MSE Newborn to 1 year (& beyond!) baby club 2

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My LO never enjoyed tummy time when she was teeny tiny, but she now likes sleeping in that funny on-your-tummy-with-bum-in-the-air position that many little people seem to favour. At least it seems to be a favourite with the kids at her nursery

IHateDida

Hello! Can I join you please? I know a few of you from the pregnancy threads I'm a late 30's first time mum.

My LO (Rosa) was born last Monday. Knackered but happy although quite a rough birth (forceps and episiotomy - and still can't walk or sit down properly as I also have terrible piles along with the stitches!!!).

She was born with a tongue tie but that was corrected 2 days after birth but still won't breastfeed - I am electric pump expressing and topping up with formula - using a cup (which is a complete chore and very messy!) in the hope that she will eventually learn to latch on.

I have had mixed experiences with the breastfeeding team - one upset me so much the other day I just burst into tears and told her to go. I may resort to formula and bottles but I so still want to breastfeed

So that's me really. If anyone has any advice/experience on breastfeeding an ex-tongue tie baby - that would be great. Hoping to share ideas with you guys x

Mrshaworth2b

IHateDida wrote: »

Hello! Can I join you please? I know a few of you from the pregnancy threads I'm a late 30's first time mum.

My LO (Rosa) was born last Monday. Knackered but happy although quite a rough birth (forceps and episiotomy - and still can't walk or sit down properly as I also have terrible piles along with the stitches!!!).

She was born with a tongue tie but that was corrected 2 days after birth but still won't breastfeed - I am electric pump expressing and topping up with formula - using a cup (which is a complete chore and very messy!) in the hope that she will eventually learn to latch on.

I have had mixed experiences with the breastfeeding team - one upset me so much the other day I just burst into tears and told her to go. I may resort to formula and bottles but I so still want to breastfeed

So that's me really. If anyone has any advice/experience on breastfeeding an ex-tongue tie baby - that would be great. Hoping to share ideas with you guys x

Hello and congrats

There's lots of bf mummies on here and bottle mummies, so we can all give advice on both. I wish I had tried harder at bf but my milk didn't come in till day 6 and then dried up very quickly. I was just so worried about him not getting enough milk out me that we went for formula and to be honest I haven't looked back since. Breast may be best but it isn't possible for everyone so don't feel like a failure if you need to stop! I wish someone had said that to me because I felt like a failure

Gillyx

Hi IHateDida I had similar issues after birth with walking/sitting/moving I felt like I was being ripped apart every time I moved. So big sympathies to you in that aspect. That was worse than labour for me! Secondly congratulations Thirdly. If it's at all possible could you afford to see a lactation consultant? Not meaning to be unkind but a lot of midwives and health visitors just don't have a clue, I was told no tongue tie when there was one. My LO wouldn't latch at all and it wasn't a good experience, I too expressed milk. So good on you mumma for doing it, as it's so time consuming. Another option would be to speak to someone from La Leche or a local breastfeeding group? Definitely persevere if it's what you truly want, I wish I had and I always encourage women to fight for it if they want to.

We're all here for any advice/rants xxx

Bamama

Welcome! There are lots of us here who have had issues with one thing or another. Between us I think we can cover everything! If you are on Facebook then there are plenty of groups about and you may be able to find a peer supporter and lots of very experienced people. If you aren't on fb then I can hunt down some people for you and maybe there will be a group meet in your area and I can pass on the info to you (if this is the case then pm me with where you are and I'll get on the case!)

Good on you for the cup feeding. I've heard it's a complete nightmare haha! As Mrsh2b said, if you decide to opt for formula then please don't feel guilty over it. Happy mama, happy Rosa but I can tell you, if you can get over these latch issues then everything will become so much easier.

I had a baby that was tube fed for his first week while I expressed. I had an oversupply and when I could finally feed him, he couldn't latch because I was so engorged. We ended up using shields for 15 weeks! But now we've cracked it. Six months on and all of that is just a distant memory.

I can promise you that no matter what happens... things will get easier!

lazywife

martafdz wrote: »

Yay at rolling too! I used to lay on my back.on the floor and put lo on her tummy on top of me, whilst I did faces, made her laugh or whatever, to get her used to being on her tummy. She loves that position even now, she laughs like mad when I do it now. She is one of those babies who love being on her tummy, though. Once she learned how to roll back to front, she slept on her side or tummy all the time.

Sounds like a good idea. T just gets frustrated with tummy time.

Thanks for all your advice on injections. He was fine, just a yelp with each one, but went back to sleep. Also now have rotovirus vaccine (orally). However this evening had 20 mins of inconsolable crying, for the 1st time wouldn't settle even with a feed, so reached for the calpol, just one dose and seemed to calm him down (tucked in my wrap to send him to sleep). Now hopefully down for the night... we'll see.

sunshine_1988

Hello all

Welcome new mummas lots of people with bf advice here so you are in good hands.

Hope babies who had jabs are okay. I remember Aidens first set and he too was inconsolable for hours in the evening, 2.5ml of calpol and he was fine

Back home now...miss my mum!! Lol. House is bleached and dettolled so hoping no germy bugs.

Sleep well all.xxx

sunshine_1988

IHateDida wrote: »

Hello! Can I join you please? I know a few of you from the pregnancy threads I'm a late 30's first time mum.

My LO (Rosa) was born last Monday. Knackered but happy although quite a rough birth (forceps and episiotomy - and still can't walk or sit down properly as I also have terrible piles along with the stitches!!!).

She was born with a tongue tie but that was corrected 2 days after birth but still won't breastfeed - I am electric pump expressing and topping up with formula - using a cup (which is a complete chore and very messy!) in the hope that she will eventually learn to latch on.

I have had mixed experiences with the breastfeeding team - one upset me so much the other day I just burst into tears and told her to go. I may resort to formula and bottles but I so still want to breastfeed

So that's me really. If anyone has any advice/experience on breastfeeding an ex-tongue tie baby - that would be great. Hoping to share ideas with you guys x

My post birth pain was similar, except I had ventouse. I found a soak in the bath just with a drop of baby bath or shampoo helped alot, and dont do too much - rest as much as poss. I made the mistake of going into town and walking a bit too much which didnt help.

Hugs xxx

martafdz

I had stitches all over, my labia ripped from top to bottom. One thing that made it worse was mothercare maternity pads, as my stitches kept holding onto them. I found Tesco's and Boots' own brand much much better. I used to put a few drops of distilled witch hazel (check it has no alcohol) all along the pad, and it felt fresh and calming on the area.

I tried to breastfeed but my milk supply also dried up quickly. I felt very guilty for a few weeks, but as it has been said, happy mummy, happy Rosa. Also, at least she had the colostrum, which has all the antibodies and so on. If you really want to BF, I second the lactation consultant, the private one. I had the NHS one, the breastfeeding advisor, and she was useless, never mention the tongue tie (which she has, apparently) and she ended the visit saying that not all babies can be breastfed.

moneypenny21

Hi 'IhateDida' and congrats on the bambino! Lovely name Can't advise on the post-birth bit as this one came out of the sunroof which was a painful recovery in a different way I combination feed my little one, breast and bottle now that she is older, she was exclusively breast fed until 8 weeks then I introduced a night time bottle to help to settle her better through the night.

I struggled to position the baby properly and had a local breast feeding volunteer help me plus majorly patient midwives. If it hadn't been for that and for the baby being such a good feeder, I know I would have given up, however, now almost 7 months down the line, I'm still going! Proper support is invaluable and most on here suggest a lactation consultant which would have been my next step after the peer support worker who came out to me. As the others have said the most important thing is to have a happy baby and happy mummy and ultimately as long as she is fed one way or another that is all that matters, don't let any one make you feel bad for it. I actually have the reverse problem in that all of the older generation of the family think I'm crazy for still breastfeeding (plus the surprised Health Visitors who didn't expect me to still BF after 6 months), they have been pushing formula feeding down my throat since about 6 weeks insisting the baby wasn't getting enough (erm...she is on the 98th centile and gaining fine!). I'm glad I did what was best for me and ignored the rest so you do what is right for you and get the support you need to do it whatever you decide.

Hope you start to feel better soon with your recovery too!