He loves me but isnt in love with me?

Jox

In an ideal world eh

It's not always roses, there are ups and downs in every relationship, but try to nip the downs in the bud

danlojo

But sometimes the downs have gone too far down

victory

C_Mababejive wrote: »

OP,FWIW i think you should consider this relationship over and done with. As an initial move you should consider moving out and moving on with your life. That will be the true test of what this relationship is worth.

Did you manage to read any of the thread before you didn't take any of the points into consideration , waying it all up before you went straight for this? 7 years done move on

Pee

I think you need to think about what has been good in your relationship. I doubt that you could have made it through seven years without a lot of good times. The seven year itch is well known as a tricky stage. I suppose it's about really deciding, this is it. And either of you might think, I don't want that.
I would start trying to do some things without him, even if it's going for a walk. Would getting a job or training mess up benefits? And then make an effort to do stuff he enjoys with him, so that it is quality time, and see how you both feel.

Pee

The butterflies, we've been together seven years and yes, I still get them, but not all the time, there have been periods of time when I haven't.

Marisco

PinkPink wrote: »

We both dont work (i was ill for quiet sometime but i am getting better now) so we are always together but this isnt quality time, but whenever i suggest doing something he doesnt want to (has always been like this tho)
The problems we were having started small but gradually built up into something big (no cheating or things like that just problems with me)
Our relationship hasnt changed we are still intimate etc but he is not one for showing me love or anything like that (but has always been like that)

Maybe this is the problem! Can neither of you find work, or failing that do some voluntary work, just to get you out of the house and each others pockets? When oh and I retired, (we both had our own interests prior to retiring) and continued to pursue them now, I can think of nothing worse than being joined at the hip, no matter how much I love him!!

meer53

I'm another one who thinks the OP should move on. If only to have the space to see how she really feels.

In my experience, the phrase "i still love you, i'm just not in love with you" is a cowards way of saying "i want out of this relationship, but i don't have the guts to say it"