MSE Newborn to 1 year (& beyond!) baby club 2

sunshine_1988

Nutella, hope shes ok xxxx

katiechoc_2

Oh Nutella I hope she's ok this morning, sending a big hug x

More in a bit, G has just chucked himself over backwards. Dafty.

fluffnutter

Bamama, I'm going to read back in a sec but my first thought is that Freddie's 10 months (today!) and I've hardly left him more than you've left Dewi. A couple of shopping trips, two cinema trips, one lunch with just me and the OH on my birthday and one night out. So the amount you've been without him considering Dewi's only four months seems entirely normal to me. Little babes needs their mums, particularly if they're on the booby.

The difference with me is that no one's pressuring me to spend time apart from Freddie - everyone sees it as entirely normal and, moreover, my choice anyway.

So have confidence in the fact that you're the one behaving normally - it's everyone else who has the problem. I know that doesn't solve matters, but I don't want you to start thinking that you're being odd, or territorial with Dewi.

I shall put my thinking cap on and see if I can come up with some suggestions about how to get your OH (and his mother) to back off a bit.

fluffnutter

*Nutella* wrote: »

Spent the evening with LO at the local hospital's children's emergency ward Will provide details tomorrow (I'm tired...), but the bottom line is that we're home now, she's asleep and all is well (I hope!). Good night all x

Oh crikey, hope everything's OK, Nutella

Bamama

Hope everything is ok Nutella? *hugs*

Big hugs to everyone who sent advice too. I just don't know what to do. In his eyes I am being irrational. I don't think I am.

I asked if he'd get up with Dewi this morning for me to have time on my own in bed. He spent 10min laying in bed talking to him and then left him on the bed with me for 10min (toilet I assume?). Trouble is... I am now too awake to go back to sleep. I find this very inconsiderate as most weekends we get up without disturbing him and spend 2-3 hours down stairs while he sleeps on.

katiechoc_2

I don't really have any advice Bamama, although I felt the same when G was teeny. But my OH took the hint when I kept refusing. I did ask fil to take him for a walk once or twice when I had work to finish. But, like you say, the crucial point there is i asked them, and only because I had a deadline. I don't see the point if you're going to be sat at home twiddling your thumbs! I've just arranged my first night away at the beginning of June - will be leaving G with OH in Surrey while I go to a friend's in Derbyshire :eek: I get minor palpitations just thinking about it. But he'll be 13 months by then and I'd rather he be with his daddy the first time I leave him, than both of us leave him.

Anyway, like I say, no real advice as I'm a definite "bury my head in the sand and ignore it" type of girl. I've definitely developed a thicker skin since having George

Sammie_03

*Nutella* wrote: »

Spent the evening with LO at the local hospital's children's emergency ward Will provide details tomorrow (I'm tired...), but the bottom line is that we're home now, she's asleep and all is well (I hope!). Good night all x

Hope everything is ok now nutella, Thinking of you. Xx

Sammie_03

Bamama - is your partner receiving pressure from his mum to see your little one more? when I had ds2 my mil was a nightmare and would constantly moan at my OH about how I was leaving her out! He would then blame me and say I should make more of an effort with her. I gave in and she basically took over hence a massive falling out for over a year. This time I have put my foot down and told OH Noah will not be going to hers like DS2 did. She can no longer moan to my DP as she knows he's on my side now he's seen what she's really like.

Dewi is your baby and you should not be made to feel like you are doing something wrong. Noah is nearly 14 months now and I have left him a couple of times as I had a mums and me afternoon up the school and we went out for a meal about 8 months ago. My DP would like to go out just us 2 but I think we have just as good a time having a Chinese/Indian takeaway and watching a film when the kiddies are in bed. If you are not ready to be apart from Dewi yet do not be pressured into it.
X

*Nutella*

Thank you for all your kind messages

She's OK, but here's what happened: after being a bit miserable all day, I put her down for a nap at 5.20pm - not something I'd normally do, but she just couldn't stay awake any longer and it was too early for bedtime. After a few minutes I could hear her on the monitor breathing really heavily and fast, so I went to check on her - she was just lying in her cot awake and staring into space. This got me worried - she never just lies there; the moment she's awake she starts babbling and walking around her cot. Took her downstairs, still breathing really fast and every now and then gasping for air. She was also very lethargic - just sitting there; no talking and no moving about - not like her usual lively self at all. It was scary.

Called 999 and an ambulance arrived within 5 minutes. She had a temperature of 39.8 :eek: Had some Calpol and off we went to the hospital. Spent a lot of time waiting around and there was a fair amount of forth and back - they had to wait for her temperature and heart rate to drop, but couldn't give her any more medication straight away, so she had some Nurofen a couple of hours later, at which point her breathing was normalising, but not enough to be sent home. So waited around some more, and eventually they were satisfied that we were within safe levels and she was responding to medication. They discovered an infection in her right ear, which is probably what caused the temperature, which in turn is probably what caused her heart rate to go up - I didn't know this, but apparently that rapid breathing is one of the ways in which babies try to cool down when they have a temperature.

Finally got sent home at 11pm with a course of antibiotics and instructions to keep alternating Calpol and Nurofen to keep her temperature down. It was 38.4 when she woke up this morning, but after some Nurofen it went down to normal, and she's been playing and babbling away and being her usual self - right now she's having a nap.

A 'fun' part of the evening was to get a urine sample from her! They do that as a routine thing when babies have a raised temperature to rule out a urine infection. Anyone tried this? You get given a waterproof sheet to put on your lap + a plastic cup (or a little bottle if your LO is a boy). Then you take their nappy off and sit and wait for a wee, which, if you're lucky you'll manage to catch! My little girl was being good and provided the required wee within two minutes of her nappy coming off

OH's teenage son is staying with us this weekend, and last night we were going to have a family dinner with Indian takeaway, as it was OH's birthday on Saturday and his son's birthday a couple of weeks ago. Needless to say, things didn't quite go according to plan - they had their dinner, and I had mine at around midnight whilst posting on here... Made up for it with pancakes this morning though, which also made LO very happy - it's her favourite thing

Going out for a walk when LO wakes up - right now there's a bit of a Duplo competition going on between OH and his son. So far this morning they've made an ostrich, a hippy caravan, a shoe, a windmill and a dinosaur!

Hope everyone has a good day x

Mrshaworth2b

Nutella - sounds so scary, but I'm glad that lo is ok now.