Ok, so now my dating woes!

flutterby_lil

So size does matter to some people.....and to me 3 inch is a big difference

pigpen

Aaaawww bless.. a pair of pixies!! (I'm a pixie too)

Personally I wouldn't have a second 'date' because I wouldn't want to lead him on, but that doesn'r mean not go out with him again. Though you could be honest and say you do not want a relationship with him but think he is interesting and you have lots in common and you always have an opening for a new friend.

I wouldn't want children with a height issue.. I have a couple on growth hormone replacement (sounds like he could have done with it too!) and I am a bit saddened DS2 has stopped at 5ft8 .. it is an ok height but still short. By constrast OH is 6ft4 lol.

GlasweJen

You didn't date my flat mate did you?

He's a lovely guy, loads of interests, good job and has lovely manners but can never get past the first date even though his profile states 5'1".

If you were attracted to him before he stood up then I'm sorry but that is shallow, maybe this guy needs someone who doesn't need to "get over" his height and not a pity 2nd date?

Robin_TBW

I'm the opposite, I'd never date anyone taller than me... though I am male and 6'4".

Kayalana99

I love guys who are taller but I did date someone slightly smaller, after a while you don't even think about it - the 'little' things don't seem to matter after a while. Even so, when we broke up I went out with someone who was 6ft and the first thing I did was buy myself some heeled boots and he was still taller......heaven :-D

Grassy_Knollington

When he came in to the bar, did you have to shield you eyes, squint a bit, and say to yourself; "How far away, is he?"

(Like Max and Paddy in Phoenix Nights, when the dwarfs were getting off the coach in the car park).

VestanPance

I'm male and 6'4". Never had an issue with not being tall enough. Plenty of other reasons why they didn't like me right enough!

krlyr

GlasweJen wrote: »

You didn't date my flat mate did you?

He's a lovely guy, loads of interests, good job and has lovely manners but can never get past the first date even though his profile states 5'1".

If you were attracted to him before he stood up then I'm sorry but that is shallow, maybe this guy needs someone who doesn't need to "get over" his height and not a pity 2nd date?

Who said it would be a pity date? I'd say chances are OP has a niggling doubt about whether to see this guy again or she wouldn't have started the thread. She seems to find everything else about him nice enough but is wondering whether she could find him attractive given the height issue. That doesn't mean she pities him, just that she doesn't know if it's a major turnoff or not - I'd probably be the same with dating someone bald, or with a beard, or even with blue eyes (especially if they had dark hair..really not my type!), that doesn't mean I'd be going on a pity date.

It's human nature to have a type, or a preference, or just certain features you like or dislike, OP sounds like she's just not sure if its a deciding factor. Hence the suggestion for a second date to see - I don't see the harm in that, it's not like she's proposing to the guy or we're telling her to string him along for months, I went on a second date with a guy I wasn't sure about to see if I felt more of an attraction/connection second time around and it just confirmed for me that he wasn't the right guy for me and I called it a day there, no one died. I'd rather someone give me a second chance and potentially find out we're a great match, than give up at the first wibble and miss out (my OH has actually told me he wasn't quite sure if I liked him until the third date - I'm glad he gave me that second and third date to find out because I was quite smitten but much too shy to show it!)

Welshwoofs

krlyr wrote: »

It's human nature to have a type, or a preference, or just certain features you like or dislike, OP sounds like she's just not sure if its a deciding factor. Hence the suggestion for a second date to see - I don't see the harm in that, it's not like she's proposing to the guy or we're telling her to string him along for months, I went on a second date with a guy I wasn't sure about to see if I felt more of an attraction/connection second time around and it just confirmed for me that he wasn't the right guy for me and I called it a day there, no one died.

I had a great one around the same time as the short guy. I met a chap (once!) who about 15 minutes into the meeting said that he was going to have to leave because although he found me attractive and thought we had a lot in common, he absolutely hated 'posh' accents and that he never associated with people who had them. :rotfl:

I have to admit that I just laughed and wished him all the best.

Bazey

I must admit I avoid women who are considerably taller than me, I'm 5ft 8". I don't want to look like Tom Cruise but having said that, all women are the same height when lying on their back.