Trying for a Baby Part 9

teaandcakeordeath

Welcome angelmommy. I know what you mean about all consuming jealousy- to be honest I'm probably a lot worse as I've never been pregnant and am jealous of anyone who has- sadly even if the pregnancy hasn't been successful. I think if it happened to me, as utterly horrendous and devastating as it must be, at this stage in my life I'd be reassured that it could happen again.... As it stands I feel barren and a complete failure!

I'm sorry if this offends anyone!

teaandcakeordeath

TL and Code. If we ever manage to have a baby as it stands on both sides it would be the first. I'm terrified that mine or OH's siblings might take that away from us... CD1 can't come quickly enough- waiting for it does my psyche no good!

Angelmommy

Thank you TeaCake. I'm sure your time will come - seeing so many BFP on here proves miracles do happen. Makes me feel a little brighter when others on here have had bfps.

loulou123

teaandcakeordeath wrote: »

Welcome angelmommy. I know what you mean about all consuming jealousy- to be honest I'm probably a lot worse as I've never been pregnant and am jealous of anyone who has- sadly even if the pregnancy hasn't been successful. I think if it happened to me, as utterly horrendous and devastating as it must be, at this stage in my life I'd be reassured that it could happen again.... As it stands I feel barren and a complete failure!

I'm sorry if this offends anyone!

I feel the same, even though I hate to admit it, as never having even just seen a positive test makes me feel this is impossible for us.

I don't wish to offend anyone either, as I have had friends miscarry and my SIL lost her last baby fairly late on, so I do understand the enormous pain it causes.

Me and hubby have actually found ourselves saying "if" we have a baby again now, for a long time it was "when"

Anyway I'm celebrating my new nieces appearance into the world by getting drunk as I haven't ovalated yet this cycle!

claire16c

loulou123 wrote: »

Hi everyone, haven't read back far as on my phone, but hope everyone's ok - not been on for a while...

Hubby has decided he wants to get his SA done privately - god knows why, as we can't really afford it, maybe he thinks you get "special" treatment privately, but to be honest I'm just glad he's actually going to get it done. Just need to work out how to actually book him an appointment with a place!

I'm now an auntie for the 3rd time, as hubbys brother and wife has literally just had their baby (within last 1/2 hour!) I'm over the moon for them, but feel bad for myself as we were ttc when they announced their pregnancy and now they have an actual baby and we are still ttc!

I know what you mean I know people who started ttc after me & now have babies.

Can you not persuade your OH that it doesn't make sense to spend money on something you could get for free- well at least get something back from all the tax we pay! Plus if you ever needed (hopefully not) to pay for any private treatment wouldn't he rather keep it back for that? I'd want to get to the bottom of why he wants to do that incase he's like imagining something that's not true?

KScarlet

Hi AngelMommy sorry to hear such sad news xxx wishing you lots of luck for the future xxx

I feel very fortunate that I was lucky enough to have my son 2 years ago and I know the year we tried to conceive him for was so frustrating, everyone seemed to be pregnant and I think you just assume that the first time you try to conceive you are going to but unfortuntely for some that doesn't happen I had hoped the second time around it would happen easily, I never went on the pill just used c'doms as protection after my son was born. I cant test until 27th (if not later) and I am finding the 2ww really frustrating!

skintchick

loulou123 wrote: »

I feel the same, even though I hate to admit it, as never having even just seen a positive test makes me feel this is impossible for us.

I don't wish to offend anyone either, as I have had friends miscarry and my SIL lost her last baby fairly late on, so I do understand the enormous pain it causes.

I totally understand this. Hard as my five miscarriages have been, and it has been very hard, I am glad that I know that I am able to conceive, and indeed to carry to term and have a healthy child.

I cannot imagine how hard it must be to never even get a positive test.

Conceiving is at least one step on the journey.

I certainly am not offended by it.

time2deal

Hi all,

TCD: Italy is wonderful. My sister was looking for ideas, and found a good cheap Italian cooking course in Bologna. Might be something a bit different? It's in Italian, but they say the guides can speak some english. But, it's cooking, I am sure the universal sign language would work!

http://bolognacucina.it/

sjlou: Re Rome:

I agree with Claire re getting tickets in advance. For the Colosseum, you can also just go the the entrace to the Forum (about 50-100m from the Colosseum) and buy the ticket there as you use the same ticket for both places. We have no queue, and then went to the Colosseum. The Vatican tickets are 2 Euros extra online, but well worth it. The galleria borghese is also amazing, but you need to pre-book, and they even give you a time.

If you go into the Forum (which you should, it's great) you should buy one of the silly books that are sold in the area. They look like kids books, and they overlay images of what the Forum would look like in the past with the ruins that are already there. It makes it so much easier to actually get a feel for what ancient Rome was like. We didn't do it, and regretted it.

We discovered this when we went to Pompeii and had the Pompeii version of the book. It really brought the city to life to us undereducated heathens! Pompeii is also fantastic - really like stepping back in time. It's just near Naples, and you can do it in a day.

We also loved Sorreto - best place of the trip. Gorgeous little town, nice hotels and amazing views. And you can do Pompeii in an easy day trip.

Enough of that! I could go on for a while as you can see.

MrsH: We (the cancer team and I are now a 'we') are doing what we can to avoid Chemo/Rad due to the 'devastating' impact on fertility. So the current plan is only surgical. However, the overall guidance to consider my health is right. I'm already doing too much after the first operation, and forgetting I need to be careful. It's just frustrating...

But, I'm pleased with myself to be planning again! The last few months I just didn't want to talk about long term plans, but it feels like we are getting there finally. Which probably means I am heading for a fall. I shouldn't get complacent

loulou:

I think I talked Becca into a private SA the other day! I've heard of the NHS messing it up so often on this forum.

My DH did it both privately and on the NHS. He came back from the private one and said 'I just paid £100 for a **nk, for that you'd expect some personal assistance!'

I think the private experience is slightly nicer, in the NHS he said he could still hear the waiting room, and it's hard to 'ahem' perform to the sound of 'Homes under the hammer'. But mainly, the NHS made a mess of it, and we nearly thought his count was zero. Private took 3 days from picking up the phone to book to getting the results. It was money well spent in my opinion after 5 weeks of NHS messing about.

TeamLowe: Can't offer anything other than hugs.

AFM - I'm just waiting now for the next operation. I got the all clear on the Lymph nodes (not sure I said there here) so it hasn't spread. So a surgical solution is possible, which gives me the chance of a high risk pregnancy in the future. It's better than the alternatives! Still maybe Chemo when they review the actual tumor they remove, but so far so good.

I'm feeling fine - until I overdo it. I had a great day today with my friends absolutely lovely 3 year old who I adore, but I pushed her on the heavy metal roundabout, and I think I have damaged my stitches. Things that had stopped hurting are hurting again. So stupid! So back to moving gently and being more careful for a couple of days.

time2deal

Yikes - epic post. I really should have more to do at midnight on a Saturday!

bigzippy

Becca when you do the list, I'll be sticking a pin in it and calling sunday cd3. Got killer cramps for my troubles too, to the point of combining a few prescription painkillers together along with hot water bottle and still being in pain despite being a bit off my face! :shocked: Bloody endometriosis

Teacake/loulou, I often feel the same I'd just like to know if it's possible, ever. Or if I'm just wasting my time and emotional strength, as I fear I am.:(

:wave: to everyone