Fed up and niggled

Joons

Sommer43 wrote: »

Ah my sparring partner. Hi Joons (Waves)

This time I agree with you, completely. While I don't condone cheating in any way shape or form, I do happen to know of couples who have got back together and have gone on to be much happier people.

Haha, hello!!!!

pawsies

at least you got something from your OH.

I'm still waiting

alphabet_soup

With regard to the FaceBook thing... I think you do have to remember that OW may have her privacy settings deliberately set low, simply so you can see 'how well' she's doing. I have a friend who has her stepdaughter as a friend on FaceBook. My friend really, really struggles with the relationship her husband and his ex wife have, so she makes a point of only ever putting cheery, positive, happy statuses and photos on, simply so the ex gets the impression she is extremely happy and content.

I know of a few couples who have tried again after one partner has had an affair. I think if you want it to work, you and your husband should absolutely try counselling - especially if he seems unable to grasp the enormity of his actions.

Errata

Facebook: the inestimable font of all accurate information :rotfl:

VestanPance

Joons wrote: »

People make mistakes, it's life, affairs happen all the time, sometimes the person finds out, sometimes they have no idea. The op decided to try again at the relationship, I don't think slagging this man to death is going to help her right now and I also don't agree that people cannot change, of course they can, especially if they have done wrong. People who have affairs are not bad people, they are human, the same as me and you. I've never been married but most of the friends I have who are have all went through something similar. The big problem here is the child.

People who have affairs are untrustworthy scum.