What makes you envious of someone else’s life?

Ladyhawk

I am lucky (as most posters are) that I am relatively content with my life...

However...

I envy people in great relationships. I appreciate that I don't know what goes on behind closed doors and living with someone can be tough. But it is still what I want but won't admit to anyone IRL.

I also envy people with lovely glossy long hair. It doesn't suit me at all but it would be wonderful. Having said that, my pixie cut is so easy to manage that maybe I'm not that envious after all

marisco_2

Own_My_Own wrote: »

I envy people with well children. I see them doing things together as a family, and know I have never and will never be able to do those things with my son, who has asd.

I love him dearly, but it doesn't stop me being envious of what we don't have.


ETA - I now feel very guilty, because I should be grateful what we have.

Dont feel quilty. You no doubt face pressures and strains that most of us cant imagine. It is okay to have all the feelings you do. I bet you are a fabulous mum

FatVonD

I envy the houses in my road that I can't afford, an end of terrace with lovely windows at the side and a corner house where you can see their baby grand through the window as you turn into the road.

I envy people that can sing.

I used to envy people with straight hair until the invention of hair straighteners but that's taken care of that.

I envy all the middle-class mums who can afford the 'best' for their babies when mine was dressed from car boot sales. Actually that one veers out of envy and into jealousy *insert little green smilie*

System

I wouldn't describe myself as a jealous type of person, but I suppose I envy people who seem to have done everything right. They remind me of my own failures. But I don't know if I would ever have managed or wanted to live life the way those successful, 'normal', conventional people live theirs. I'd like to get to the stage where I can accept, or maybe even like, myself. I grew up feeling I was inferior and not good enough and the feeling is hard to shake.

Rockporkchop

I really envy people my age whose parents are still alive and play an active part in their lives. I have no living family apart from one uncle, and my inlaws, who couldn't care less about us.

I also envy those who have healthy NT children - people just don't realise how difficult life can be with a disabled child, particularly without any family support. Wondering what on earth we will do for half term when so many normal activities and destinations are out of the question for us.

I am blessed in many other ways though.

MERFE

I envy people that get a break from their kids. I didn't used to, then my sister had a baby and my mum has her every weekend so my sister can have a break. She's on her own so she needs a break whereas I have my husband so I don't need one ever. Honestly it didn't occur to me before to want to spend time with my husband but recently I had a friend coming to visit and asked for my mum to watch the kids for a couple of hours and she rolled her eyes and said if she had to. Now this is the first time I asked in over 4 years, we don't have any other family locally. I love my kids and love spending time with them and consider myself very lucky in a lot of areas but some people seem to have a lot of family help etc and that I am envious of.

scooby088

I envy no one, what's the point of yearning after others lives.

skintchick

What makes me envious? A feeling of inadequacy and a belief that what I have is somehow lacking

The cure? Counting my blessings.

NoGoodNamesLeft

I used to be an envious person. I would look at someone else and wish I had what they did, to the point that I struggled to be happy for friends when something good happened to them - not me.

Then someone told me, not too long ago, that if I was going to envy one thing about a person's life, I should envy everything about their life. It really puts things in perspective.

The friend with the gorgeous hair and perfect figure has a very unhappy home life and invisible health problems.

The relative with a big house and plenty of money works in a job they hate and is bitter because of it.

The person working my dream job is a prat and no one likes him.

Now if I find myself dwelling on how much I want what someone else has, I ask myself if I would be willing to take everything they have. The answer's usually no and I realise how happy I am with my own life.:beer:

lostinrates

I envy people who never have envious feelings. I have much good in my life......but I am still greedy!