Seanymph wrote: »

It must be awful having someone worry about you, buy you gifts, show an interest in you, telephone you regularly and offer you security that someone is checking up on you and cares

Much nicer not to have a mother, have lost one to death or indifference and not have to give up those minutes out of your day to support a relationship with someone who brought you up.

The pain of loss is extraordinary.

troubleinparadise

I can worry for England about my children; but as I tell them, it's my job as a mother! (And they do acknowledge they'd rather that than me take no notice, but equally I'm knocked into touch pretty quickly if I overdo it!)

When they were in their teenage years and enjoying their early forays into socialising in town, I used to calm myself down by saying that at least I'd hear from the police/hospital/their friends pretty quickly if there was a major problem...:eek: and I didn't, so that's alright then!

Molly41

Im one of those mums too. Im just restraining myself from paying my eldest son's phone bill but need to as I have to practice "tough love". Wonder how you would feel if she was not so available?

loracan1

Do you feel and know that you're 'loved' with all the fussing? If so I think I'd put up with it.

podperson

My mum can be the same, she's a born worrier. I do tend to 'censor' what I tell her a bit as if I know something is just going to worry her I'll play it down, or not tell her about it until it's been sorted out.
It does bug me a little sometimes, but I know that's just how she is and it's only because she cares so most of time I just live with it. As others have said, I would much rather that than her not being around or just not caring at all.

midnightraven3

i'm an only child, my mother was the same as yours
it engulfed me so much i moved out the day i was 16

years down the line?
I am "that mother" now:rotfl:
its what we do
and so will you, to one extent or another

i know this helps you none,:o

the phone thing?
is the funniest thing i have heard in a long time :rotfl:
props to her for that alone:T

quinechinoise

spidereyes wrote: »

So Im just wondering apart from just not telling my mum anything which will cause her to worry, how others deal with situations like this as there seems to be no real way of convincing my mum I'm a grown up and can look after myself!

Learn the art of listening without reacting.

If you ever have children, then I'm afraid you too will be doomed to turn into your mother. My mother worries about me; I worry about my kids. It's just natural instinct. The next time she phones and says "make sure you carry mace and a baseball bat in case you're kidnapped on the way to work", just listen, say "I love you too, mom" and leave it at that.

welshbookworm

My daughter is like that!
She rang me at 10 o'clock one night and didn't get an answer (I was asleep!) so she came over to check I was alright!

stiltwalker

We have this with DH's mum - we try to be very careful about what
and more importantly how we tell her things. The problem is if we don't tell her stuff she just worries more or gets offended and huffy. In many ways we are grateful that she cares but it can be tough at times as most of her panicking is about the kids - ie a regular ultrasound monitoring turns into potential transplant situation. Well actually yes it possibly (worst case scenario) could be, which is why we have the regular checks but to stay sane ourselves we have to put that small (ish) percentage chance to one side and I really do not need to be explaining it all over again to a panicked MIL that 'yes, I know the website says that about their genetic disorder, but no neither of them show xyz symptoms so it is purely precautionary' - Google has a lot to answer for is all I can say!