Help! Partner spends too much time online!

thriftymanc

This_Year wrote: »

Sorry, bit confused. "My Partner", and "they" - who are "they"? :huh:

People often use "they" to mean a single person of unspecified gender, rather than people plural - it's not uncommon.

Londontomx

balletshoes wrote: »

have you tried arranging to do stuff, ie go to the cinema etc together, get out and go for a walk together? Its maybe just habit, and habits can be broken.

When we do occasionally go out. The iPad or iPhone will be on during the car ride or taxi journey there.

This_Year

thriftymanc wrote: »

People often use "they" to mean a single person of unspecified gender, rather than people plural - it's not uncommon.

OK it just confused me. Thought OP was referring to their partner and another person then.

This_Year

Londontomx wrote: »

When we do occasionally go out. The iPad or iPhone will be on during the car ride or taxi journey there.

Have you asked that it be left behind?

Londontomx

This_Year wrote: »

Have you asked that it be left behind?

Yep! And it's caused an argument which in turn cancelled the night out. If I want to spend any time with them then I have to put up with the technology coming along.

elsien

Half the people on these forums probably spend way too much time on-line. If we've got too high a post count we're probably part of the problem not part of the solution.

My brother is the same - he nearly went cold turkey when he forgot to take his iphone out with him for an hour. For him it's got two purposes a) to hide behind so his wife has to sort out the kids, day to day stuff etc and b) control freakery - he seems to feel the need to be checking his emails etc all the time to look important. If I were his OH I'd have left him years back!
Have you told your partner how it's making you feel, and asked them to turn the blasted thing off for a bit?

Cherry_Bomb

Londontomx wrote: »

I can say things to them regarding whats going on in the news or my day. I'll get a "yes or a no" sometimes. I'll ask them what I said and that's when they say they weren't listening to me.

That would infuriate me :mad:

Do you know what they're doing on the net? I can't think of anything that would take up the majority of your waking hours. Except maybe one of those online games? Are they secretive about it?

Londontomx

Cherry_Bomb wrote: »

That would infuriate me :mad:

Do you know what they're doing on the net? I can't think of anything that would take up the majority of your waking hours. Except maybe one of those online games? Are they secretive about it?

They have been secretive about certain things. Obviously I don't know the full extent of things. I've caught a glimpse if a screen, asked what they were up to and got told a totally different thing.

This_Year

Londontomx wrote: »

Yep! And it's caused an argument which in turn cancelled the night out. If I want to spend any time with them then I have to put up with the technology coming along.

I feel sorry for you. I know I have my i-phone out too often, and gravitate to *here* too often during the day... but I know when to stop and spend time with my partner and DD. RL basically.

Can you pinpoint anything that happened around when this habit became so intrusive?

Londontomx

This_Year wrote: »

I feel sorry for you. I know I have my i-phone out too often, and gravitate to *here* too often during the day... but I know when to stop and spend time with my partner and DD. RL basically.

Can you pinpoint anything that happened around when this habit became so intrusive?

It's gradually got worse over the years. We have been together for 7 years. The pc wasn't a problem at the start like most new relationships. But as time went on and technology came out less time is being spent together.