What makes you envious of someone else’s life?

POPPYOSCAR

lostinrates wrote: »

I envy people who never have envious feelings. I have much good in my life......but I am still greedy!

No- not you surely?

lostinrates

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

No- not you surely?

Not me feeling envy? Sure....

I would love to be well again. I would just love to be well. I would like my higher skills back tremendously. To be able to rely on my body and my mind, that I could plan more socially. I envy all those who have health and use it recklessly and with wonderful, joyous abandon.

I would love my figure back, I loan my old clothes out to a couple of friends sometimes, and am glad to see them get use, but wish it were me in them!

I would have liked a child. I love spending time with my friends kids and I have made peace with the issue, but sometimes, yep, I certainly feel envy.(I am not proud to admit that my bil recent baby had me in tears...they have things 'all wrong' and we have such a stable relationship and life, depsite my health, I had to remind myself that that's how the cookie crumbles, but to pretend I hadn't felt envy would not be true.

We have a comfortable income, but We would both like a lot more, yesterday. We would be excellent socially concious multi billionaires, lol.

jaxjax123

There is no point envying anyones life, you have no idea what really goes on behind closed doors. All may not be as rosy as you think!!

Purleygirl

It's easy to get into a mindset of envy and resentment, I think we've all been guilty of it, just hard to admit it! However, it's actually not good to be envious because it can make you look at your own life and believe that you've somehow failed which in turn leads to negative thinking and more failure. You can change your attitude by positive thinking, it takes training and practice but it does work, I'm a big fan of Napoleon Hill and Dale Carnegie. I wish I'd discovered their work years ago because in my younger days I cared very much what other people had and what I didn't have.

Own_My_Own

marisco wrote: »

Dont feel quilty. You no doubt face pressures and strains that most of us cant imagine. It is okay to have all the feelings you do. I bet you are a fabulous mum

Thank You. xx

Pee

i have one friend I have real envy issues with. She is beautiful, slim with great style. She also has a baby. I have tried for a baby, but failed. (yes, that's how it feels.)

I have a much lovelier boyfriend than she does, we are happy and she is on the verge of splitting up, she has no way of getting a job and paying the bills - she is intelligent and creative, but she isn't employable. i am. - and still I let envy get in the way of being true friends with someone I really admire. I know. I'm an idiot.

Hermia

Purleygirl wrote: »

It's easy to get into a mindset of envy and resentment, I think we've all been guilty of it, just hard to admit it! However, it's actually not good to be envious because it can make you look at your own life and believe that you've somehow failed which in turn leads to negative thinking and more failure.

I am not sure I agree with that. I think the sting of envy can get you out of a rut. I think we can all get into a rut and forget our dreams. Sometimes coming face to face with someone who is living the life we yearn for is a great wake-up call. Part of the reason my friend left her abusive husband was her envy of friends who were in loving relationships. I love travel, but haven't really done any in years as I got stuck in 'real life' worrying about rent and bills and I lost my confidence. One of my colleagues is the same age as me and earns the same yet she goes on a few trips a year. She carefully budgets, grabs opportunities, swallows her fear and tries new things out. When she talked about her travels I at first just wanted to stick a fork in her head as I was so envious. But I then started thinking about my budget and then got a few travel books out of the library. Now I am have the beginning of some concrete plans written down. People say you sometimes need to reach the bottom before you can make changes in your life. Envy is bad if it eats you up, but sometimes you need to get to the point where you want to stick a fork in someone to put you in touch with that you want!

tealady

Honestly?
I used to envy people but now I feel (reasonably) content with my lot
As some one I know keeps quoting
" True happiness lies in wanting what you have, not in having what you want"

mysk_girl

People who know how to say "no" when they are asked to do something. I have somehow ended up as the chair of the preschool committee, I hate it and regularly have tears over it. Yet I can't seem to see how to get out of it. Received wisdom seems to be that you finish when your youngest child leaves - but she is only 11 weeks old so I have a long time left (I also have one in Foundation Stage and one at preschool currently - and will be returning to work 4 days a week in September)

Just really annoyed right now as payday is Wednesday so that's another Tuesday evening wrestling with payslips, HMRC software and online banking.

And people who have spare time. See above for why I have none!

an9i77

I have a chronic illness that has caused a lot of trouble over the past few years, and I do admit to envying anyone who is perfectly healthy. I used to see people in the street, when I was really ill, and think 'I bet they've never had to worry about their health like I do'. Then one day I thought I wonder if they're wandering down the street and seeing me and thinking things like 'I bet she doesn't have a husband who's sleeping with someone else' or 'I bet she doesn't have to worry about not being able to have kids' or whatever, and it made me feel a bit better, as we all have a certain amount of carp on our plates and just because we can't see somone else's doesn't mean they don't have any.

I also envy people with lots of friends. I have a few, but not as many as I like and it's always been something a little sparse in my life. It seems to get harder to make lasting friendships as you get older, and as time goes by I have learned to favour quality over quantity but I stlil yearn to be part of a big group of buddies.