Son quit job

suze200

ILW wrote: »

I take it he has a phone etc, who is paying for it?

PAYG, he pays. Phone was a gift.

princessdon

Would he return to college in IT. Example many level 2 and 3 courses have animation, app design and game design in modules.

You can even do degrees in the speciality.

What about the princes trust to tide him over and maybe make him grow up a bit?

trolleyrun

suze200 wrote: »

trolleyrun wrote: »

Change the password for the internet. Every day if you have to. QUOTE]

How do you do that?

Erm, I don't know how to do it, sorry. I just know it can be done. Maybe ask on the techie part of the forum? I know quite a few people who do this regularly to make sure their kids do their chores.

And I love "The world's strictest parents"! I'm living in hope that there will be more episodes.

I don't know if this is possible, but could you take your son to Shelter or similar to show him what not working can do to people? Just a thought

spacey2012

Is he smoking something with mates.
Sounds like pattern behaviour for Cannabis use.

Blackpool_Saver

Seriously, how about getting a tent in the back garden as a sort of practice ready for the traveling, tell him he can have nothing from the house and live off the land, help him learn how to sow seeds etc, build a fire, all that BUT no electric cable from the house

Treevo

suze200 wrote: »

How do you do that?

I think it depends on your router and provider. Easiest sure fire way to do it would be to unplug the router completely and hide it/take it with you.

If I were you he'd have his keys taken off him, and kicked out when you go to work and let back in when you get home.

He's an adult and he's a waster.

Blackpool_Saver

Treevo wrote: »

He's an adult and he's a waster.

That is WAY over the top, we don't know the background/circumstances or anything. Many young lads don't get as far as this one has by 19

Joons

Treevo wrote: »

I think it depends on your router and provider. Easiest sure fire way to do it would be to unplug the router completely and hide it/take it with you.

If I were you he'd have his keys taken off him, and kicked out when you go to work and let back in when you get home.

He's an adult and he's a waster.

Do you have kids? If so, is this how you would treat them? He may be an `adult` but he's not a waster - he's a 19 year old who knows mum and dad will cover his back, that doesn't make him a waster, just a normal teenager.

princeofpounds

In a strange kind of way, I think doing something similar to what he is suggesting could be the making of him.

People talk about the 'real world' of work and jobs. But we sometimes forget the real world is actually about mud, rain, hunting, gathering, mining and farming etc. Or at least it was until we built our modern cocoons.

It sounds to me like he is theoretically very keen on having freedom, which everyone is interpreting as a lack of responsibility. It's a very fine line, but anyone who experiences real, almost isolational, freedom quickly realises that to sustain it requires a huge amount of self-reliance, a massive responsibility to one's self.

Getting him to experience such things could wean him off his computer, give him a sense of standing on his own feet, get him out of your house without actually chucking him out, and perhaps at a certain point he will decide on a direction for himself.

Basically, it might force him to grow up and become a man.

So my suggestion is to find something more structured than the travelling life. Time on a croft or a smallholding perhaps. Or an expedition. Get him out there and then don't let him come back until he is on his feet.

With any luck, he might actually buy into this and it stops you being a nag.

suze200

Blackpool_Saver wrote: »

That is WAY over the top, we don't know the background/circumstances or anything. Many young lads don't get as far as this one has by 19

Thank you Blackpool Saver. The bank doesn't employ idiots. He got his job after a full day assessment with apptitude tests, group activitities, making a presentation and one to one interview. 200 applicants were interviewed, in groups of 40 per day over 5 days. Out of the 200, 20 were taken on.