MSE Newborn to 1 year (& beyond!) baby club 2

lazywife

Hi Dippy, welcome and congratulations!
My son is similar age to yours, he's 12 weeks now. Try to keep up with the bf if possible. The nights will get easier. also remember that's "all" you have to do. You've not got to be bright and perky or professional for work so 4 miserable hours of sleep can be surely topped up a little in the day. T is still very unpredictable with daytime sleeps, normally when we're put and about (nice for him, but I can't exactly kip in the middle of Sainsburys). He does however sleep at sone point in the day, everyday when we're home too. It might only be a cheeky 4 winks on the sofa you can catch, but it will all add up.
Good luck.x

Aimless

moneypenny21 wrote: »

Gilly - Thanks, yeah the airwraps didn't look very padded - she loves sleeping with her legs out of the cot so wouldn't have been ideal. Does he punch the solid cot ends with his head and does he still seem ok? She loves kicking the cot but its the fact she loves to bang her head which is worrying me!

Sorry if I missed anyone - big hellos to you all xxx

Trust me, once she's bigger and climbing and falling off things, you'll long for a time when all she did was roll into the cot! My eldest always seemed to find something to bash his head on... lie him on a flat bathroom floor and he'd roll over and hit the bath. Doesn't seem to have done him too much harm!

lazywife

Ooooh good news on the house sunshine. Also you seem very organised with your time, your application form should be spot on.x

sunshine_1988

lazywife wrote: »

Ooooh good news on the house sunshine. Also you seem very organised with your time, your application form should be spot on.x

Thanks

Hope you are keeping well, from your previous posts sounds like you are settling into your own little routine. xxx

fluffnutter

dippydooda wrote: »

Hi, he is called Hayden and he's fab but hard work at the mo! I know I think i'll be sorry if I stop BF-ing and it makes no difference to his sleeping at all. I do enjoy it and know it's good for him. Just after a feed he doesn't settle well in his crib and then is awake 2 hours after the start of his feed so I am maybe getting about 4 hours broken sleep a night zzzzzzzzzzz

Yep! That's little ones for you. There's so much encouragement to breastfeed that people gloss over the realities of it. It's totally normal for a 10 week old baby to want to feed every two hours, even during the night. It WILL settle though, I promise.

Try to feed a lot before bed. Does he have a usual bedtime yet with a bit of a routine? If not, perhaps think about introducing one. Same time every night, do the same thing, cuddle, nappy change, soothing voice, song, a quick bath if you can be bothered, into clean sleepsuit, boob then bed. For the preceding two or three hours, feed and feed like crazy, every hour if you can. It's called cluster feeding, it helps them settle well for the night and makes sure you're producing the right type of milk (hormones for sleeping).

So if he goes into his cot/crib at 7pm, start boobing him until he bursts from about 4.30pm onwards. Helped with us.

At 10 weeks he might be going through a growth spurt too. This means they feed very frequently. It's exhausting but worth it. Whenever he naps, sleep yourself. It won't always be this hectic.

Mrshaworth2b

Good morning!

Interesting to read what cutlery etc you use because we're only a month off weaning now so nice to have a bit of know how before hand!

I've had a grumpy little boy for the last couple of days, he woke up at 5am this morning so brought him in bed and he woke up again at 7 screaming! Seems to do this a lot, more with naps than actual sleep. Wakes me up with a start!

From reading this forum from new mummies I can see that breastfeeding is actually a lot harder than is ever said. I don't remember midwives ever saying about the problems I've read about on here!

Saffagal

Morning ladies and welcome dippy (and Congratulations!)

Re breastfeeding, it does get easier and like fluff said, if you feed additionally in the evening, it helps to get a longer stretch of sleep. It will get easier, really really. If you can, learn to feed lying on your side as this will also let you rest whilst feeding - this was a lifesaver for me when A went through a stage of waking an hour after each feed through the night. This passed thankfully!

AFM, my mom arrives today and we've managed to get everything done except lay the new hall flooring (DH plans to do it this afternoon). Phew... Look forward to reading back properly whilst A has bonding time with granny this afternoon

Gillyx

Morning everyone.

I agree MrsH I think women sometimes feel like a failure if they need to ask for help with breastfeeding or if things aren't going well, maybe they're embarrassed or ashamed I don't know, but the midwives I encountered weren't very helpful at all, we had latch issues, and in the end I was told 'you would be as well switching to formula' which I've since found out they're not even allowed to do :eek: Now I am much more informed and I know which steps I'll be taking next time if I find myself in the same situation. They don't put forward that it takes a lot of effort on both parts, of you and baby. My friend gave up because her midwife told her that because she was tender breast feeding would never work, when in reality yes it can be sore, I definitely felt sore in the beginning for the first 30-60 seconds of a feed sometimes longer. Yes babies will need feeding every hour or so, but I think when faced with it, new mummas feel why is everyone elses child sleeping more than mine? Etc and feel very over whelmed. The NHS need more breast feeding support workers who tell it like it is but also support in getting through those first few difficult weeks

AFM I have woke up with the toothache from hell, a child who wants to go out even though it's torrential rain, so he's banging his head off the front door in frustration. Can we just start over today?

Mrshaworth2b

Has anyone used sma comfort milk for lo? He's been on it for a week and had the runs today!! Now I know why he's been grumpy!!

I thought going from staydown to comfort would be fine staying in the same brand! Nope!

Back on the staydown again!

Weather has warmed up but luckily not that hot thank god! How's your weather?

Lola888

I managed to breastfeed for 14 mths, the first few weeks are the hardest, but I just kept saying one more day, one more day and then it's almost easy. I had a week or so when my left breast was so painful. I think she hadn't latched properly and it was hurting. I slapped on the nipple cream and soldiered on and eventually the pain went.

People kept telling me to put her on formula, but I'm stubborn and if you keep telling me to do something I won't listen and I'm glad I didn't. I was luck though my LO dropped a night feed at 8 weeks and at 3 mths was sleeping through 12 hours. Only problem then was I was leaking A LOT!!

My friend had a LB 1 week after me and she kept saying if I kept bf she wouldn't sleep and I'd be up feeding all the time... welll I kept bf and her LB was bottle fed and my LO slept better

I would encourage anyone to go to a breastfeeding group, I didn't really have any problems apart from a spell of green explosive poo caused by too much foremilk. I still went and made some really good friends who I still see now even though LO is 16 mths old. It's nice when everyone is in the same boat.

I was lucky where I am there are two NHS run bf groups one for social and the other is more for problem solving. There are others, but these were within walking distance.

If your HV says to stop I'd seek a second opinion preferably from a trained bf consultant.

Anyway enough from me going on and on....