Not a good day to be single

podperson

I'm in a long term relationship but we don't bother with Valentine's Day. I really don't see the point in feeling like you have to be romantic on one particular day just because the card companies say so. I much prefer spontaneous romance through the rest of the year - then I know he's actually thought of something special just because he cares rather then mass advertising poking him to do it I used to work in an office with a lot of other woman and they would always act really shocked when they asked what I'd got from OH and I would cheerfully say 'nowt'.

Even when I was single though the day never bothered me - don't see the point in letting mass commericalism make you feel bad about yourself. A friend who's single though says she uses the day to appreciate the 'other' relationships in her life - friends, family etc. Just because you don't have a partner/spouse doesn't mean you don't have people who love and support you.

Robin_TBW

Maureen43 wrote: »

Anyone else feel the same?

Nope......

Tiddlywinks

OP - it's just another day... don't buy into the hype.

How many people out there are going through the motions of buying an 'I love you' card whilst secretly wishing they were free? How many just buy the flowers and card to get lucky?

Not everyone buying a card is doing it out of love - more likely because it's expected - is that really the kind of relationship you'd want anyway?

Me? OH and I are long married and agreed a long time ago to save our money. He shows his 'love' in other ways like being there for me when my mum died and bringing me lemsip when I've got a cold - now that's really caring.

System

NAR wrote: »

Serves you right for marrying the wrong guy! Just cos I came along later has nothing to do with it, you should have saved yourself for me! :lovethoug

Story of my life!

Judi didn't send me one! :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

Such a hard life being you!

LottieLou

I am very indifferent about v-day, infact when it is refered to as "vday" it sounds to me like a newly discovered STI.

Bufger

I'm married and it doesnt bother me in the slightest. My wife and I havent bought each other any cards or presents and we're not going out. I even got told its my turn to do the dishwasher and cooking tonight (how romantic!)

A friend of mine bought his wife a card that said inside:

'Happy Valentines, Birthday, Christmas, Mothers day and congratulations on your new job, house, baby boy/girl. - Open this card whenever one of them applies. Love forever (insert name of current partner here)'

She found it hilarious and its saved him a fortune in cards.

I'm looking forward to spending time with my wife tonight after the kids are in bed. Thats no more or less than any other night

Lilith1980

mazza111 wrote: »

Agree with what the others have said, better to be alone than in a bad relationship.

However, you don't hear people moaning on mother's/father's day that they don't have a mother/father....

I don't moan about it, but I avoid the shops around father's day. My dad died when I was 13 so it only reminds me of all the years I've missed out on.

My OH bought me a single red rose, and is flapping because he wanted to buy me more but it snowed here last night so he couldn't get to the shops. I told him to stop fretting as I really didn't want anything else. There's good and bad for both singles and couples I think.

mazza111

Lilith1980 wrote: »

I don't moan about it, but I avoid the shops around father's day. My dad died when I was 13 so it only reminds me of all the years I've missed out on.

My OH bought me a single red rose, and is flapping because he wanted to buy me more but it snowed here last night so he couldn't get to the shops. I told him to stop fretting as I really didn't want anything else. There's good and bad for both singles and couples I think.

I don't avoid the shops - I always take fresh flowers to the graveyard Doesn't give me any comfort, but gives my old mam some comfort to know that there are fresh flowers down. Which gives me comfort. I won't say I don't miss him, cos I miss him every day, but I know I had a better dad than my own kids have so I'm very thankful I had him for all the years I did have him

Sorry that sounds morbid on valentines day :rotfl: But we always though my dad must have been a romantic, as 3/4 of us were born in November :rotfl: Turns out dad had never given mum a card in her life :rotfl: But he did however, bring her breakfast in bed for 50 years, think that's more important than one day a year

On the other hand, the fella always gets me a card and flowers/teddy/chocolates or all 3. But he brings me flowers regularly anyway, not the once a week he used to do, but probably about once a month. So I wouldn't moan if he didn't bring them on valentines day

KxMx

I'm single and very unhappy about it so of course am not enjoying it today.

I don't know which is worse, the stuff that's been in the shops for weeks or the string of fb posts today from female friends bragging big time!

I would much rather be "partnered and pressured" or in a couple and not bothered!

Pee

I really like Valentine's Day.

That said, I did when I was single, an excuse to get all my single friends out for a trip to the cinema or the pub. (Not very moneysaving.)

It's not a bad day to be single. It's a bad day to be in a relationship with someone you can't communicate with or who refuses to make an effort... and if either of those can't be resolved, people would be much better off being single.