Go it alone or am I being stupid?

make_me_wise

notanewuser wrote: »

At 13 I was passing myself off as 16.

The boys I snogged/dated at that age (between 16 and 20) had bo idea I was 13. So were any of them pedophiles?

Thank your lucky stars none of them were. Many girls have done just as you did and very quickly found themselves out of their depth in situations they could not handle.

notanewuser

make_me_wise wrote: »

Thank your lucky stars none of them were. Many girls have done just as you did and very quickly found themselves out of their depth in situations they could not handle.

I've always been a very good judge of character.

Person_one

notanewuser wrote: »

I've always been a very good judge of character.

Oh dear.

Please just stop now.

notanewuser

Person_one wrote: »

Oh dear.

Please just stop now.

What now?!!!

Errata

OP you've clearly made some wrong choices in your life - getting involved with a druggie, leaving home at 14 to shack up with a druggie, cutting your parents out of your life, having not one but three children with a druggie. But ......... none of that can be changed now, it's water under the bridge.
Your OH loves his drugs more than he loves his children, or you. That's the reality and you can change that if you want to. Don't allow him to trash your childrens lives, but if you don't act then you have to share the blame for your childrens lives being trashed.
Throw him out and get help with benefits you're entitled to and help with arranging payment for the money you own people. Or pack a bin liner and turn up at your local Womens Refuge.
It's your choice, and only you can make that choice

Want-To-Fit-In

Sorry I didn't mean to cause a debate

Thank you again for all your replies x

abailey54

Hi OP

You shouldn't be sorry, you didn't cause the debate

I know people who are addicted to weed and how hard it can be for them to give up, but to not make any effort whatsover is not fair. It's very disrespectful of you, knowing how much it upsets you and not making any effort.

If you feel you want to leave, please don't stay because you think you can't do it on your own. You can

I think you ought to find your Mum though. I didn't get on with mine when I was 14 either, dynamics change though. You may not get on with her now either, but you only have one Mum, it's worth a try

marisco_2

notanewuser wrote: »

I've always been a very good judge of character.

I am not having a dig at you here at all. However this is an open forum that anyone can read. This is a very sensitive thread based around someone who at 14 got involved with a much older cannabis addict. Subsequently her life has got harder and harder and she is now in a very difficult position.

You may very well be a good judge of character. Do you really think though, when you were just 13, that if you had innocently got involved with a !!!!!phile they wouldn't have had the ability to charm and manipulate you. A much older man with that kind of intent could have said and done all you would have wanted to see and hear and got you way out of your depth in very little time.

I am very glad nothing untoward happened to you, the alternative doesn't bare thinking about. Just in case there are young women reading this thread though, thinking you are a good judge of character at such a tender age, would not protect you from a !!!!!phile.