What makes you envious of someone else’s life?

exarmydreamer

I envy people who find it so easy to make friends and socialize. I have Aspergers, (high functioning autism) and so do two of my boys and friends would be a blessing, it can get so lonely especially for them. To be able to communicate with someone without misunderstandings or social isolation would be great.

Not to bothered about money, you can't take it with you.:)

snowleopard61

lostinrates wrote: »

I have some waterproof mascara and eight hour wear lipstick I could give you. It would be good to see someone's envy so easily satisfied

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

sparrer

I used to envy when I was younger, I wanted to be slimmer, prettier, taller, have better dress sense, a nice house, better car, I was the most dissatisfied person you could meet. I bought my own business and slowly I got the majority of my wants, lived well, had an 'exciting' circle of friends, the world was my oyster. Through illness I gradually lost it all, and I wouldn't envy you now if you won the lottery, nothing can buy back good health. On the other hand it's made me slow down so I can smell the flowers, enjoy the view, appreciate my family and friends. Someone recently asked me how I got to be a wise old bird - if I am, it must be down to years of experiences, good, bad, indifferent. Envy isn't a nice word, today it has no room in my life.

loracan1

I remember years ago working with a girl who told me one day that she was envious of me - She saw me happy with my partner, expecting our second child. What she didn't know was that everything was falling apart - I'd obviously hidden it well. Up until that point I'd been envious of everyone else I saw around me who looked 'happy' - taught me that everything isn't always as it appears.

TimBear

This is tricky for me.

I envy people with lovely figures...but then on the flip side when I was two stone lighter and a size 6-8 (curvy though) I still didn't appreciate my figure so I know that even if I was smaller again it wouldn't make me happier. I also know that some people envy MY figure as it is now (size ten, which I know is perfectly acceptable!), so it's swings and roundabouts - I think sometimes people just want what they haven't got.

I envy people's relationships sometimes as they seem so happy...but then I also have friends who talk to me in tears because they've had a row or they're worried about xyz. You just don't know what goes on behind closed doors.

I do envy people who can make easy small talk and speak to people they don't know with ease, though. Not sure how to get over this one! I try and if I've had a drink then I'm not so bad, so I know it's in me somewhere, but it's hard!

Sometimes I feel like I'm very unlucky, or at least have been in the past six months - I split up with my partner, my landlady sold my house so I'm back with my parents, I've had an accident so I'm off work etc, but then when I look at it with a clear head actually this is a fantastic opportunity for me. I've always wanted to go to college and now I have no real financial responsibilities and no partner I want to be with I have literally nothing stopping me, so I've put in my application and hopefully will start in September!

I do envy people who are in a financial position to save though. When I was with my partner I was able to save a lot of money (for me, anyway), but then my car needed replacing so a lot of it went on that and with my current position being on statutory sick pay I just can't save a penny which is hard. I can't wait to get back into saving.

Simmysim

Those who live into old age happy with no health problems, since the loss of my beloved Dad

Ladyhawk

Timbear - the small talk thing is definitely something you can learn. Things to remember are that 95% of people are just as scared as you. Very few people are going to refuse to talk to you in a social setting so there is nothing to be frightened of. Don't be afraid to ask to join a group of people chatting. Ask questions based on the W's.... Where are they from, where do they work, who are they here with, what have the learnt by being there, why are they there, what do they think about x... And if you get bored say thank you, it's been great talking to you but I need to go and get another drink/ speak to a friend/ make a call or go to the loo.

Talking of loo's - ladies if you are very scared, strike up a Convoin the loo, and admit you don't know anyone and ask if they mind if you stick with them for a while....

Alchemilla

Grass is always greener! Swap you!

lika_86 wrote: »

I should also note that I'm envious of anyone with sleek, glossy straight hair. I spend ages each morning trying to make mine behave and that's all ruined with one spot of rain. Oh for hair that would let me just wash and go.

TimBear

Thanks Ladyhawk, that's helpful. I do always get stuck on keeping a conversation going with someone I don't know, so at least by asking questions you're inviting them to talk which must make it easier!

I've always been this way but it's weird because I have a large social circle and some amazing friends and all of those people would have been strangers to me at some point so I know I CAN talk to people but the thought of it is so scary to me!

fannyanna

I haven't read all of this because there are a lot of posts but I am envious of people who are happy with their lot.

I genuinely do believe that if you're the envious type you'll never be happy. If you attain what you currently want you'll then find something else to be envious of.

Being content with what you have is something that I aspire.