Some pensioners will be affected by the 'bedroom tax'

Own_My_Own

SandraScarlett wrote: »

My DH has Alzheimers, and if I'm asked about the symptons, by a neighbour or acquiaintance, the first thing I describe is his memory, or lack of it. I have to forcibly restrain myself from throttling the number of people who then reply "Oh, join the club. My memory's awful. I go into another room and forget why I've gone there. I'm the same". No you're bl**dy not! :mad: :mad: :mad:

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I so understand this. My son has ASD. I used to make me so mad when I would say something like,' He doesn't like talking to people', and they would say, 'Oh that's just being a teenager, no teenagers like talking to adults.' :mad:

Nada666

SandraScarlett wrote: »

For example, how can it be morally right for a home that houses a disabled person, with equipment, be it an adult or child, to say that they cannot have their own room, unless it's paid for out of benefits/earnings/savings?

But how few of those who are disabled enough for the space to be a requirement do not qualify for any additional funds in the first place?

joanne79

SandraScarlett wrote: »

Hi Joanne . It takes a lot of guts to post on these boards that you were mistaken/wrong/didn't understand something, so hats off to you, or as my grandchildren say "Respect, Man"!

I think it does us all good to have a moan every so often, and, because we can't see the facial reaction of people we are "talking to", and they can't hear the sort of tone we're using when we post, it's easy for things to be misunderstood.

My DH has Alzheimers, and if I'm asked about the symptons, by a neighbour or acquaintance, the first thing I describe is his memory, or lack of it. I have to forcibly restrain myself from throttling the number of people who then reply "Oh, join the club. My memory's awful. I go into another room and forget why I've gone there. I'm the same". No you're bl**dy not! :mad: :mad: :mad:

We are all individuals, and therefore no 2 people have identical problems. When I first started reading the posts about having to pay for a "spare" social housing room, I found myself agreeing with the posters who were unsympathetic. But every case is different.

For example, how can it be morally right for a home that houses a disabled person, with equipment, be it an adult or child, to say that they cannot have their own room, unless it's paid for out of benefits/earnings/savings?

Thank God I live in a 2 bed bungalow, because there is no way I could sleep in the same room as my DH, but not everyone can budget their money affectively, and if they're in social housing, they may need help, from the excellent boards on this site, to find a way to replace their loss of HB.

I wish you all the luck in the world Joanne, and I hope you let us know how you get on. Good Luck!

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Hi Sandrascarlett ....Thank you so much for you nice reply :-) it was lovely to find waiting for me. I can imagine that does make you mad...forgetting something you went into a room for doesn't even compare does it...you must both have tough times. I'm the first to admit I'm awful with money...well if I wasn't then my life would have been very different now.i went in today hoping to have a chat about increasing hours...but my manager is on holiday grrrrr lol typical. I've certainly had a few rocky years....I should have perhaps sought councilling after I lost my mum...but my daughter came 2 months later,so just plodded along,but I can see now why it made some people grumpy I complained. Thank you again :-) I will keep in touch Joanne x

SandraScarlett

joanne79 wrote: »

Hi Sandrascarlett ....Thank you so much for you nice reply :-) it was lovely to find waiting for me. I can imagine that does make you mad...forgetting something you went into a room for doesn't even compare does it...you must both have tough times. I'm the first to admit I'm awful with money...well if I wasn't then my life would have been very different now.i went in today hoping to have a chat about increasing hours...but my manager is on holiday grrrrr lol typical. I've certainly had a few rocky years....I should have perhaps sought councilling after I lost my mum...but my daughter came 2 months later,so just plodded along,but I can see now why it made some people grumpy I complained. Thank you again :-) I will keep in touch Joanne x

Hi Joanne, I read all your posts, first of all, I must admit, , with some irritation, but when you revealed your Mum's tragic death, followed so closely by you giving birth, I felt so much sadness and sympathy for you.

Show me a person who wouldn't be affected by those 2 massive events - and I'll show you a liar. I used to teach Business Studies, and, although it wasn't part of the curriculum, I used to incorporate budgets, and costs of choices, and you'd be amazed how many intelligent, bright youngsters had never thought that you had to pay for electricity!! In fact I've had a modest imput with Martin on his drive for Financial Education to be a compulsory part of the curriculum.

OK, you've admitted that you're not good with money, but, it doesn't always have to be like that. It's hard if you've never done it before, like learning a new language, but small changes make a huge difference.

Each change is like laying a brick, and eventually, you'll have enough to build a nice big wall. Perhaps you don't normally make a shopping list, and just grab what you fancy? Changing that habit would be a great start, or switching to own brand foods instead of labelled ones.

As you've got some time on your hands, you might want to try more home cooking - at least you'd know what's going into everyones tummies, instead of the possibility of giving them Donkey Burgers! :eek: Good luck, and remember, one little brick on its own is nothing, but that's how the Great Wall of China began. :j

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joanne79

SandraScarlett wrote: »

Hi Joanne, I read all your posts, first of all, I must admit, , with some irritation, but when you revealed your Mum's tragic death, followed so closely by you giving birth, I felt so much sadness and sympathy for you.

Show me a person who wouldn't be affected by those 2 massive events - and I'll show you a liar. I used to teach Business Studies, and, although it wasn't part of the curriculum, I used to incorporate budgets, and costs of choices, and you'd be amazed how many intelligent, bright youngsters had never thought that you had to pay for electricity!! In fact I've had a modest imput with Martin on his drive for Financial Education to be a compulsory part of the curriculum.

OK, you've admitted that you're not good with money, but, it doesn't always have to be like that. It's hard if you've never done it before, like learning a new language, but small changes make a huge difference.

Each change is like laying a brick, and eventually, you'll have enough to build a nice big wall. Perhaps you don't normally make a shopping list, and just grab what you fancy? Changing that habit would be a great start, or switching to own brand foods instead of labelled ones.

As you've got some time on your hands, you might want to try more home cooking - at least you'd know what's going into everyones tummies, instead of the possibility of giving them Donkey Burgers! :eek: Good luck, and remember, one little brick on its own is nothing, but that's how the Great Wall of China began. :j

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:rotfl: donkey burgers That made me laugh. It wasn't my intention to look for sympathy....only to try and explain how I got this point, as i know many other people have gone through tough times,and it's not really an excuse...but did affect me obviously which is what I was trying to explain, but thank you again. It's nice to get supportive messages on here....rather than getting told off lol. I am looking on old style now,and money saver thread. I do buy a lot of own brands, as don't see why I should pay a lot more for what is essentially the same thing. I do thik though I could do some work on my shopping budget.i always get the 4 for £12 meat offer and try and do different things with this in the week, but rarely give my children package food...unless they fancy a chicken nugget (at least I hope that's what it is ) haha. Thank you once again....what a lovely lady