Help! Partner spends too much time online!

Cherry_Bomb

Londontomx wrote: »

They have been secretive about certain things. Obviously I don't know the full extent of things. I've caught a glimpse if a screen, asked what they were up to and got told a totally different thing.

Even the limited picture you're painting I can tell you there's no way I'd put up with that. Ignoring me when I try to chat? Lying about what they're doing? Phone attached to them like some teenager? Not a chance!

You really need to speak up. Who cares if it causes a bad atmosphere! It needs to be done before you waste anymore of your life looking at the back of someone's head.

This_Year

Londontomx wrote: »

They have been secretive about certain things. Obviously I don't know the full extent of things. I've caught a glimpse if a screen, asked what they were up to and got told a totally different thing.

I don't have a good feeling about this, OP. Sorry, but I think you really need to talk this over with your partner. Maybe even say that you feel there's secrecy and you're worried about your relationship and want to make it work. If there's a problem you would rather know about it (trouble shared, and all that)

Hope you can get this resolved

pink_princess

Londontomx wrote: »

They have been secretive about certain things. Obviously I don't know the full extent of things. I've caught a glimpse if a screen, asked what they were up to and got told a totally different thing.

Then you need to saying that.

People on line can not saying why, you need to talk to your partner.

pigpen

I think OP is taking the pee out of us forumites.. you've all been had lol..

Londontomx

pigpen wrote: »

I think OP is taking the pee out of us forumites.. you've all been had lol..

I don't understand what you mean?

System

If it is a genuine question, then I think there is such a thing as internet addiction! And even if addiction is too strong a word, it is interesting how so many people nowadays wouldn't feel comfortable going anywhere without being 'connected'.

Londontomx

avogadro wrote: »

If it is a genuine question, then I think there is such a thing as internet addiction! And even if addiction is too strong a word, it is interesting how so many people nowadays wouldn't feel comfortable going anywhere without being 'connected'.

Of course it's a genuine question. It could be addiction, but like in most cases the addict isn't aware that its an addiction. I'm treading on egg shells to not mention it as I don't want it to cause a massive problem between us that might end our relationship.

Gavin83

Londontomx wrote: »

Of course it's a genuine question. It could be addiction, but like in most cases the addict isn't aware that its an addiction. I'm treading on egg shells to not mention it as I don't want it to cause a massive problem between us that might end our relationship.

Would you rather spend the rest of your life in this situation, with a partner who you have no connection with at all? If you bring it up and it causes the relationship to end then frankly it wasn't very strong to start with.

Of course if your happy to put up with it (although I'd guess by this topic your not) then carry on.

What do you feel you should do to resolve this situation out of interest? Lets be realistic here, it won't change unless you speak to them about it, will it?

ecgirl07

Londontomx wrote: »

Of course it's a genuine question. It could be addiction, but like in most cases the addict isn't aware that its an addiction. I'm treading on egg shells to not mention it as I don't want it to cause a massive problem between us that might end our relationship.

I have a similar problem with online gaming - make dinner time computer and tv free so you have at least 30 mins while you eat computer free. Then suggest computer free hours across the week where neither of you is on the internet. Have a serious heart to heart about how it makes you feel and take it from there.

Errata

Sorry OP - you haven't got a partner, you've got a housemate with benefits.