MSE Newborn to 1 year (& beyond!) baby club 2

PurpleFairy26

With regard to leave them, I'm a bit mixed. Happy to so I can go to work (at end of mat leave) and they go to nursey, but outside of that I don't really like to. I did a bit more with dd as she got older, nearer to3, so I could go and do a gym class, but definitely wouldn't when she was younger. Haven't really left LO yet for more than a quick visit to supermarket. She's 17 weeks. Should add, we don't have anyone to babysit so this may have something to do with it too.

Question about sleeping. LO has slipped, well hurtled in to sleep regression :eek: we've gone from 10-12 hours straight at night to waking every hour at night for the last 3 nights and only cat naps in day rather than sleeps. Today she slept no more than a total of an hour since 7.20 am until 7pm :eek: the only thing that settles her is me feeding her, which I'm ok with, but, it just doesn't seem right. Do think there maybe a tooth coming through can definitely feel something, awful nappies and her first ever nappy rash and niagra falls of dribble all day long.

Could it just solely be teeth or a unhappy coincidence of this and sleep regression any advice?

Should say, she won't settle herself at all either which isn't helping, she will just scream and scream :eek: won't take a dummy and chews on hands but doesn't suck thumb or anything.

Thanks in advance.

delain

Primark!! They only wreck them falling over.

Plus if they don't have cropped then a size down are just the same... Not that I'm cheap or owt

*Nutella*

Jonno, our first tooth didn't appear until around 8 and a half months, but just before it did, things were exactly as you describe - terrible sleep (she would only sleep if we were holding her), nappy rash etc. We'd had dribble for months though, so that was perhaps less of a new issue! We had a week or so of sleep regression at around 4 months, which was pretty awful, but it only affected her sleep - the other things you describe sound like teeth, especially if you can feel something in her mouth. If you are having both at the same time, that might not be a bad thing though, as you're getting two bits of misery rolled into one rather than two separate ones Either way, whether it's teeth or sleep regression or both, it should hopefully not last for too long.

*Nutella*

delain wrote: »

Primark!! They only wreck them falling over.

Plus if they don't have cropped then a size down are just the same... Not that I'm cheap or owt

Oh no That place makes me lose the will to live.

Sammie_03

Thanks for your replies, I know OH gets annoyed that I won't leave Noah as he says we get no time together anymore. I was fine with the boys staying over at grandparents houses at Noah's age so not sure why I'm so protective over Noah. I don't like other people even feeding him/changing him etc.

Jonno - sounds like it could be sleep regression. It does sound like she has a tooth coming too though, Noah has slept all night from 6 weeks old (7.30-8.00) but when he is teething, boy do I know about it! :eek:
I found this age quite hard with Noah as he getting more hungry and waking at night but not old enough for weaning, according to the health visitors ( I weaned my 2 older boys at 16 weeks but rules change all the bloody time!)

*Nutella*

Sammie_03 wrote: »

Thanks for your replies, I know OH gets annoyed that I won't leave Noah as he says we get no time together anymore. I was fine with the boys staying over at grandparents houses at Noah's age so not sure why I'm so protective over Noah. I don't like other people even feeding him/changing him etc.

I suspect that it could be because you know that he might your last baby, and therefore you're trying to protect him and almost keep him dependent on you for as long as possible? I really don't mean that in a nasty way, and I hope it doesn't come across as such In particular, if you want another baby and your OH doesn't/isn't sure, then a very normal and natural reaction would be to try to hold onto the baby-ness of the baby you do have

(Or, for fear of moving into psychologist territory - I'll get the couch out, shall I!? - it could also be to do with the fact you've been a SAHM for much longer than you had been when your two other boys were Noah's age. Being a mum is such a fundamental and all-consuming part of your identity now that perhaps you feel you're failing in that role or letting Noah down if you leave him with someone else?).

Whatever it is, I know you're a fab mum and leaving Noah for a couple of hours every now and then in order to look after yourself and your OH makes you no less fab

Sammie_03

It probably does have something to do with Noah being my last. Ideally I would like another but it's not practical as we would need a bigger house/car and obviously more babies cost more money. I think you definitely have a point with everything you have said nutella.. I'm just worried people will think I'm smothering him or a bit possessive over him which, in the long run, is not good for him. My ds2 is quite young for his age due to the Aspergers and I always felt like I had to protect him more because of it, I blamed myself it wasn't picked up earlier and he struggled socially when he shouldn't of. I worry Noah will be the same and I can't let him down too.

Anyway on a more positive note, Noah has been in bed since 7.15 and he hasn't woke up yet fingers crossed for a good night.

mrs_B_5

Just a quick one & I'm not sure if you'll all know about this already but sainsburys are doing an offer where if you spend £50 or more in store then you get a free pack of nappies HTH

I will manage to read back at some point soon & reply properly!

moneypenny21

jonno - we have exactly what you describe. Little one is 16 weeks at the moment...except her sleeping wasn't great to start with it has gone even worse. I can see a white speck on the gum, oodles of dribble, everything goes in her mouth. I think its a mixture of teeth and this mad sleep regression thing. Although that is not any help as I have not figured out the solution!!

Sammie - I don't think that is unreasonable at at all. If I'm going to the Doctors or Dentist I'm happy to get little one minded, if I go food shopping I try to go at night when Daddy is home but if I go out in the day I want to go with her usually! As for going out just the two of us, neither of us want to go out without her. We have been to our really good friend's wedding without her and it killed us but I knew she was being well looked after. I miss her so much when she isn't with us but I know she needs to get used to other people too. I don't think what you describe is strange at all

DayDreamBeliever_2

Sammie I don't think you're strange lol! I've never ever been away from my lil lady whilst she's been awake and even then it's only ever been 10 minutes to the shop and back if she is asleep and she's 19 weeks old now - I know it annoys my bf and our families that I won't leave her with anyone but I think its because i will be going back to work I want to spend as much time as possible with her and I use breastfeeding as an excuse although she *can* go up to 4 hours between feeds or I *could* express I just don't want to leave her!